So when am I going to find a girlfriend? still hasn’t happened over 47 years?

[DolpDan]

Why does the scene that most people I see , girls and guys, seem to just jump from relationship to relationship, when I’m still waiting to find that first relationship, first date even. I mean, I’m an actor that’s still trying to make it, I’m an artist. I’m funny, I’m even a fan of the rival team of the city that I live. Which should make a good fun rival in the relationship. But I talk to girls, and I’ve heard everything from “I’m scary,” to. “You should learn how to talk” to “he wants too much” I don’t understand. I’m still waiting. I’m still looking every day. I tried every avenue and this is the same result. Who are these people that think they can just jump from a relationship relationship when I’m waiting to find that special girl? Girls want loyalty. And I’m as loyal as you could find?

[SueShe]

You are the only one that can help that situation.

In order to have friends or a girlfriend, you must be proactive and find friends. They will not just pop up in your life without you being involved in the relation. Best is to join a club, take a hobby where you can meet people with similar interests.

If you are good at one specific occupation, then see if you can find a club or place where others meet that share that passion. The rest will just fall automatically into place. Sharing the same interests with a person is always a good start to get to know that person better because you have common grounds.

But you have to work on yourself first. That would include shyness and social anxiety if those are part of your problem.

You can train your approach, your attitude and expression in front of a mirror for example. Think of what message you want to bring across and rehearse it until you are satisfied. The next step is the most difficult one and that is the one where you have to put in practice what you learned and rehearsed.

But without you wanting and acting upon it, nothing will ever happen. You have to get out of your comfort zone for it to happen. The most important is not to be afraid to fail. If you are rejected, get back onto your feet and try again.

If you are dissatisfied with the way you look, then simple steps may have a positive impact on you. Try first to change your hairstyle and clothing. They may be one of the reasons why you feel insecure. Learn to smile because people are also judged on how they appear to others. If you frown all the time and never smile, you will be tagged as a person that is difficult to befriend or be with. Good luck.

[Nikki1989]

Sorry, but at 47, all the blame is on YOU.

[SquishyBuns2628]

I was just about to say this too 😭

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Women ☕... Don't worry, he can still hit the gym, get a hobby, sort out his personality flaws and get a lovely 28yo in the next 5 years, man over here is a slow learner that's all, been in the forge for a long time though, bet heot some skills and career.

Your 35... Not looking good for you 🤣😂

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Some good advice here.

Get a hobby / sport, get in shape, body and mind

Make friends and enemy's. Learn about people, from the sport.

Get your career sorted (although good chance you have)

Be passionate/decisive about stuff, I put my daughter first above all and let that steer my life, coupled with a passion for inventing and engineering (it's my career and skill set).

Take risks and do cool shit, get a motorcycle or whatever you fancy trying, find somthing that makes you feel alive and that you love.

Don't be afraid to pick up a bad drinking habit, as long as its social and your balanced in your fitness. It's a good coping strategy for the loneliness.

Be passive aggressive / unaffected by women. As you do these things, more people will complement you and you will naturally meet people, have a high standard.

Then as a few women are intrested in you, and your ignoring rejecting them, more will become intrested, as your the commodity that is desirable and unattainable... Make a few mistakes, date / mate with a few girls learn, hold your line.

Don't let the old whoars pull you in, your worth more than that.

Do this for a while and then a nice honest 20 something girl will like you, and there you have it, winning.

[Joshua_H_1010011001]

Ohh your an actor that's still trying to make it, that's your issue.

Your 47 and still fucking up.

It's not attractive or helping your cause.

Although not completely the problem.

I'm going bankrupt and have a failed buisness. But got decent skill set, jumped into a decent job... Just part of my journey, will probably do it again, maybe succeed.
Point being is I'm brave enough to do it, not just talk about it.

Girls like success, but also unpredictablity in certain areas.

So as long as your either master at what your doing or competent enough to be taking risks, moving forward and doing what others can't or are afraid to do, even if you fall on the journey a few times. It garners respect.

Girl needs to respect you.

As you do them, but for different reasons.

[michael3478]

At your age you may want to look for single moms lol. I guess it's better than nothing lol.

[Anonymous]

The best advice I can give is lie, lie, lie, and then lies some more. Women don't want a boring reality. The want an interesting fiction. My guess is you're far too predictable for the women you're meeting. Women don't want a guy they can have. They want the guy they know they can't have. It's a toxic trait that most women share. You need to start using it to your advantage.

[molonski2]

Really.. at 47 ?

You must be incredibly selective , maybe you need to lighten up a bit.

[AviatorTom]

Girlfriends don't happen. You have to look for them... and find them.

[Iron_Man]

Try Christian mingles