When you went to school were you the type of person to make fun of the fat kid?

[EzraIsShy76028]

People say kids like him have bad nutrition, terrible parents, etc...

Growing up at school being fat was considered the worst thing you could be besides being gay or Jewish or poor or a nerd or whatever.

And I've always wondered why... why do people always gotta make fun of the fat kid?

Being fat is not this big shameful thing. All it means is being overweight for various different reasons (depending on the individual person), the same way one might have reasons for being underweight. Some of it may be medical or genetic and not the person's fault!

The fat kid always seems to be the punchline of every single joke.

I myself was never really truly a fat kid but I still don't get why people gotta make fun of the fat kid. It always seemed unnecessarily cruel to me. Besides, shaming a fat kid or calling them a stupid fat kid or whatever is not gonna help them lose weight any faster.

Yes.

No.

[blueonblack22]

Yeah there were a few isolated incidents but only when these fat kids were being bullies themselves.

I notice overweight kids and adults usually go in one of two for directions with their personalities. They are either really cool or they are complete douche bags.

Some of the worst unprovoked insults I’ve ever taken from women were almost always from loud mouthed fat women.

They think they are “victims” so they are self justified to harass other people. They want other people to be miserable because they are miserable.

[EzraIsShy76028]

You're pretty much correct in everything you've said! Overweight people are usually either really chill people or complete assholes.

For fat men it could be that they think they are stronger than other people because they are physically "bigger" and some of them could be so delusional to convince themselves their fat is actually all muscle.

And for fat women... yeah, you've covered it, lol.

And yeah. A lot of fat people have this sort of visceral hatred for skinny people for some reason. Among-st fat women "skinny bitch" tends to be a phrase they often use a lot.

[blueonblack22]

The difference between fat men vs fat women is fat guys don’t have people telling them feel good lies vs. women telling fat girls “their beautiful”. They get kicked around a bit more.

But also I’ve met plenty of fat douchbag guys. But they sometimes get what they have coming. Fat girls get coddled more. Their the ones organization “fat acceptance” marches and other crap.

[andreasderjuengere]

When being fat has its ''reasons'', then my ''shaming'' perhaps has ''reasons'' as well :)

Yes, I did that - but to my reckoning, only selectively and towards those who deserved it.

A few other fatties had been 'friends' to me simultaneously.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Sounds reasonable, pretty much! If a fat person is being an asshole to people then they can't expect that people won't react or defend themselves or stand up for themselves or whatever. Don't dish it out if you can't take it. 🤷‍♂️

[IslaTheWitch]

as an autistic kid, I didn't really connect with other kids at school, except a few of the greatest scums that wanted to be my friends... don't ask me why :D

the idea of making fun of someone didn't exist to me at that time, and even now, I don't fully understand it

[EzraIsShy76028]

I feel this, honestly! I myself am also autistic, plus bipolar, borderline, and several other mental illnesses, all officially diagnosed. Those few of the greatest scums who wanted to be your friends probably just wanted to be "friends" with you to take advantage of and manipulate you. I know that at least for me I had a lot of "bad friends" who were nice at first but later on turned into my enemies. Or friends who were like: "Ezra, do this, or I'll never, EVER, be your friend again!"

And yeah. Making fun of someone is just stupid. Period. There's not much point to it. Even if it was a horrible person who arguably "deserved it," two wrongs still don't make a right.

Though I will admit that as a kid/teen there were times where I made fun of a certain kid just to "fit in with the crowd." I usually was the one being made fun of, so when it was someone else other than me, it was "refreshing." I didn't personally have anything against those kids though. And looking back I wish I didn't participate.

[IslaTheWitch]

no... my scums felt oddly attraction to not much speaking and mostly reading redhead :D and my best friend who chose me in the first grade took a good care of me :D

[EzraIsShy76028]

Oh... sounds quite weird of them. I've definitely heard of attraction to redheads before, but not those oddly specific traits like not talking much and mostly reading. Good that your best friend who chose you in first grade took good care of you though I suppose.

[purplepoppy]

No I was raised to be a decent human being. I'm sure you're well aware of where the mentality of stating the worst thing you could be is gay or Jewish leads to, or did you skip history class?

[EzraIsShy76028]

I mean I'm perfectly aware of the mentality, but I'm talking high school and younger, aka teenagers and children here. Teenagers and children aren't exactly known for their maturity or acceptance of others.

By college and older it SHOULD get better as by that point you're no longer just an immature kid and your brain is closer to being fully developed. Though of course some people never grow up, and there are bigoted adults and even elderly people as well.

Plus, a lot of teenagers and children like to act edgy just to get a rise out of people, both in real life and online. So they say all kind of slurs, racial, homophobic, sexist, antisemitic, ableist, ageist, etc. Sometimes they might not even fully believe what they say, they just wanna shock. Plus, teens/kids are often ignorant about stuff they don't understand or people who are different than them.

[Apple1996]

Nah I hooked up with the fat kid tbh

[EzraIsShy76028]

Nice! Shows that you're a kind non-judgemental person.

[Apple1996]

Yeah he was a good guy and amazing kisser

[EzraIsShy76028]

Mmmm... sounds pretty exciting. 😏👍

[PeachyPie93]

I was.. then I turned myself into a fatty so stupid people would stop calling me ugly.. because being called fat is better than being called ugly lol.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Wow. Pretty ironic. And personally I always saw ugly and fat on similar levels of insulting.

However, ugly you can't really control short of surgery. And makeup will only do so much. While fat you have a lot more control over assuming no severe mental issues or medical or thyroid issues or whatever. Eating healthier and exercising more being a huge part of it. So it's better to be picked on for something you can change vs something you can't. So in that case yes, it's better to be made fun of for being fat than for being ugly.

[PeachyPie93]

Yeah and as I got older I realized I wasn't even ugly they were just assholes so it was all for nothing lol I only ever picked on one person for being fat and she was my friend LOL

[paledreams]

To a degree - hey I got just as much as I was got or given for being the fit kid - man I couldn't gain a pound or a kilo - I was and still are the happiest guy eating as I please and thankfully thankful this Thanksgiving as usual to eat 🤠😁 🦃🍽️

[EzraIsShy76028]

Haha, sounds great. From what I know for most people it's a lot harder to lose weight than to gain weight. Of course exceptions like you exist, but in general when I go out the house I see way more overweight people than underweight. Especially with today's lifestyles being more sedentary than ever and foods being more fatty and processed.

[paledreams]

Lol they should've of should have harvested my genes lol 😆😆😆😆

[EzraIsShy76028]

😂👍Haha yes! In ancient times where food was a lot more scarce being overweight was actually way more preferable than being underweight. You never knew when your next meal would be so you needed to eat as much as possible while you still could to survive.

But THESE days... especially in first world countries like the USA, food is way more plentiful than ever in history. So being overweight is not an advantage because you already know when your next meal will be anyway. And most people have several meals a day and many snacks in between anyway.

Obviously like starving people in Africa and starving homeless people still exist, but in general food is no longer in short supply anymore.

And from what I've seen in America surprisingly there are fat homeless people. Somewhat ironic. Lol.

[Account]

Nope. I only made fun of people if they made fun of me or my friends first. So if they picked on me or my friends, then yeah I would make them feel like shit too. That is the rule that I had.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Sounds like a perfect rule, pretty much! "Verbal self-defense" or "verbal eye for an eye" I guess is what you could call it. And yeah, what can I say? Don't dish it out if you can't take it. 🤷

[Unit1]

No, what's the point? Being fat (i never was) is shitty enough. They don't need more shit from me. Fatties are doing this to themselves and if they want to stop being fat, then they know what to do. They can help themselves.

[EzraIsShy76028]

I agree with you 100%, pretty much! For teenage or child fatties you could argue that it's their parents fault and how they're being raised, but for adult fatties they don't have as much of an excuse. Even if they're not a hundred percent sure what to do, their doctor, Google, and YouTube is right there, as well as several books.

In some rare exceptions like severe mental illness or medical problems like thyroid issues or whatever, you can be more sympathetic towards them, but lets be honest here, the vast majority of them are just lazy and unwilling to put in effort.

Even someone with a 3rd grade education probably knows that a salad is healthier than a hamburger or that a fruit is healthier than a donut.

Plus they keep taking up hospital beds (which are limited by the way) unnecessarily from people having actual emergencies just simply because they refuse to LOSE WEIGHT.

[Unit1]

It is a combination of overindulgence in sugary and fatty Junk and lack of exercise in most cases.
Hamburgers aren't inherently evil unless you get those from McDonald's or Burger king or KFC.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Yeah, pretty much. An overindulgence in junk food and lack of exercise. Which sadly these days is becoming more and more common. With today's sedentary lifestyles involving a lot of electronics a lot of people just don't see the point in getting out of the house or exercising anymore. And easy access to a bunch of overly processed foods. Not to mention the "plus size movement" and "dad bod acceptance" stuff going on. Pretty much encouraging fat people to just settle and not lose weight.

But yeah. Foods like hamburgers aren't inherently evil but unfortunately a lot of people tend to get those from Mcdonald's or Burger King or KFC like you said. And those aforementioned fast food restaurants tend to make literal several billions of dollars, meaning lots of people are buying. Aka billions of people killing themselves.

[Unit1]

Yeah, at this point why shouldn't they? More raw and real ingredients for us, so we can eat healthy.
On the other hand the farmers, that produce pristine and raw ingredients deserve many more customers. They are the backbone of our diet options deserving to drive something like a Porsche if that's their thing.
It's a weird double sided point i have.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Ah yes, it definitely allows for more raw and real ingredients for us, haha. The good stuff tends to be somewhat more expensive but worth every penny. A $1 McDonald's hamburger that'll kill you in the long run isn't worth it despite the cheap price.

And ah yes, we definitely gotta respect those farmers! They don't get enough respect! And yeah, they definitely deserve to drive a Porsche or something if that's their thing, haha.

Definitely double sided, though I can 100% get where you're coming from. More for us, but at the same time those hard working farmers do deserve more customers!

[AviatorTom]

No, I didn't pick on others and I was rarely picked on. I had a mostly uneventful time in school.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Sounds like pretty smooth sailing then. 👍

[Likes2drive]

No I was never a bully, I got bullied because I was small at the time, not many fat kids in my generation, kind of rare in the 70s

[EzraIsShy76028]

Good, bullying is never a good thing! Ah yes, I've heard of kids being bullied for being skinny, too. It seems kids too far in either the underweight or overweight direction always inevitably get some flak. Usually the overweight kid more than the underweight kid, but yeah.

And yeah... unfortunately over time people got fatter and fatter. More sedentary lifestyles and more access to processed fatty, salty or sugary foods contributed to it.

I have also heard that from people who grew up in the 70s or whatever, that the "fat kid" from back when would be considered a perfectly normal weight today, and there were only a few of them to begin with, and that now there exists several severely overweight kids in each and every classroom.

If the world population continues to get fatter and fatter like this we're going to be in for a grim and rude awakening at some point in the future.

[Likes2drive]

Yeah life expectancy will actually decrease instead

[lorenzomichael]

No, Because between baseball and football I was too busy being the male whore.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Haha, fair enough. Seems like you had your priorities straight.

[lorenzomichael]

At least I thought so.🤣

[Kingofkings1992]

No, I beat the shit outta kids who made fun of others

[Smashingdoozy]

Nah I was the fat kid

[EzraIsShy76028]

Understandable. Kind of weird to make fun of a certain thing when you yourself are a certain thing. Kind of like someone making fun of a certain race or skin color when they themselves ARE that certain race or skin color.

[Smashingdoozy]

By the time I was in a school (homeschooled through elementary) I wasn't fat anymore but always thought it was fucked up

[EzraIsShy76028]

Yeah. Making fun of people in general is no bueno. Especially over things they might not be able to help. For a fat teen/child their parents are most likely the responsible ones.

[Smashingdoozy]

Yeah or in my case it was literally just "baby fat" I changed nothing about my eating just dropped the weight through puberty

[EzraIsShy76028]

Ah yeah. Makes sense. Can't forgot those "baby fat" phases. As a child grows rapidly so does their body.

[Yannae]

We were friends with the fat kid.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Sounds sweet and wholesome! Same here, really. Friends with anyone, don't discriminate, etc.

[exitseven]

No, I was the fat kid.

[beefcakebradybatson]

I never ridiculed ANYONE in school.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Good! In general it's not right to make fun of others. 🤷‍♀️

[beefcakebradybatson]

I kept to myself, ran home after school and listened to the DetroitTigers, Lions, Pistons, Red Wings, University of Michigan and Michigan State football and basketball, there being no Wolverines (Michigan) or Spartans (Michigan State) chicks' basketball team then, and they almost certainly wouldn't have been broadcast or telecast in the 60's.

[EzraIsShy76028]

Sounds like you had diverse tastes! I say that's good! 👍

[Anonymous]

yes, no

[Opinion Owner]

unfortunately