What part of your personality was created as a survival strategy?

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ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

I've pretty well been the same person all my life after high school there was about 12 of us that would all be hanging out or doing things on the week ends I went to meet my real dad because he wanted me to take over his business the first week I was there I moved from his house because I found and old Sears catalog Victorian house that was in shambles I talked to the owners and I made a deal with her that I would redo the whole outside of the house and make it look brand new for either a set price or take some rent off one of the rooms so we did that and when I did that I kind of went on my own and my dad asked me when I moved out what I was going to do and I said my smart ass ways

I'm going to do what I came up here to do take over your business LOL but just probably in a different way

And we both laughed about that but it was true and it was kind of cool because while I was doing the house I was doing other jobs and him and I would have to bid against each other so we would meet up and we would always walk around the house together do a bid on it and he would always be lower than me but anyway all I did is I've worked up there so I was alone by myself kind of about 3 years later moved back to Reno got another place to live and sold that house and then got another one that I didn't really want but somebody asked me to help them so I did but anyway I've always been really kind of quiet left to my own I don't mind at all I do miss female companionship

But yeah I've always been basically the same way people too many people come to my house and they want to talk or need advice or whatever

I'm redoing this house right now and I'm going to sell it to and move again I usually don't tell anybody where I live except for my kids but slowly but surely people find out and it's all good I guess but it's just about time for me to start going to clubs again doing something I don't know what yet but I have to do something even if it's for a day LOL I can't stop laughing right now no I've been the same person I like me but too many people like me and probably for all the wrong reasons so I haven't ever really had to change to survive except for work

Laws-Of-Existence · Accepted Answer

All of it.  ㅤ

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Stubborn willingness to chase progress when nobody approves or understands it. I went from D’s to perfect A’s because God told me in a dream I would go to Harvard and I believed that dream that I would go to Harvard and I worked myself to straight A’s.

thegreenyogi · Accepted Answer

My observant and careful choice for words. I learnt that whatever I did or said would be used against me somehow so I directed the attention on others so to make believe there was nothing interesting about me and I made it about them instead.

Finchie40 · Answer

Pretty much all of it , that’s why I am still here today , I taught myself and been trained on. how to defend myself , I use to work as an armed Security officer that put me through self defense training and tactical defense trainings , to protect myself and others’ from violence. I have taught others’ self defense as well. Once you learn self defense and practice self defense on a regular basis , it can come natural to you. A big part of my job was to observe people , which I was trained on that as well. I am pretty good at observing someone on whether they are Going to do something or not. I been in some Situations where my self defense training has helped me survive , I have arrested people and protected myself and others’ from harm. Knock on wood I never had to shoot anyone but came close a few times. Learning self defense can be very beneficial to you, if you aren’t trained in it , I tell girls’ ’ all the time to learn self defense for themselves. You never know when someone might try to attack you or try to rape you. So it’s better to be safe than sorry

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Being the quiet Beatle. When people around you can make fun of you, tease you and even try to beat you up for ANYTHING you say or do, and you have no clue what next could set them off, you tend to try to become wallpaper.
Also, keeping to yourself most of the time and becoming heavily involved in whatever it is that you like and most interest you. For me, it was collecting records so, I'd spend lots of time in my room futzing around with my rather larger collection. Consequently, THAT'D get me into trouble, too!! If dad had some kind of household project he was working on, I was, SOMEHOW, just supposed to KNOW IT and come running to help him!! It never occurred to him to TELL me he was doing this or that and wanted help! And, his version of me helping was: I'm supposed to sit idly by with my thumbs up my ass until he needed a tool from the basement, he'd tell me what it was, I'd run down to get it. If I came up with the wrong tool, he'd get pissed at me for not knowing exactly what he wanted!! So, it was a constant no win situation!! If I "helped", I got yelled at! If I didn't help, I got yelled at!! So, I spent a great deal of my time on my bike riding 4 to 7 miles away hitting all the local record stores or visiting my grandmother and/or my cousin Billy. And, when I got back, I got yelled at for not being around to "help".
At school. no matter what I said or did, SOMEONE found an excuse to pick on me for it! Even if I was completely by myself, they find a way to pick a fight with me and I'D get into trouble for starting it!!

KBird · Answer

I didn't realize this until I got older, but I find that I either tend to sabotage relationships, or I remain guarded, as my family was quite flakey. I learned early that I couldn't trust people, and was often let down. I also found this with friends, as they would often move away, etc.

So, to survive the feeling of disappointment/heartbreak I would often keep people at a distance. I didn't socialize as much, and I had my guard up. Over the last few years I've been opening myself up more, and learning to trust others.

NathanDavis · Answer

literally... most of my confidence

I was extremely and painfully shy as a kid/earlier teens

so... there was no way I was going to survive "normal" interactions in this world and life, lmao... and so, yeah, I had to build and rebuild myself, through exposure and survival, over and over, through the years... till I finally got used to these things

forged in fire... I do like to say

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

I like this question a lot, because it kind of stings

I can appear nonplussed, distant, and I find this facet suspicious now that you made me think of it. Because it's like the opposite of the child's personality I seemed to have. It's part of me since decades now so I don't question it, I consider that its simply me. Yet this facet might very much be the product of some survival strategy... That's interesting... Thank you 👌🏼

MrChinaski · Answer

Oh, gosh. Where to begin?

I have a strong tendency to believe I am capable of achieving any goal if I put my mind to it and work at it. It's complete nonsense, but arguably is a productive false belief to hold.

I would go on but would quickly reach the 1000 word limit for an opinion.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

I've always presented myself as chaotic but dependable because a lot of things about me aren't exactly intuitive but they work and I've found if I lean into it the right way, people want to be a part of it rather then flat out reject it.

In fact, the better I get at it, the more it attracts people who are able to help me get ahead and it pushes away the types of people who I'm trying to avoid anyway.

OneViewpoint · Answer

Well all of it, LOL. Those who don't survive are the ones who selected the wrong strategies. Therefore if I have survived and thrived, the personality traits I have adopted were the ones that told me not to graze at the edge of the herd where the lions wait for the dumb ones to stray.

Nikki1989 · Answer

I gave up trying to please everyone.

queenofcardio · Answer

Maybe it's my ability to easily find things amusing. I'm too busy laughing that I'll forget about whatever brought me down 😂

lightbulb27 · Answer

For sure my response was emotional survival. I'm not so sure it's personality formed vs personality guided.

Account · Answer

The tendency to fully analyze something (a situation, a decision, a truth) or someone (a person) before fully trusting it.

Zack-Bann · Answer

My never say die attitude I think. Without it I would have been at the mercy of so many pitfalls I’ve had and keep having in life.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

Nothing was created. I evolved through 'natural selection'. What's survived is: the fittest version of myself :)

rgb008 · Answer

My ability to make people focus on a silly little object that I collect

exitseven · Answer

The part that is angry all the time and the part that does not give up.

Still-alive · Answer

I suppose my sense of humor developed over a desire to be accepted by people. often times it served its purpose lol.

Billlewis · Answer

Being able to get along with almost anyone, and being able to make people like me when they don't want to.

dragoblack · Answer

My emotional & mental walls and my love for martial arts

RFC1872 · Answer

Humor. When you grew up like I did the humor is sharp, dark and unrelenting.

Vevv123 · Answer

Niceness and my ability to stay poised in situations that are upsetting or difficult.

Butterfly2050 · Answer

Rudeness. I know I’m sweet but I shouldn’t be that to anyone. I’ll make it better by being diplomatic and dishonest instead of blunt and rude like Muricans.

AngryCarl3 · Answer

Initially avoidance and flat affect, in due course an indirect relationship with reality.

AgentG111 · Answer

Everything I will always fight the good fight!

DryGermanGuy · Answer

None is needed. The war is over. 🤷‍♂️

RavVid · Answer

Not reacting with a poker face.

Shiprex · Answer

My sense of humour and endless hope

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I’m serious

Premium2002 · Answer

to get them with kindness.

Effie1103 · Answer

To keep my head down.

gasman70 · Answer

almost all of it

Anonymous · Answer

my amygdala 🤷‍♀️

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