Do You Think That It Wasn't A Good Idea To Teach Boys Not To Cry?

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Personally I don't believe that it was such a good idea.
Boys were created with tear ducts and tears and I think that nobody has the right to tell them NOT to use that part of their body!!
There are many times in a boys/mans life when crying just feels damn good to do!
It helps them to relieve their sorrow and stress during certain times in their life when they are happy (good tears 🙂), when they are grieving, heartbroken, sad, and just whenever they need to.

I say GO AHEAD AND HAVE A GOOD CRY!! 🙂🧡

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I have a son who is 6'8. Big buff strong boy good looking man. Fireman paramedic

He was never taught not to cry he was taught that you feel things in life and you deal with it the best way you can and if it hurts you it's okay to cry because that just means you love whatever it is that you're hurting from

You need to control yourself at all times in life but there are moments where you don't need to and if you need to cry it's okay it doesn't make you less of a man it doesn't make you less of a person it doesn't make you less of anything as a matter of fact it makes you a stronger individual because you are being you you are being real and it doesn't matter what other people think or say because they are not you and if they have to hide their emotions if they're in pain that's okay that's on them but you don't have to hide nothing you just be you and be the best you can be

Tarifa · Accepted Answer

Absolutely. It would have been much easier to go through my early teens and even early twenties if showing emotions wasn't looked upon as 'weak'.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

It was never a good idea to teach ANYONE that crying makes you weak or less than. Being taught that they have to suppress their emotions, but then not being taught a healthy outlet either - it’s a big reason why we end up with men who resort to violence and aggression when things get hard. They don’t know any better and don’t know how to process their emotions.

That is something I will NEVER do, as a mom of 2 young boys. My boys will learn that it’s okay and healthy to cry when upset, and that when we are feeling difficult emotions, we find healthy and appropriate outlets for them.

NoDecision · Accepted Answer

True, a good cry relieves a lot of pent-up stress. Even big girls cry.

glennos89 · Answer

Ofcourse it was a terrible idea. Emotions are human and not gender specific. But for some reason men aren't allowed to cry while woman can. A big part of men who commit suicide is because they aren't able or scared to vent about their problems so to try to battle their depression alone till the point they can't do it anymore. It's a sad thing.

On the other way I do feel the need to teach boys how to become a man. I don't think the world needs a bunch of men crying like pussy's for every little thing. Being a man you should be able to carry and protect your own family in case of emergency. You are the one who everyone depends on in a emergency situation

smashleyy · Answer

No the stigma around crying has done more harm than good and I think suppressing it contributes to a lot of people’s violent tendencies. Some people are so disconnected from that emotion they physically couldn’t cry if they tried and my heart breaks for them.
Crying serves a purpose, it’s your body’s attempt to self regulate and get you out of fight or flight. I can understand not wanting to cry in front of others because I’m the same way but even if you need privacy to do it you still should be crying when your body needs a release.

Zack-Bann · Answer

My father was taught not to cry
He’s been repressing emotions his whole life.

BUT, he managed to raise and maintain a family, getting married in his early 30s

I’m a few years younger than he was but I’m nowhere near the level of adulthood he got to.

So my ability to “cry” has left me in touch with my emotions but a lot weaker for it.

So I wonder which of is the true winner at life

It seems to me like we both have pros and cons based on the way we tackle the world.

I wouldn’t say crying is a net positive at all.

indissoluble · Answer

You guys come up with weird shit. Nobody ever told me not to cry. In general boys raise ourselves and occasionally someone teaches us some shit about how to fix or build things mainly because they need someone to help them. Boys and parents don't sit down for emotional talks. Shit that never happened.

MrChinaski · Answer

Males sometimes fight, generally over women. They get hurt. Sometimes they die.

Essentially every male in history has had an incentive to look tougher than they are to take as many women they can without being killed fighting. Crying suggests you are hurt and hence easy to kill.

My point is, the choice was never to teach boys not to cry. That's the natural order of the world. The real choice is going away from millions of years of biology and teaching them to cry.

AviatorTom · Answer

I'm with you. I never taught my sons and daughter not to cry, and I'm glad I did. My son cried at his wedding, along with several men and women in the audience. Yes, I cried too.

genericname85 · Answer

No. It basically says "you can't express that emotion". Which then leads to the suppression or the transformation of the emotion. Like if the only negative emotion men are culturally accepted to display is anger, then guess what. Anger it'll be. And then men will have the "aggresive violent" stigma. And then also there's another complexity: women encourage that exact thing cause they're getting the ick if they see any other negative emotion than anger. So yeah.

exitseven · Answer

I do not have a problem with crying. Anyone who wants to dispute my manhood is welcome to try.

AgentG111 · Answer

Absolutely! Look what's wrong with our country today!

Anonymous · Answer

I'm 76 and I see grown ups crying  Especially when loosen a love one

ilistengood · Answer

At the risk of seeming to be less manly, its not uncommon for my allergies to get my eyes dripping

Mike_Hum · Answer

Men need to learn stoicism. Often crying is used to manipulate other's emotions

Anonymous · Answer

It was a great idea, made strong men and good times Now we have mostly weak men (if you can even call them that) and terrible times (probably the last time given AI will wipe out humanity)

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Never listened to such people

NathanDavis · Answer

personally, never ever heard of it...

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