Why am I not good enough though?

[Anonymous]

I have a VR, and have had it for a year.

Every one of my female friends has guys who like her, and I get the perverts who just get sexual. And I was interested in this one dude and now he’s interested in her. He’s respectful and the one who likes me keeps flirting with her.

It fucking hurts to know I can’t get anyone. It really sucks. I’m 27 and can’t find anyone. :(

I just want to know what it feels like to be loved. And she was with someone in our friend group that I liked, and now she’s with someone else.

It just hurts to know that nobody likes me.

I want someone on the VR to hang with and be friends with that’s a guy that does stuff with me. But that never happens. I’m fat so that’s probably it.

Like guys only want her and ask about her on the game, but as soon as I find someone they always flirt with others and it sucks. We call these people “meta boos” and I want one

I’ve tried going out but when you look like me guys ignore you. I don’t trust men, I’ve seen enough of them do shady shit. They don’t like me for me. And a guy would be settling to be with me. It sucks, since I’m fat and ugly I have no standing chance. I’ve had guys come click on my profile and seen my pic and LAUGHED.

So basically it’s 3 men trying to get with her all at once and I’m just there watching it.

Like she broke up with the guy a week ago, and now she’s got men after men after her: they pay NO attention to me. :(

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I guess it wouldn’t hurt as much if it didn’t happen offline as well, but it fucking sucks.

[Oliverlogan263]

I'm sorry you're feeling this way, that really sucks. It can be so hard to feel like no one is interested in you for who you are. A few things I want to say:

1. Don't be so down on yourself because of your looks. You're way more than just your appearance, and any guy worth your time will see that.

2. I know it hurts to see your friend getting a lot of attention from guys while you feel ignored. But try not to compare - every person's experience will be different. Stay focused on being the best version of yourself.

3. It sounds like you're meeting the wrong kinds of guys who just wanna hook up. Don't lose hope - there are definitely people looking for real connections, not just sex. Keep an eye out for guys who take an interest in getting to know you as a person.

4. Maybe take a break from VR/games if it's making you feel bad lately. Do things that boost your confidence instead, like spending time with good friends IRL or treating yourself to something fun you enjoy.

5. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there and ask a guy you vibe with if he wants to hang out! You never know if you don't try.

Believe in yourself. You have as much right as anyone to find someone who appreciates you for you. Stay positive - the right person will come along.