Am I not good enough?

[janjira]

Do men actually like hot women who smoke cigarettes, marijuana, ice, cocaine, or women in general who take care of the house, take care of their husbands, take care of their children?

[lightbulb27]

the later. But for a long time I rejected such women and went for those whom where needy. Those were my issues doing the opposite what was good for me, as I had issues.

So you can point a finger in the mirror in terms of awareness and selection process. You can point finger to the other person as well for they are a party to the issue.

It isn't all your fault, but you have to navigate the complexity of yours and others emotional challenges.

And then you'll have to navigate your childrens and other people as you work with them.

[MrOracle]

Any of these: "smoke cigarettes, marijuana, ice, cocaine" would be an immediate dealbreaker for me, and for a lot of men. It wouldn't matter what else a woman brought to the table - these immediately disqualify her as anything more than an acquaintance.

[IslaTheWitch]

You have to be yourself and shine your own light. Don't look at others, find your own qualities and be proud of them.

Every man is different, as every woman is. Be confident in who you are, and you will attract the right man.

[dynamicyandere]

Basically, attractive hedonistic women vs women who would actually make good wives.


The ones who have good values will always choose the latter.


The ones busy chasing pleasure and vices and degeneracy would be attracted to the former.


Those aren’t the men that would make good fathers and husbands anyway though, so you’re not losing out if you don’t marry a chronic pleasure-seeker with no impulse control.

[dynamicyandere]

Wild party goers may be “fun” for guys who are in that scene.

But to marry a drug-addicted dopamine-chaser, no matter how attractive they are, is just asking for trouble.

Men tend to not marry those types.

And, men attracted to those types are likely not ready (or fit) to marry.

[DarkWinterNights]

Women of the former are more popular in mercies and social media. But they usually don’t stay famous long enough for everyone to see what results of that hedonistic lifestyle. If you’re surrounded by men who prefer that you’re surrounding yourself with the wrong men.

[DJB72]

A good man in general wants a more traditional family relationship. That means no drugs and preferably no smoking anything (unless he's a smoker) and a wife who wants to support him domestically.

That's almost as important to a decent guy as sexual fulfilment - and I'm not shitting you.

[FunkyMonkee]

I never thought you were good enough but, what a wino. I would prefer the latter. If she wants to smoke a joint, once in a while, that's fine with me.

[Billlewis]

The question you should be asking yourself is not, 'Am I good enough?', but rather, 'Am I assertive enough?' -- and if you really want to hit the ball out of the stadium and into the parking lot, ask yourself *this* 'Am I mean enough?'

[James_Likes_PPL]

That’s like asking do women like men who don’t have a job and are homeless

[sawno]

Second part absolutely, first part is a complete turn off.

[Lynx---]

At bottom, men want a wife, not independent party girls coveted in tattoos that whore around. I hate to put it that way because I believe in live and let live, and women have the right to live the way they want to, but that's the way it is.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Uhm... the latter, by far.

[Mettbltt]

definitely the latter

[Aegithalos]

Depends on the men.

[Roudyrebel8]

Definitely the latter

[Kingofkings1992]

What’s wrong with smoking ice?

[shortster]

I prefer the latter

[Anonymous]

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