Have you ever had an obsession or has anyone ever had an obsession over you?

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Skinhead-1979 · Accepted Answer

Someone over me

I had started my 2nd year Chef's Apprenticeship at a hotel; on my 2nd time a Female Chef was going to leave. I was there when she left, wished her all the best and all, and that was it.

I started to receive text messages from her; and roses sent to my flat. She called me too, but when I picked up I heard nothing. That went on for quite some time. I tried to phone her parents to make her stop, but I never managed to get through to them.

I had told all this to my neighbour, and he said "Give me her phone number, I will make her stop". I assumed he was going to prank her.

Weeks later I got a letter from the police telling me I had to appear on the Police station for an interview. No real reason being given other than that the female was involved. I told my neighbour, and he requested me not to say anything about him.

I went to the police station and got interrogated. The police officer did not go into detail. Just that something had happened to the female, and who were involved. I had no idea what could have happened and said only I was involved; no one else. All of a sudden the tone of voice and demeaner of the police officer changed and he said "How is threatened her!"

The penny dropped... I was going to get charged for something I did not do; so I have my neighbour's name. The Police Officer said that he knew it couldn't have been me because I have a different accent than the neighbour... Naturally I was fuming because I didn't know he had threatened her. The police officer also told me that the neighbour had been called to the police station already before me and he had give the police my name.

The Police had all the information they needed, and let me go. I went home, and gave the neighbour an earful; never spoke to him again.

A letter from the court arrives; the neighbour and I had been given the opportunity to settle the case out of court. We would each have to pay €400; he paid it, in person... I refused to pay. I felt I was not responsible and let the case go to court.
I had a good pro-bono lawyer... and he successfully managed to put the female down as a 'nutter' and obsessed (she compared me to a box of chocolate: "When I start eating a box of Chocolate, I just can't stop and have to continue"... that's what she has said!).

In the end I did have to pay a fine, but only of €100.

Back then, as mentioned, I didn't feel responsible... but now that I am older I have to admit that I was responsible; I provided 'Means & Motive', would I not have told my neighbour about and not have given him her phone number - She would not have been threatened.

Chazmatazz269 · Accepted Answer

I’ve had two female stalkers. It’s a big part of what motivated my interest in gender equality. There’s literally NOTHING for male victims in the society we’ve created, save MORE victimization.

midnightmoon05 · Accepted Answer

I don’t know at what level of obsession is consider obsess…

i remember I used to hang out with different groups of friends… one day… someone from the group said “………” is having a house warming … cool… I’ll go.
I have gone out with him like once or twice… but I never saw it as a date since I go out with my other guys friends alone all the time… the rumor had it that he was 28, an only son and moved out the first time for me. I was still clueless why he would do such thing… one day he call me elusive. I was still clueless because I was like 22 and in college and having fun going out with my friends. So that was that. Was he being obsessed? Don’t know.

12karen · Accepted Answer

Yes, I know people who were obsessed with me, a guy who loved me, he even kept my hair
A girl who every time saw me, screamed and jumped around, but she didn't approach me, once I said hello to her, she waved then she ran away 😭 and I spoke to her later, she told me that she loved me too much, I didn't even know her
and another girl who was so clingy, we weren't even friends, I just told her my name because she asked me and since then she stuck me everywhere...

And I was obsessed with a guy...

luvstoned4him · Answer

It's been both ways  When I love I really do love hard and I might have had a couple obsessions here or there  Right now I'm trying to practice healthy detachment and control my emotions and feelings.

beebella · Answer

Yeah, it was fucking sad. I just totally lost myself over someone who didn't even want me. Not my finest years, that's for sure. 🙄

MemeSupreme · Answer

yeah, it's fucking creepy, weird, and VERY frustrating to experience someone not leaving you alone it's a 0/10 experience for me

StudyingAuthor · Answer

Yes... My best friend that spread rumors that I was homophobic. The most depressing years of my life.

Miah04 · Answer

I had 3 people who had an a obsession over me.  I won't go into details because it kinda got dark

Agape93 · Answer

More like fixations on my end but one person was, I shut that down real fucking quick

Staximus · Answer

I've had a girl kind of stalking me for 27 years. I guess nobody ever gave her the tongue like that ever again.

Juxtapose · Answer

Yes and it sucks both ways. You can't trust people THAT much.

jack1924 · Answer

I didn’t have an obsession, but I had two or more stalkers lol

LiamJHayden · Answer

I had someone who sent me flowers every week day for a month. I ended up going out a few times with the girl who was delivering the flowers.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Both. I'd like to think of it as infatuation though, obsession has a icky connotation to it

electromagnetic · Answer

The weeknd for MONTHS!

NathanDavis · Answer

I've had fixations, but not obsessions...

Anonymous · Answer

My second girlfriend kinda did

Phoenix98 · Answer

Not to my knowledge.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve been obsessed over so many guys, ughhhhhhhh

Jennz6 · Answer

A lot of guys have been obsessed with me

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. To both questions.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yes, stalkers are scary.

avery58 · Answer

Yes to both

RedInnocent69 · Answer

Yeah, it happens. A few times actually.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Both.

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