Have you ever been obsessed with a guy or girl before?

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aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

I would say I was pretty infatuated at the least. It happened about 2 or 3 times with crushes I had. I thought about them almost all the time. It was mostly when I was pretty young, still in high school and shortly after I graduated. I haven't felt anything remotely like that in a long time and I don't really have much interest in anyone anymore.

The first two were sweet guys and it's no wonder I liked them, but I was way too intimidated by the first (it was my first crush and I had no idea how to take it) and he was very shy, so of course nothing went anywhere. The second wasn't into me, but was really nice about it and I still appreciate that to this day. The third one, however, I had completely idealized in my head and he was one of those guys who was super sweet at first, but turned into a real jerk once he got comfortable around you. It turned out I never really knew him at all. We talked on a friendly basis nearly every day and he started becoming a real asshole and insulting me for no reason, saying things to try to make me look stupid in front of other people, etc. He got really hot and cold and would be nice to me one day, and then either pretend I didn't exist or act like an ass to me the next. Since my confidence was so low at the time, I tolerated this shit for way longer than I should have because I think I thought I deserved it, and was used to being made fun of by others in school. He started acting like he was way better than me and would purposefully try to hurt me, and I finally just said to hell with him. It pretty much sucked though, finding that the idealized version of someone in your head that seemed so perfect at first didn't actually exist. Now, I'm just like, meh, and I'm so glad nothing happened between us because it turns out he's a pathetic loser and a joke to this very day.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Hmm, yeah. Typically a crush I was interested in. So I'd spend as much time with him, or getting to know him as I could!

... it never worked out though 😑

The moral I learned from obsessing over guys? DON'T. It's not healthy to obsess over anything, especially another person.

Blueeyes81 · Accepted Answer

Once. She was my best friend. After several years of friendship my feelings for her started to grow and grow and grow. It was hands down the most painful experience of my life. I felt like I was between a rock and a hard place. End the friendship and get her off my mind (she was literally on my mind every waking second) or stay friends and continue to suffer. I had told her how I felt when I first got feelings for her and she started sobbing. Told me she didn't feel the same but was scared that our friendship would end now. I promised her it wouldn't. 4 years later she told me to ask her out again sometime in the future if we were both single at the time. I did just that when the time arose. She said yes and the day before our date she backed out and told me she didn't want to lead me on. I cut ties and gradually I thought of her less and less and eventually it no longer hurt. I had never felt that strongly for someone before or since and looking back I regret not walking away after she initially rejected me.

I-am-a-nobody · Accepted Answer

Oh my! It was 40 years ago. And she wasn't even that pretty, smart, kind or anything...

To be honest if you're 'obsessed", you're really obsessed with yourself. People pour too much into getting the love or approval of another person.
I don't want to get "preachy" but...
Knowing the love and approval of God through Jesus Christ is so much better and it doesn't change if you have a zit today. (ha ha)
If people understood this, they wouldn't have these insecurities.

Sonorous · Answer

Yes, so much that I had to block her to get my mind off of her. I never want to go through that again. It will definitely be harder now since I don't view women as perfect angels that can do no wrong now. 😂

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I had obsessions in my teens and mid to late twenties - now I don't have obsessions anymore but I still like men

pervertedjester · Answer

Nope I've only recently become human. Near as I can tell at least.

Kurαȷ · Answer

Well, what counts as obsessed?
I have obsessive personality disorder, so everything I do or like comes across as obsessive to others (perfectly justified to me, because crazy people don't know they are crazy).

There are no gray areas in my head, I either love or hate things based on how my mind has evaluated them.
I see no point in liking something that I deem less adequate than something else, and by that definition, yes there is a woman who I like that way.

In my eyes, she makes everyone else seem inadequate, and that is unlikely to change until I meet someone else who I will deem more adequate than her.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, with some exes. To be precise, I stalked their social media. I would check what girl they added and who added them, then would check their social media too. Then would constantly check their online status, and pretty much any button that can be clicked on their profile. All. The. Time. It is the worst feeling, very, very unhealthy. I was addicted, I would continue stalking them even after I'm over them (daily routine can easily become a habit). I wish I didn't have access to all that, but fuck it. But no one knows about that, not even my best friends. I always play cool when it comes to breakup and exes, to them, to others. But when I'm alone... it's stalking time! So lame, so pathetic.

Jaximus-Lion · Answer

I am obsessed with my wife and i think she is obsessed with me, many thinks we are kinda freaks , we tell each other (i love you) all the time (i mean it, literally) we have been doing it since 2008 and it drive people crazy, i talk about my wife when am with others and she talks about me when she is with others. I have no idea when will it tones down, am not sure if it's even possible :P

princesssnowflake · Answer

Scientifically, based on the chemical processes of our brain love is obsession. The biggest difference is if that person returns that same obsession. It’s only thought about negatively if that person doesn’t love you back. Regardless, you’re still technically obsessed, whether you think about it that way or not. Anyone who has been in love, has been obsessed with someone.

KingdomForAKiss · Answer

I wouldn't say I was obsessed... but there was this guy that I went out with on several dates. He was very intelligent, had the prettiest blue eyes, and knocked me off of my feet when he kissed me. Amazing kisser. It was always so passionate like it would be the last. John's kiss sets the bar really high.

AlienParasite · Answer

I usually get a bit obsessed during the infatuation phase of love. In general I get a bit addicted to anything when it's new. It happens to me with people, but it also happens with hobbies, comics, shows or videogames. It's not like a crazy obsession that make act creepy. I can hadle it well. It's more like I can't help to occupy my mind thinking about this person I have a crush on, the new game or whatever thing new I'm into.

ManOnFire · Answer

Hell yeah, I've been through that before, more than once. It literally is a kind of suffering of its own. You're so hooked on this person that you know it's unhealthy and killing you yet you can't get off of them - pardon the pun. Sometimes it's so painful you wish that person would block you or cut you off even though you know that would be painful too. It's a terrible mental hold to endure. But I think I can say I've learned how to control my interest in someone now.

DellBell · Answer

I was head over heals with my ex after he cheated on me... I was really anxious because of it... I used to see him saying how pretty other women were also... he used to talk to them now and again... also he would hang out with them the odd time... he only met them... I thought it was strange

Hermes-Paris · Answer

Oooohhh yeah! I still get a bit obsessed now and again. Biggest obsessions were in High School and College. And that woman in our office in Lima. When she would bend over to put paper in the copier not a guy around would be able to talk... Schwing...

These day I'm happily obsessed with my girlfriend. I get nervous like a teenager around her! Schwing!

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, kind a am now...

In my case I keep it to myself...

I don't even know why I like her, we know each other for years, but she moved 150 miles away and LDR rarely work...

Before all that C19 madness she was visiting every few months, but now I haven't seen her since October, probably...

Even in that case I still want to know everything about her...
Even when I find out something that I usually wouldn't be fine with...

Part of my brain tells me no, nothing good will be out of it, but other one takes over and ruins all...

I just wish I met someone else and all that stay in past, as getting together with her is not really possible in next 5 years and she probably will find someone else in that time...

loveslongnails · Answer

I wouldn't say I was obsessed, but I was really crazy about this girl and sent her flowers at work, tried to talk with her, all that stuff. Turned out she had a boyfriend in the military, or so she said. I got over it. I don't even remember her last name anymore! LOL

GraveDoll · Answer

yes. but it wasn't until i realize one day it wasn't them i wanted but the idea i was loving

once i accepted that bitter truth. it like i forgot the person even exist... and return back to normal but even more somber self.

Elsa143 · Answer

Yeah I wanted to marry him if he was my type but he wasn't. Still I had desire for his attention and can't stop fantasizing about him for 1 year. But i stood strong and made my way out of the cave of obsession.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

Had a thing with a guy online, he ended up treating me like crap and I ended up spiralling with mental health issues which are me super obsessive over everything he did

nodnol32 · Answer

Was obsessed with my ex when i was dating her and for about a year after we broke up.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I have. I'm not proud of it though, he turned out to be as asshole and I'm no longer attracted to him because I see him for what he is. But back then I was completely head over heels

Flower7 · Answer

Yes, unfortunately that has happened to me quite a few times before. And even more unfortunately, they never returned the feelings and didn't think the same about me.

David92506 · Answer

As a teenager, and young adult, I've been obsessed with several different women. However, neither were interested in me. I wonder if that's true for most people?

EmbraceThePain · Answer

Obsessed? Mhmm, I don’t remember ever being obsessed with a woman.

ohshee · Answer

Yes I think that is the first puppy live we feel it's the first time we feel someone's energy. And it melts us we don't understand It but we feel it so deep

Mystic_Nova · Answer

Do fictional men count? Because I've never been obsessed in real men lol

mefirst2020 · Answer

This may be more of an outlet than an opinion I was obsessed with a young girl as a Young man as she turned me away I allowed her wishes it was incredibly hard for many years but I finally got past it I think LOL of my 58 years she has contacted me once and I had contacted her twice on a professional level

fadingmind · Answer

No not yet but I think I’m the kind of person who could be

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

Yup its not only about a person but also about anything I am interested in, but I realised people just come and go if they meant to stay they will or back to emptiness 🙄👍

Yads_Is_Back · Answer

Haven't we all? I'm obsessed with Tua Tagovailoa.

Orange_bb · Answer

He was my teacher, married, 10 years older and has a daughter. I thought i felt in love with him for 3 years but i was wrong. It was just an obsession

just_a_potato · Answer

Too many times too count, but I'm sure there's an explanation out there for me like "teens are just sexually frustrated people" lol

TiaraGlitzNeon · Answer

Yes, a few times but I remember one time in particular, and it was hell. Because he didn't feel the same. So it took some time to get over that.

Mehzmeh · Answer

Yup. I was so obsessed with my ex girlfriend. That it changed me. I became jealous, depressed, irrational, obsessed, and weak. She controlled me. And I, allowed. Okay, going to stop there.

korey182 · Answer

unfortunately yes

smb930 · Answer

Every time I have a crush on a girl, she is the only thing on my mind. It's painful at times.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, It's happened in Middle School and in High School

Anonymous · Answer

back when I was a fool for pussy I was a lapdog for a girl for almost 10 years. I have since learned to cut loose anyone who doesn’t see me as good enough to be a partner.

Nik1hil · Answer

2 girls One I met in middle school..  Other I met in college

Gedaria · Answer

Yes , I have a crush on her she is married, an old friend and she gets me so worked up...

Anonymous · Answer

Most embarrassing story. She first said she liked me and then the tables were turned, and the whole campus knew and I became the guy who stalks and harasses her (I wanted to talk about something she had exchanged earlier)

Cryptic-Game · Answer

Yes. I'm obsessed with a few women on this site. They are so sweet.

Ninjazzed · Answer

Won’t happen again until I know they won’t waste my time.

TonyMetal_1986 · Answer

Yes back when i was a teenager, i was obsessed with a celebrity 😄

elisa_0 · Answer

Yeah. Once. The was incredibly attractive it was insane. He could’ve been a supermodel

Johnnyready · Answer

Not I can let go, that is one reason to explain why I watch porn and masturbate

Liam_Hayden · Answer

No. I get interested, ask, and if she says yes we date. If she says no I move on.

Lifedontgivemelemons · Answer

No obsessed but putting in effort to show you like someone but aalways end up a 🤡 Once a clown always a clown🤡

Anonymous · Answer

Yes the neighbor girl. I used to follow her around, used to watch her swimming and getting undressed

OpenNudist · Answer

I cared for and loved my ex wife very but to be perfectly honest I've never been obsessed with any girl.

V12NI · Answer

Never been obsessed by anyone, tbh is sounds creepy

simplelikeme · Answer

I have... and let me tell you it is not healthy LMAO

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah in college. She did the worst possible thing. She showed some interest and then friend zoned

Anonymous · Answer

I always get a little obsessed during the infatuation phase. I think everyone does.

Daniel_Dano · Answer

There was that one girl I truly loved at high school , I can't like any other girl other than her.

Unit1 · Answer

I'm crazy for girls! Girls, girls, girls. GIRLS 😍😍😍 Soft and beautiful women 🥰

Jjpayne · Answer

I've daydreams but not been obessed yet

Asianguy123 · Answer

I was obsessed to cute young white guys when I was young

CHARismatic110 · Answer

Outside of celebrities, nah.

Will23v · Answer

No I don’t let myself get obsessed with something I can't have

Anonymous · Answer

I accidentally stalked my PE teacher in high school

EnglundUberAlles · Answer

I did once but I never will again. In my defence I was ambushed by feelings.

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