How do you cope with the realization that you’ll never achieve your dream?

[MLGbreezy]

How do you cope with the realization that you’ll never achieve your dream? I used to get made fun of in highschool cause I was a virgin people were always in my ear telling me what I was or supposed to be. Gay and one girl told me I was gonna be an old virgin that was alone I said to myself at the time that I’d prove them all wrong. Well im 25 and not a virgin but I still get treated like one and I’m still alone starting to realize that is probably not gonna change. Next to my father dying it’s probably one of the saddest and scariest things I’ve ever come to realize I’m going to be alone. My dream since I was young was to have a family one like man at the time when I realized that was something I wanted a beautiful wife some amazing children that’s it. I do know one way to cope with losing your dream though it’s definitely an idea that’s been floating around in my head for a little while, I don't know there’s still some hope in there but not much if any.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey man, I get that really hits hard to realize a lifelong dream may not happen. That's some heavy stuff to process. For how to cope though, don't lose hope yet - there's always a chance things could change.

For now, try focusing on yourself. Work on being happy and confident single so whenever the right person does come along, you'll be ready. Hit the gym, pick up a hobby, hang with the boys - keep busy and improving. Show those high school jerks they were wrong!

You're still young, so keep putting yourself out there too. Try new activities, apps, whatever to meet new people. Don't force it, but be open if an opportunity arises. And if alone time is what's meant to be, find meaning through helping others instead of just a family.

I know it's scary, but you've got this dude. Don't let one dream define your worth - make the most of each day and see where life leads. Dark thoughts won't help anyone. You deserve to be happy - keep striving for that however works best for you, a'ight? Always here if you need to vent more too bro. Stay strong!

[Anonymous]

hey man, I know life gets rough. but don't let it get you down. you have plenty of time. most dudes don't get all that type of crap done until well until their 30's-40's you've got plenty of time. and worse comes to worse, go find yourself a beautiful wife from another country. stack ya bread, and when you're ready (if you haven't already found one, which I'm confident you will) fly out to a small Asian country and find yourself one.

[alice55]

don't know, my dream is literally just to go to a Alsacian and German Christmas market so considering I'm a French citizen I will be able to achieve it for sure even if it take me 20 years XD

[KostasKouvalis]

I heard the one in Strasbourg is the best in the world. I wanna visit Alsace too, I don't know if I wanna go during Christmas though. But if I'm gonna go, or even just to France, I'm going with YOU XD

I visited a town in Washington a couple weeks ago. They build it in a traditional Bavarian style. I was there during the weekend of Oktoberfest and it felt exactly like a European city.

I'd rather go to Alsace than Germany though

[alice55]

@KostasKouvalis Yes, this is what I heard too which is the reasons I wanna go there to see it but apparently is it extremely hard to do so because it's so popular you cannot rent anything to sleep in neither can park a car or anything

Alsace and Christmas is literally the best period, it's full of snow and decoration look in youtube maybe there's some walk around video of Alsace during Christmas you'll be able to see the beautiful decorations there's also lots of sweets to eat that only exist in Alsace.

This is great, American European city look very pretty, I watched some video of Boston and it looked very pretty like city made me think of a big European cities.

Alsace is very great Germany doesn't sound bad even though my grandfather say they hate French for some reasons, I would go to Germany too to visit BMW museum m father always talked about it when I was a child so I wanna go see it

[KostasKouvalis]

Yeah. You probably have to book something months in advance and it's probably not cheap. But I would be kind of scared because there was a terrorist attack at that market.

Boston doesn't look too impressive to me.

Charleston is very traditional colonial. I want to visit. And Savannah also a little bit.

But this city was a replica German town, which is rare in the US though we have a few. Look up Leavenworth.

I don't like Germans anymore after my last trip to Europe. They lack the most basic manners. They don't like Polish people and I hear they hate Americans too now.

If I was in Alsace, I would hop over the border, but I wouldn't want to make a special trip just to Germany.

We need to go, even if it's not during Christmas. I'm serious! You don't even know. I'm always have high hopes that it will happened soon.

[Account]

No big deal.

It is not like I...


... Fuck.

[seeyounexttuesday]

How does someone treat virgins? lol. You're 25. Plenty of time to find a wife and family.

[Agape93]

Oh I'll achieve it just fine