Have you ever been obsessed with a guy or girl before?

[AlongCameCindy]

Yes

No

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I would say I was pretty infatuated at the least. It happened about 2 or 3 times with crushes I had. I thought about them almost all the time. It was mostly when I was pretty young, still in high school and shortly after I graduated. I haven't felt anything remotely like that in a long time and I don't really have much interest in anyone anymore.

The first two were sweet guys and it's no wonder I liked them, but I was way too intimidated by the first (it was my first crush and I had no idea how to take it) and he was very shy, so of course nothing went anywhere. The second wasn't into me, but was really nice about it and I still appreciate that to this day. The third one, however, I had completely idealized in my head and he was one of those guys who was super sweet at first, but turned into a real jerk once he got comfortable around you. It turned out I never really knew him at all. We talked on a friendly basis nearly every day and he started becoming a real asshole and insulting me for no reason, saying things to try to make me look stupid in front of other people, etc. He got really hot and cold and would be nice to me one day, and then either pretend I didn't exist or act like an ass to me the next. Since my confidence was so low at the time, I tolerated this shit for way longer than I should have because I think I thought I deserved it, and was used to being made fun of by others in school. He started acting like he was way better than me and would purposefully try to hurt me, and I finally just said to hell with him. It pretty much sucked though, finding that the idealized version of someone in your head that seemed so perfect at first didn't actually exist. Now, I'm just like, meh, and I'm so glad nothing happened between us because it turns out he's a pathetic loser and a joke to this very day.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Hmm, yeah. Typically a crush I was interested in. So I'd spend as much time with him, or getting to know him as I could!

... it never worked out though 😑

The moral I learned from obsessing over guys? DON'T. It's not healthy to obsess over anything, especially another person.

[Blueeyes81]

Once. She was my best friend. After several years of friendship my feelings for her started to grow and grow and grow. It was hands down the most painful experience of my life. I felt like I was between a rock and a hard place. End the friendship and get her off my mind (she was literally on my mind every waking second) or stay friends and continue to suffer. I had told her how I felt when I first got feelings for her and she started sobbing. Told me she didn't feel the same but was scared that our friendship would end now. I promised her it wouldn't. 4 years later she told me to ask her out again sometime in the future if we were both single at the time. I did just that when the time arose. She said yes and the day before our date she backed out and told me she didn't want to lead me on. I cut ties and gradually I thought of her less and less and eventually it no longer hurt. I had never felt that strongly for someone before or since and looking back I regret not walking away after she initially rejected me.

[I-am-a-nobody]

Oh my! It was 40 years ago. And she wasn't even that pretty, smart, kind or anything...

To be honest if you're 'obsessed", you're really obsessed with yourself. People pour too much into getting the love or approval of another person.
I don't want to get "preachy" but...
Knowing the love and approval of God through Jesus Christ is so much better and it doesn't change if you have a zit today. (ha ha)
If people understood this, they wouldn't have these insecurities.

[Sonorous]

Yes, so much that I had to block her to get my mind off of her. I never want to go through that again. It will definitely be harder now since I don't view women as perfect angels that can do no wrong now. 😂

[noobnewb213]

Same in reverse

[jennifer_bloom]

I had obsessions in my teens and mid to late twenties - now I don't have obsessions anymore but I still like men

[pervertedjester]

Nope I've only recently become human. Near as I can tell at least.

[Kurαȷ]

Well, what counts as obsessed?
I have obsessive personality disorder, so everything I do or like comes across as obsessive to others (perfectly justified to me, because crazy people don't know they are crazy).

There are no gray areas in my head, I either love or hate things based on how my mind has evaluated them.
I see no point in liking something that I deem less adequate than something else, and by that definition, yes there is a woman who I like that way.

In my eyes, she makes everyone else seem inadequate, and that is unlikely to change until I meet someone else who I will deem more adequate than her.

[Anonymous]

Yes, with some exes. To be precise, I stalked their social media. I would check what girl they added and who added them, then would check their social media too. Then would constantly check their online status, and pretty much any button that can be clicked on their profile. All. The. Time. It is the worst feeling, very, very unhealthy. I was addicted, I would continue stalking them even after I'm over them (daily routine can easily become a habit). I wish I didn't have access to all that, but fuck it. But no one knows about that, not even my best friends. I always play cool when it comes to breakup and exes, to them, to others. But when I'm alone... it's stalking time! So lame, so pathetic.

[Jaximus-Lion]

I am obsessed with my wife and i think she is obsessed with me, many thinks we are kinda freaks , we tell each other (i love you) all the time (i mean it, literally) we have been doing it since 2008 and it drive people crazy, i talk about my wife when am with others and she talks about me when she is with others. I have no idea when will it tones down, am not sure if it's even possible :P

[Queenista]

Wonderful

[Hermes-Paris]

That's the best reply I have read this month! You are a blessed man!

[Jaximus-Lion]

@Hermes-Paris Thank you.

[princesssnowflake]

Scientifically, based on the chemical processes of our brain love is obsession. The biggest difference is if that person returns that same obsession. It’s only thought about negatively if that person doesn’t love you back. Regardless, you’re still technically obsessed, whether you think about it that way or not. Anyone who has been in love, has been obsessed with someone.

[KingdomForAKiss]

I wouldn't say I was obsessed... but there was this guy that I went out with on several dates. He was very intelligent, had the prettiest blue eyes, and knocked me off of my feet when he kissed me. Amazing kisser. It was always so passionate like it would be the last. John's kiss sets the bar really high.

[AlienParasite]

I usually get a bit obsessed during the infatuation phase of love. In general I get a bit addicted to anything when it's new. It happens to me with people, but it also happens with hobbies, comics, shows or videogames. It's not like a crazy obsession that make act creepy. I can hadle it well. It's more like I can't help to occupy my mind thinking about this person I have a crush on, the new game or whatever thing new I'm into.

[DellBell]

I was head over heals with my ex after he cheated on me... I was really anxious because of it... I used to see him saying how pretty other women were also... he used to talk to them now and again... also he would hang out with them the odd time... he only met them... I thought it was strange

[Alex_988_2]

No offense, but you are a total loser and with no self-respect

[DellBell]

How am I a loser? I do have self respect and in a matter of fact I dumped his ass! Don't go judging others just because you don't understand and aren't walking the same shoes

[DellBell]

With somebody that is great now by the way! I was young and a bit naive... I'm sure you have done some things in the past that wasn't self respect... take a look at yourself before pointing fingers at others

[DellBell]

Also how would you feel If somebody told you that your a total loser and have no self respect? Treat others how you would like to be treated

[Alex_988_2]

I said for You said you fell head over heels 'after' break up, like you dumped him (which you are claiming) and then you yourself got obsessed with him? Like wtf
And I said no offense: wasn't trying to insult. But that's the bitter truth.
And I don't do such things that people could say something and even if, idgaf.
And although you PMed me and said me stuff, I'd still apologize for 'unintentionally' hurting you, being a gentleman.

[Alex_988_2]

And I'm not 20, by the way

[DellBell]

Obviously I meant before why would I be head over heals after that? I realised I said it wrong anyway just because you said no offence doesn't mean that you have a right to say things like that to somebody you don't even know... good to know but don't go calling people a total loser and no self respect when you have fuck all to know what fully went on excuse my language

[DellBell]

How the fuck would something like that not hurt someone? You wouldn't like that shit so why go act like your innocent here?

[Hermes-Paris]

Oooohhh yeah! I still get a bit obsessed now and again. Biggest obsessions were in High School and College. And that woman in our office in Lima. When she would bend over to put paper in the copier not a guy around would be able to talk... Schwing...

These day I'm happily obsessed with my girlfriend. I get nervous like a teenager around her! Schwing!

[Anonymous]

Yes, kind a am now...

In my case I keep it to myself...

I don't even know why I like her, we know each other for years, but she moved 150 miles away and LDR rarely work...

Before all that C19 madness she was visiting every few months, but now I haven't seen her since October, probably...

Even in that case I still want to know everything about her...
Even when I find out something that I usually wouldn't be fine with...

Part of my brain tells me no, nothing good will be out of it, but other one takes over and ruins all...

I just wish I met someone else and all that stay in past, as getting together with her is not really possible in next 5 years and she probably will find someone else in that time...

[ManOnFire]

Hell yeah, I've been through that before, more than once. It literally is a kind of suffering of its own. You're so hooked on this person that you know it's unhealthy and killing you yet you can't get off of them - pardon the pun. Sometimes it's so painful you wish that person would block you or cut you off even though you know that would be painful too. It's a terrible mental hold to endure. But I think I can say I've learned how to control my interest in someone now.

[GraveDoll]

yes. but it wasn't until i realize one day it wasn't them i wanted but the idea i was loving

once i accepted that bitter truth. it like i forgot the person even exist... and return back to normal but even more somber self.

[LEADFOOTboi]

the idea?

[GraveDoll]

@LEADFOOTboi

Our whole life and exists is base on "ideas"

mose so the philosophy, of idealism

it always conflict with reality. they clash but because humans can reason.

it our one major flaw.

we reason away the negative and from a piece of art in our head only to be rudely awaking when realism sets in and it always do.

[LEADFOOTboi]

it's possible... i try not to fall into that pit... but maybe i live in it in ways

[GraveDoll]

@LEADFOOTboi
if it make you feel any better we all do

that why there always so much chaos

so many ideas and so many who will never or just was not meant to be that "idea." reality will always show up.

[Elsa143]

Yeah I wanted to marry him if he was my type but he wasn't. Still I had desire for his attention and can't stop fantasizing about him for 1 year. But i stood strong and made my way out of the cave of obsession.

[loveslongnails]

I wouldn't say I was obsessed, but I was really crazy about this girl and sent her flowers at work, tried to talk with her, all that stuff. Turned out she had a boyfriend in the military, or so she said. I got over it. I don't even remember her last name anymore! LOL

[Smashingdoozy]

Had a thing with a guy online, he ended up treating me like crap and I ended up spiralling with mental health issues which are me super obsessive over everything he did

[nodnol32]

Was obsessed with my ex when i was dating her and for about a year after we broke up.

[AlongCameCindy]

what made you obsessed?

[nodnol32]

I had a massive crush on her. We started talking, we could just talk forever. I felt a connection with her. We both had feelings for each other. I loved everything about her. Her smile, hair, eyes, voice, laughter etc. Till today she's been the most trustworthy person ever for me. she's never broken my trust but maybe we were not right as a couple but we are friends and we want each other in our lives.

[AlongCameCindy]

That’s lovely

[nodnol32]

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

Yes I have. I'm not proud of it though, he turned out to be as asshole and I'm no longer attracted to him because I see him for what he is. But back then I was completely head over heels

[Opinion Owner]

An* asshole

[Flower7]

Yes, unfortunately that has happened to me quite a few times before. And even more unfortunately, they never returned the feelings and didn't think the same about me.