Blaming Women" the universal safety net for men’s accountability?

Question

I’ve noticed a recurring theme: No matter the situation, some men have turned "It’s her fault" into a full-time hobby.

If he’s single? Women’s standards are too high.

If he’s toxic? She pushed his buttons.

If he’s unsuccessful? The system favors women now.

It feels like a massive accountability vacuum. Is it a fragile ego thing, or is it just easier to live in a fantasy where you’re the perpetual victim of "female nature"?

Guys, why is self-reflection so terrifying for you? Girls, what’s the most ridiculous thing a guy has tried to blame you for?

Blaming Women the universal safety net for men’s accountability?

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

You are 100% right and you could exchange names where you have man you could put woman because that would be 100% right too

It's been going on forever

Just like divorce

Arguments

Cheating

And it all starts with ego if you get in any type of relationship with male or female and if you have an ego or they have an ego you're better off to walk away because nobody is going to be happy both will always be pointing the finger because both are right Fighters

Cuz they both have to feed that ego and it's never going to be their fault it's always going to be somebody else's fault because that's what ego does ego has to be right well I say good luck if you want to be happy in life if you want a great relationship you have to park the egos outside every night every day that you walk into that house because if you don't it's just a matter of time until they Clash and you both have to be right and that's the end of love right there

So if you are in a relationship and you truly love that person you both have to let ego go there is no room for it anywhere in a relationship and once it picks its head through that door it's over with it's the downhill part of ending it all

HighValue · Accepted Answer

Explain this then:

Why do women get FAR less punishment for the same crimes?

Why are women FAR more often awarded majority custody when statistics PROVE that men take better care of their children than women?

Why do women often get hired over men, even though the men are often more qualified?

Why do women often not get any jail time when proven to be a false accuser?

Why do women not get punishment for paternity fraud, which IS spousal and child abuse?

Why do most women think a man working 40 + hours per week is equal or lesser than her working an average of 12 hours per week or less if she took care of everything at home?

Please explain all of that without outright lying.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Men hate to damage their egos, their masculinity is incredibly fragile because no one can define what it is, only what it’s not, which is it’s not feminine. So they avoid anything remotely associated with femininity, including emotional vulnerability, which just causes all kinds of psychological damage, which I’m sure they also blame women for somehow.

RandomGirl42 · Accepted Answer

Awesome question and I wonder too if geography plays a factor. I live in a very rural area where most men I know are very accountable. I was rather surprised when I first joined this site to see how many men were not. It seems playing victim is trendy or some shit.

Another reason I'm glad I'm lesbian.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

Hahaha I wish I could find one of my posts from MGTOW days. People thought I was crazy when I said the dudes are all gonna turn into hypocritical bitches and the bitches are gonna turn into hypocritical dudes.

Whats crazy is she isn't even wrong. But the dudes it's aimed arlt are probably telling themselves "I've been so hard on myself already" "nothing I do works, it's because all woman are the same"

Like, remember 6 or 7 years ago when you all were mad at these hoe's for saying the same thing? 😂

Next I think a bunch of women are going to start taking on more "masculine" sexual roles and it won't be because the dudes are asking for it. It's going to be because of the nature of the roles reversing outside the bedroom. And then it's going to get old quick and that's when a middle ground is going to be normalized. Or at least the beginnings of it.

OneViewpoint · Answer

The accountability issue is alive and well in both genders. And it's on full display in Social Media. All the bad actors show up and attract lots of attention. But they are not representative of ALL men or women. And yup, it's insecurity wrapped in immaturity, with a side of perpetual victim mentality.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly, finding a scapegoat for the hardship life throws at you rather than having self reflection then holding yourself accountable upon that careful reflection has been around since the dawn of time and has been a rising thing when in internet discussions or real life from failed dating app attempts especially among men onto women.

Certain dudes will go, “women are my reason I’m single”.
Maybe it is from your attitude towards women, views of women, how you make them feel, etc.

It is easier to cast blame onto others than accept the fact you are either wrong, not in the right, or the problem.

I won’t say it is universal since a lot of men might blame races, religions, diversity, or what have you for the “injustices they face”.

They even blame a woman’s sexual assault not on the offender, but how she acted, dressed, or went out at night.

LazerBean · Answer

It's a negligible amount of men who actually do this, and the few men who do are themselves negligible. It's not really something to worry about, and not something that you will see much of anywhere other than the Internet.

glennos89 · Answer

You shift the blame back on guys but when a guy steps out of line other guys will make sure he won't be able to avoid accountability.

Guys correct eachother, girls dont correct eachother and thats a problem!

Instead of trying to divert the problem you should be taking a good look at your own gender instead because a lot of girls these days are becoming very unattractive because of their behaviour and/or body modifications

Anonymous · Answer

The irony of this question coming from a woman is rich!

Women (and society) have blamed men for pretty much every problem non-stop for the last 4 decades. You women are just not used to being held accountable for you own behavior and choices so it feels a bit of a shock to you.

Welcome to the world of accountability. It's long overdue, and it's not going away for you any time soon, so you might as well get used to it.

MidnightRivers · Answer

Agreed,

Honestly, blaming an entire gender for one's problems is really just a way of avoiding accountability. Everyone has flaws and everyone makes mistakes. A confident and good man is able to look at himself first and ask what could I have done better, why has this happened, what bad decisions have i made. If every issue in your life is somehow “women’s fault,” that says more about insecurity than anything else in my opinion.

queenofcardio · Answer

Unfortunately, so many people use projection as a defensive mechanism. It's easier to put those failures onto someone else than to actually face the reality of their own discomfort.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, and you see that every day on here. Men are never at fault, and their usual go-to is to shift the blame onto women.

LiamS95 · Answer

If both the guy and girl are compatible regardless of age, creed, race or otherwise they will connect even if it takes a while. You're speaking about males and females that have no desire to connect for a long term relationship

DonaldDarko · Answer

Women probably aren't responsible for very much. I doubt they've got the ability.

Alex757 · Answer

I take accountability for my actions and I take responsibility for my words and actions. It’s a simple solution, just be a man/woman of your word. Accept accountability & responsibility work on yourself & everything will be gucci.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Any of us can choose to blame others rather than fix ourselves. It also requires much less effort.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

Try being a black man and navigating racism for four centuries, babe !!!

Ariesman81 · Answer

It's an awful lot of words for just saying if men were different things would be better.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Lmao. What? You are describing men perfectly to be women. Women are the ones who blame men for everything. What drugs are you on kid?

jahaims · Answer

Avoidants exist with both genders. It's a personality trait. It has nothing to do with gender

fish5505_87 · Answer

I've been married 19 years, and, it's always my fault! Just say-in. lol! but I'm of a different gen!

Smegskull · Answer

We didn't make these rules, we are just learning to play by them.

Anonymous · Answer

Some men are just like that, unfortunately...

exitseven · Answer

I always thought that it is Trump's fault.

Dargil · Answer

Accountability for what?

Agape93 · Answer

Exactly

Daytoday79 · Answer

Are you talking about Turkish guys?

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