Am I really as talented and great as I think I am?

[ForevrLonely29]

I have held 25 jobs in my lifetime. While my tenure was very short, I have gained exposure to a lot of experiences. I am multifaceted in a multitude of different lines of work. I went from lifeguard in my teens to Advanced EMT to software developer with minimal post-secondary formal education (of course AEMT was an accelerated course I had to take). I have retained a lot of this knowledge too. I have saved lives along the way and have worked on projects for multi-billion dollar companies by the age of 30, including Zoetis, Daimler, and McCain Foods. I am also working with state legislators to pass much-needed legislation. I have appeared before county commissioners with concerns. I am probably one of the most memorable people others encounter, although a lot of this is for bad reasons.

I have had a very rough road growing up, even into most of my 20s. I was hospitalized involuntarily countless times. I missed most of my high school years being in psychological treatment centers. By the time I graduated, I was desperate to catch up on most of the adolescent experiences I missed. I only wanted to lose my virginity to another virgin at the time, which left me in a bad psychological state. I lost my virginity to a high school girl at the age of 20, which led to a whole bunch of issues with the law, mainly because her daddy called the law on me. It was a weekend fling, considering she wanted nothing to do with me afterwards. I was kicked out of multiple colleges, and even had my gym membership suspended. I lost my EMT license. I went on dates with a lot of 17-year-olds in my early-to-mid 20s, until I got my first real girlfriend at the age of 29, whom I am now engaged to and expected to marry.

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[lil_will_12]

how did you not realize, with the vast amount of consequences from your first interactions with a minor, that it would not be ok to do that anymore? Like dude, what the flip flop. Larger age gaps are fine when its with older people and both are mature, but never okay when its with minors💀

[ForevrLonely29]

I am no longer pursing women at this point. I am engaged and happy where I am at now. I have made positive contributions. And Jesus is with me always.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

No. Not really. You know what you are, others have already called you out on it and it's true. We've been down this road several times. My point is that if you were really talented you would have been retained at one of those positions. Instead you were discarded like trash for one reason or another. Your "talent" is not as great as you think it is.

[ForevrLonely29]

Actually, when my most recent employer hired me on, he had been searching for a candidate for over a year. I aced the interview with flying colors, and my boss boosted me up like I was "the guy".

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

Aaaand then you either didn't get the job or you lost it as usual. Trash again.

[ForevrLonely29]

I held the job for 9 months until I was fired. Although, that company was facing a lot of restructuring anyways.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

So you lost it. As expected.

[HollyK21]

Everything else gets washed away once you mention your pedophilic nature.

[ForevrLonely29]

But I am not a pedophile. I am not a sex offenders. I am not a felon. I have a misdemeanor from 10 years ago and nothing else, not even a speeding ticket since then. I have involved myself in ways to help people. I am an avid volunteer. I try to be a good person, and my life circumstances have changed now. I am in a better spot.

[HollyK21]

So why did you specifically choose underage women to sleep with in your 20s as an adult?

[ForevrLonely29]

I only had sex once and exactly once before I met my fiance. I had a very dry 9 to 10 years of my life. When I went on those dates, it never lasted past the first date and it felt weird. I held hands maybe at most.

[HollyK21]

If you take sex out of the equation, why did you choose underage women at all? Is that the age group you related to most or what? And does your fiancé know about this?

[HollyK21]

I mean think about it, you didn’t get into your first “real” relationship until 29, that’s your entire 20s choosing to date underage girls. This is so problematic.

[ForevrLonely29]

It was because I wanted a woman that never had a romantic past before me, especially from her youth.

[HollyK21]

There are plenty of women who are of legal age and never touched a man. You just have this sick, warped idea in your mind that only adolescents have innocence. Does your fiancé know about your pst interests?

[ForevrLonely29]

It wasn't so much about a woman's sexual past as much as previous romantic bonds where there were emotional connections. The whole "first love" thing or a boy she was romantically involved with in her youth.

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

Him losing his virginity at 20 to a HS is hardly pedophilic. My cousin literally dated a girl who was 17/18 while he was 20 or 21. Nobody shamed him but then again he's a 8/10 and every girl he encounters married or not wants to fuck his brains.

[HollyK21]

@foreverlonely29 so even if you’ve never been in love, you still aren’t a virgin and she wouldn’t be your first romantic experience so why the double standard? You make a lot of exceptions for yourself, such as putting emphasis on only having sex once and not having touched a woman since then or whatever, pretending it didn’t all happen doesn’t erase it. So to have those “pure” expectations of a woman and specifically seeking out adolescent teens to fulfill this is quite disturbing. I get that you feel as though you’ve evolved and moved on, but when you make mention of it amongst your other “talents”, it doesn’t sound very regretful or evolved on your end.

[HollyK21]

@uglygaypoorcowars94 I didn’t say anything about him losing his virginity at 20. Your cousins experience doesn’t speak for the masses, which is why there’s several comments on this post condemning (I can’t think of a softer word at this time) his choice in women. This isn’t some brain control or severe act of unwarranted judgment, he brought the context here for us to share our opinion about. When you speak openly on a platform and invite people to comment on your situation, you welcome the good, bad and the ugly. On top of all this, accountability is important, and if he feels comfortable enough to share that he specifically sought out and dated underage girls (which is another differentiation from your uncle who dated one girl and probably not specifically because she was 17).

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

His choice of women aren't underage girls given that its not a constant infatuation. He was 20 she was like 16-18. Not ideal but certainly not pedo + she at that age desired a older college man. Plenty of women here described dating men in their 20s whilst being teens also drug dealers/felons or former inmates. Its more a focus on female desire than a single relationship

[HollyK21]

Yes, NOW his choice in women has changed, but that didn’t happen until he was 28. That is nearly 10 years years of specifically seeking out 17 year olds (which he wrote himself), not just happening across that one girl and then moving on to older women. So if you want to bicker under every comment, swinging your fists to defend such behavior then be sure to do so in its entirety so we can see who you really are RIGHT NOW. If the Asker has genuinely changed/evolved then he would disagree with anyone saying his choices in women during that nearly 10 year stint were appropriate. We aren’t talking about plenty of women and I don’t care to hear you make some convoluted argument which is most likely driven by (and triggered by) your own experiences. Your username says a lot about what you’ve gone through in your life and how you feel about yourself now.

[ForevrLonely29]

I sought out just about any woman my age, slightly older, or younger that didn't have a romantic bond with a guy from her youth. I am not talking about a sexual encounter with a boy. I am talking about an emotional romantic bond, whether that be a first love or a male best friend from her youth whom she had a romantic bond of some kind with. I tried to attract a 24 year old woman years ago I met online out of Michigan that never had a boyfriend. I often traveled to other states to see these young women, just for them to reject me. Some of these girl's mothers encouraged and even helped facilitate this in hope I would marry their daughter (they were Catholic), but I had to convert to Catholicism ultimately, which I was glad I never actually went forward with it.

[HollyK21]

@foreverlonely29 I do wish that was context you included in your initial post because how you wrote it made it seem like that age group was the only you were pursuing. How old is your fiancé? I ask because if she is or was over legal age when you met then it just goes to show that this logic you had about underage women being your best chance at finding a pure partner was wrong. I’m glad you’ve moved on and changed your ways but the whole 17 year old thing did not look right.

[HollyK21]

@uglygaypoorcoward I’m sorry but there is NO a good reason to be cussing me out. I haven’t disrespected you under MY comment not once. You don’t get to speak with me anymore. Bye.

[BonzoInBitburg]

As an employer, if I saw a resume with that many jobs on it I would immediately throw it in the trash. It sounds like you can't keep a job for very long.

[ForevrLonely29]

Of course, I don't include all my employment history on my resume. I only include most relevant to the job.

[BonzoInBitburg]

That creates gaps in employment which is another red flag. It's fine for seasonal or high turnover minimum wage jobs but bad for careers

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

Bro its pointless talking to these people their minds are already set on how they see you, they dont respect you and every time they respond will only be for the purpose of shaming you and belittling you

[msc545]

Don't aa-dmit your prior dalliances with underage women to other women - as you can see they go nuts over it, and understandably so.

[ForevrLonely29]

I had only had sex once and only one time before I met my fiance. I went almost 10 years not even kissing a girl. What I got in trouble for was harassment in year 2016. Those girls I mentioned were of age of consent, I checked. One of them her mom even went with us with her then-guy she was dating. It was a double date and really fucking weird. The other mom tried to get me to marry her daughter. Both weird families.

That has come and gone. I am now happy where I am at.

[Uglygaypoorcoward94]

Its just shaming men they deem inferior. They literally chase men old enough to be their dads. Women are terrible at partner selection, dont place much weight on what some dumb random bitch says. Stay strong my brother in Christ.

[Anonymous]

I just know I've been worried about my future lately in the sense if I'll be able to support myself independently when my folks are gone that's been a huge concern of mine lately

[Anonymous]

Your arrogance is unparalleled!

[Dongie]

Why sure! 🤓

[Dongie]

You have some haters to be sure. I bet they've never even committed a sin.