Why not feel good?

Question

The only reason anybody ever wants anything is because they believe they will feel better in the having of it. Anything.

And a happy life is just a series of happy moments but most people don't allow the happy moment 'cuz they're too busy trying to get a happy life.

So why not just find a reason to feel good to start with?

Some may say, "Well, Random, aren't you just little' Mz Philosophy with all the happy answers. You know if you ever pull your head out of the rainbows you might see this thing called reality and reality ain't pretty."

But what if I create my own emotional reality?

I have control of my thoughts. I have control of my emotions. I can choose to feel good right here and right now for no other reason than I want to feel good 'cuz, you know, life is supposed to be good for us and stuff.

Some may say, "Random, you're weird. Go back to Wonderland where you belong."

Actual simulation of Random feeling good for no other reason than she wants to feel good.

Bitter_Sweet94 · Accepted Answer

Wanting to feel good isn’t weird, it’s human.

But real life isn’t built on constant positivity either.

You *can* choose your mindset, yes.

You can decide not to make every moment heavier than it needs to be.

That part is healthy.

The part people struggle with is pretending life is always bright and simple.

Pain, stress, uncertainty, they’re real, and they shape us too.

So the balance is this

* Find small reasons to feel good, because they keep you grounded.

* But don’t use “positive thinking” to avoid reality.

* Emotional control isn’t about forcing happiness, it’s about clarity and honesty with yourself.

Creating your own emotional reality works **when it’s rooted in truth**, not denial.

That’s where the real peace comes from.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

Like I always say, “Life is what you make of it.” Miserable people have usually made themselves that way but will blame everyone and everything else for the problems they themselves have created.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

And this is the reason why I like you so much because it is really that simple.. Everybody thinks that they have to have a reason But
If you just wake up and smile and just become that person , you become that person every morning when you wake up and then if something really good happens ,  you can be happy happy happier, happiest. It is 10 times better than waking up and being in an old grouch. Or even a young grouch Come on, it's a choice. Even little kids wake up happy. And they got a shitty diaper if they can do it we can do it especially without the shitty diaper

Nice222 · Accepted Answer

Wish I could join you in wonderland.

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

This mindset is why video games and really any competitive type thing is addictive. It's little bits of dopamine for achieving happiness in your efforts. Beating a boss in your favorite game, collecting a winning hand in poker, winning the big game in sports, all of them mirror this thought process.

There is nothing wrong with finding happiness just as long as it doesn't come at the expense of someone else's generally. Unfortunately there are a lot of selfish people in this world who would step on someone's throat just to get ahead and achieve their happiness and that just doesn't work for me.

FreyaRed · Answer

Good, bad, angry, happy... from reference point of optimal functionality of an individual it's everything just irrelevant.
Wonderland isn't real, you know that. When you go deep enough into the rabbit hole you recognize emotions are animalic instincts, developed by very primitive brain regions 700 million years ago as our ancestor were fishes. When you're happy you aren't a girl in pajama on a pink unicorn pony, you're a fish.

I'm just kidding.

Twodogs0525 · Answer

People always say things like that to me! "It's little things, like flying a kite or playing board games with your family. It's fun and you laugh and feel happy". No, thanks! I can just pop a pill and get the same result without the effort.

jJanSmit · Answer

If you start enjoying the little things, life get better every day. Of course there are setbacks, but don't let them get you down. That's easier said than done if you're in a depression or burn out. Been there, done that. But even that learned me that positivity is so much better

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Except for my girlfriend, what do I have to feel good about? My life's been utter shit for the past decade or 2!! Things just keep getting progressively worse!!

Apulu_backagain · Answer

I used to be like that before losing few very close people. I'm trying to be like this again, slowly I'm loving myself more.

aaron13547 · Answer

You got it figured out. Thats it! Living in the moment its the only way to live. People give their happiness away like they have as much as you do... you and I dont give happiness away we just have so much; Its more like we have so much happiness, it overflows to others. Thats the "real" way to live. The right way.

Xawyx-2 · Answer

Well, maybe some people don't have enough reasons to feel good.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, but it is easier said than done

HДLILБΞУ · Answer

I am very tired..

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