Why am I not good enough?

[Anonymous]

I’m 27, still live at home. Can’t manage money for shit, I have nothing going for me. I pay rent at home, I wouldn’t have a car if it wasn’t for my mom giving me one and paying it off.

I work as a direct support professional helping people that have intellectual disabilities, I’m dumb, shy and surprised I got my CNA certification. I can’t even stick up for myself, cause I hate confrontation. People think I’m younger than I am. I’m treated like a kid, and I’m pretty sure I’m low intelligence, my therapist said it’s anxiety and that she said I’d have to be average intelligence to even pass my CNA. I have dental work that needs to be done… and I’m procrastinating.

I’m very unattractive and can’t get a guy who likes me, I’m fat and guys don’t like fat women.

I want to be assertive, confident and take ownership of the house I’m living in. But I can barely make ends meet now with my income.

I’m pretty sure everyone around me thinks I’m “slow” or low intelligence. I got drunk one night and told my friends I think I am. They said no one said anything like that about me, but I don't know maybe I’m overthinking it?

I do nothing, and been distancing myself from friends and haven’t been living life. I’m ugly and never noticed anyways.

I get bossed around even though I hate it, I am always on guard now.

Like I had training today and I wasn’t sociable, but not many were. I didn’t want to be there.

I’m 27, I wish I was confident, assertive and not easily manipulated. How can I end this behavior?

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm not surprised you don't feel you're good enough if you believe all that cr*p up there! If I was a depressive, I too would be heavily down just by reading it.

Wanna know the secret of confidence and assertiveness? Stop worrying about what other people think of you.

[Asker]

The thing is, I don’t want people thinking I’m slow. That’s all I worry about.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Are you sure that's all? Because it looks to anyone reading that, you are questioning your whole life!

[TommyMountainFigure]

You are probably your own worst enemy, seeing as nobody else thinks all that about you!

[TommyMountainFigure]

If I were to say to you.. Pick two things you want to change about yourself.. what would they be?

[Anonymous]

Start your days drinking water and telling yourself something good about yourself. Do it every day and find something good to say even when you don’t fully agree with it. Hold yourself accountable and commit to both this and some kind of self care at least twice a week, that includes mental care too. It can be a walk outside, hobby class, a face mask, nail maintenance, anything really, small or big. The idea is that all these things together will gradually improve your mental and physical health.
Right now, you’re committed to misery in every form and I think that for as much time/energy you’ve spent doing this over the years, it’s time to start reversing it. You won’t believe you’re good enough while you’re doing the exact same things every day, but if you start making changes you will be thanking yourself even by this time next year. I know it worked for me.

[Avicenna]

You're wopking in a tough environment- I think that's the explanation

[Asker]

Yes, and I’m new as well.

[Anonymous]

I think you need serious therapy! You will be miserable in life with no self-esteem.