Have you ever been obsessed with someone?

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So I think I’m literally obsessed with this one guy I knew 3 years ago. He was my manager. I had the biggest crush on him from the start. I was 21 when I met him and I worked along side him for 2 years. I worked with him from the moment C—Vid started and ended in 2021. He left and quit Early 2021. I was 23 when he quit. I never saw him again.  I had the most unbelievable Crush on him, those 3 years that I knew him. I believe maybe he liked me back during all that time. But of course he was an F-Boy. So I don’t know if he liked me “ romantically ”. All the girls gave it to him. So maybe he just saw me as “ another one ”. When he left. I became so depressed. It felt as if though the world ended. It felt like he passed and I mourned his death. There’s nothing to look forward to. There’s no other guy that impressed me like him. There’s nothing and no one else. I’ve been like this for these 3 years. But I’m obsessed with the IDEA of him since I didn’t personally know him. I never spoke to him or anything. I never had the guts to speak with him. Or ever confess my feelings. So no we didn’t even F-K. I’ve come to realize that I’m obsessed with him. I still look at his social media to see if he’s still single, I regularly check on him. I don’t know what to do. I seriously have no idea. I don’t know how else to get over him. Nothing in my life matters. Nothing to me matters anymore. I seriously feel like that one girl HELGA from HeyArnold. And trust me, I’ve tried to erase him from my entire brain. Time after time after time. Everything still reminds me of him. I sleep with other guys, and he’s still there.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yessss I've literally been in the same situation as you! Except 4-5 years in my case n we were drifted after 1-2 years only.. He's been stuck for everyday since then. I think my relationship with God helped me in my case, as I grew up religious. So that was smth very strong conditioned into me.
But before that, I had other ways. I used to find logical reasons to hate him. Like his new girlfriend, his narcissistic personality etc etc. I mean ofc you're not losing the 'obsession' through that but at least the rose-coloured glasses will come off.. So yes 'hating' him deliberately will help in some way.. (then after this, I went for the religious one)
Remove all the souvenirs of the lovey-dovey signs he showed you n keep all of those that go against him, so that they help you move on.

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

Yes I get obsessive easily over guys I really really like because it's hard for me to like people so when I do it hits me hard. The first guy I was really obsessed over was my neighbor. We had a sexual relationship and he was a fuckboy so of course it ended badly.

I lost my virginity to him so I think it made the obsession worse. It was a lot like how you described your obsession. Once he was gone, I was deeply depressed for years. It took me a long time to get over him.

Then the second guy was my now boyfriend. It wasn't nearly as strong as the first guy
but I was obsessive over him before we got together and when we were just fuckbuddies. I wanted him to be with me so bad. And luckily he came around and asked me out.

Finchie40 · Answer

Yes when I was younger , I was obsessed with an girl that I had the biggest crush on , she was older than me but her age didn’t bother me , I would flirt with her every time I saw her and knew I wanted her , she was friends with my older brother’s wife , that’s how I met her , I would tell my brother and sister in law to let her know I am interested , she was flattered but I was only 18 and she was 27 at the time , she eventually caved in and we ended up having sex and started dating , but she was embarrassed to be with a younger guy , but she really liked me and we ended up having a lot of fun together , until the day she brought her brother over to hang out with me , Her brother and I were cool with each other , she told me not to let her brother drink alcohol cuz he gets out of control , well I didn’t listen to what she said cuz I was drinking beer already , I ended up letting him drink with me while she went to work , he ended up getting drunk which I told him not to do cuz his sister is going to flip out on me but he did it anyways and we had fun hanging out when she came over after work she was so pissed off at me that I didn’t listen to her , so she ended up throwing a brick through my parent’s window and that was the last I ever heard from her for years she wouldn’t answer my phone calls so I pretty much knew it was over , she did reach out to me not so long ago , she is now married living in California with her husband and children. We reminisced and made up and kept it at that. So it happens , when we meet someone that gives us those butterfly feelings , it’s best to go for it , cuz getting those butterfly feelings don’t come often. I had a few more through the years and I just went for it. So if you want your old boss , Go for it , what do you have to lose

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah I but I don't call it obsession, it's a crush, a normal infatuation. I fantasize and think about them a lot when I get infatuated. The trick is to keep the fantasizes that could easily turn into expectations and disappointment under check, because in reality you are not obsessing over a person, but over how their personality and skills make you feel. You are yearning for that feeling but you can't find it because you are stuck in the past. You think that feeling only goes with that person, which is not true. Now you found out what turns you on, go find men with those qualitties. My first big crush like that was my boss for 3 years. Not sure if he was a fboy but he did flirt with me. Anyway, after I quit, it took me few years again to get infatuated again like that, this time was with someone who had a girlfriend. It was more on an emotional level because we were close friends, but big ass crush nontheless. And then it happened again when I moved abroad, I started a casual relationship with this mexican guy, he was so damn hot and passionate and the sex was like nothing I've ever experienced before. But he was a fboy through and through, he didn't want a relationship. Like ever, he is 51 now still a fboy. I realized all of them were following the pattern of the unatainable guy, but they did teach me what I want; an ambitios, hard-working (first guy), emotionally available (second guy) who fucks good (third guy)? Take every encounter as learning something new, especially about yourself. by the way I still have a crush on all of them, lol.

Anonymous · Answer

I think everybody felt this way about at least 1-2 people in their lifetimes.

But it’s a bit sad you has a crazy crush on a well known fboy. I get it he was probably really good looking along with a personality to match it.

But your story was stereotypical and cliche. It would be more interesting if you felt this about someone who was much more mysterious (and unknown to you if he was fboy or not.). Sure he could of been physically attractive. But the fact you knew other girls wanted to fuck him or have fucked him just made this so stereotypical.

sheenagwapa · Answer

no i don't think i'm obsessed with someone. i love hard but i think i can move on easily especially if the perskn doesn't love me anymore like my ex to my mind what's the use of beinh in a relationship when yoy don't love me anymore. romantic relationship is about romantic love. i would think though my shortcomings like maybe i'm beinh too bitchy at timed or maybe he just doesn't live me that much that's why i feel neglected and so eventually he left me. i think the idea of loving yourself is reallu a good approach in life. to this i mean makinh the person your world and like ignoring everyone because he doesn't like yoy talking to other males even if it's nothing is a terrible idea.

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah you were just one of many to him. At least your common sense is working well enough to know that. Your feelings grabbed ahold of you and CREATED the rest in your head. It's not the worst thing in the world. You fantasized but didn't get hurt it was just unrequited, and was probably just as well. Because you'll always have that fond memory of what might have been rather then the probability of what would have been had you explored it. You might carry this with you always, and that's not a bad thing as long as you keep it in perspective and don't live for it. It's nice to visit a fantasy, but you need to LIVE in the real world.

Anonymous · Answer

there's this guy I really like now but we're long distance and i used to check when was he online or not and reread the chats between us but unfortunately he's gay so he wasn't interested we were just friends but he's special I don't know why his personality and the way he talks , I've talked with a lot of guys but he's special and i never felt this way with another guy but i decided to block him 2 days ago bc it was too much for me and we said goodbye (he didn't know why i had to block him or that i was into him)

DizzyDesii · Answer

I would prefer not to call it obsessed lmao. But i would say I was definitely a Helga when it came to a childhood crush

DerekC321 · Answer

Yes, I had the craziest fantasies over the girl I was into.

Anonymous · Answer

Well you didn't change the way you type at all, what so ever so it's very easy to know who this is lol and u ask this question a lot surprised you didn't use the word "Chad"

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, as a teenager, my crush became my special interest. I never stalked him but back then I didn’t know I had Asperger’s syndrome. I learnt that it’s creepy to be obsessive about people, so I gave it up. I never think about the guy either.

SolitarySolace · Answer

Once. Apparently people don't like it when you're obsessed with them. 🤷🏻‍♂️

Anemone978 · Answer

Yes and whatever we had ended badly.. still trying to get over it even now..

Anonymous · Answer

One girl had the audacity to tell everyone I was obsessed with her. Turns out she was obsessed with me... she stalked me. She was super cute though so I didn't mind.

ariadneR · Answer

I'm currently obsessed with my partner. He loves it though

Staximus · Answer

How can you be obsessed with somebody you don't even know?

Sabretooth · Answer

Yeah... It's nearly destroyed me... Live, itself has tried to destroy me from day one as still does to this day.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

Everyone gets crushes

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

I have been for years

Anonymous · Answer

Yep, a girl from high school

Anonymous · Answer

Yes and it got me nowhere, so I gave up.

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