Have you taken your son to the doctor for the vomiting? He could suffer from an allergy or an infection that needs to be addressed, regardless of the beer. Children 2 and under can easily suffer from dehydration from vomiting. You should talk to your doctor about his alcohol consumption and the effects it could be having on him as well, him asking for some and the tantrums he has when denied. You don't say how often or how much your child is drinking, though I don't think an occasional sip is going to permanently damage him or turn him into an alcoholic. Of course when I say occasionally, I mean just that. Talk to your pedi about it and get his opinion.
As for your husband, it's a little more complicated. The struggle for who is the dominate parent can be a nasty one, a tug of war of wills. Sadly, it's the children that suffer the most from it. You guys need to sit down and discuss your parenting agenda to avoid more power struggles like these. I would not give my children sips of beer, though that is something my husband would not mind. But I'm the dominant parent so he honors my wishes to avoid sending conflicting messages to the kids (and a good ass kicking if he just doesn't do what I say). I know how hard it is to control what the other parent does, even when you are married, but the reality of it is this is something that can drive a huge wedge into your relationship, and affect your child's emotional well being if it isn't worked out. Unfortunately, if your husband refuses to compromise or even listen to your opinions about how you child should be raised - you can either leave him or learn to accept it.
Hope you get this worked out. If you're really pissed at him you can always call CPA to report him contributing alcohol to a minor - but that is extreme, even for me.
Good luck.
Are you for real. what do you think you should do? come on now, I think a 12 year old would know this, sorry if I'm going to sound mean. But you just sit there and let it happen, take it away, take him away. And what makes me mad and sick to my stomach is you just let it happen, so what he crys or get angry, YOU DO NOT DO THAT! He is 2 years old for crying out loud, do you have any idea what will happen to him, if you keep this up or let alone you guys? I am sry if I sound mean but I am very sick that you would even ask that question what should I do..
The giving of the beer would turn give any serious problems with the child although he is young, but my sister use to drink beer that was laying around at that age, I can guarantee you she's fine
The vomitting does seems odd, I would forsure get that checked out a sip shouldn't be making him vomit.
And your husbands being pretty childish if he thinks your over reacting specially since it is a big deal if your son is getting sick. I would refuse to let there be beer in the house for a while I'm sure hell smarten up pretty quick.
Wow, that's so fucked up. At first I thought he was doing it to make sure he would never drink beer in his life. But he keeps doing it which means he wants the kid to develop an early addiction which is incredibly stupid and unhealthy.
When I was young my mother blind folded me and gave me random things to taste. I had to guess what I was tasting. She started with all kinds of delicious and sweet flavors of course. Then came the beer lol. That shit was so disgusting I sweared I would never drink beer ever again. And here I am today, 25 years later, never been so proud of my mom lol. I'm so glad I never started smoking or drinking beer because of this.
But again, this isn't what your husband seems to be doing. Call the cops or something if he keeps doing this. It could be considered child abuse or complete idiocy. He's endangering the child's health and this could have serious consequences on his development.
While he is sitting in front of the TV watching NASCAR or wrestling, I would calmly get a meat cleaver, grab hold of the power chord and chop it in two. Then, I would ask him to follow you outside. After dropping a match in the gas tank of his four-wheeler and tossing his bowling ball under the trailer, I would stand in front of the pick-up truck and calmly explain that when you see him giving beer to your kid, you start to have funny thoughts about removing his testicles with a meat cleaver when he is asleep. Then, just smile, kiss him on the forehead and say "I love you Bubba, wanna go huntin' ?"
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Oh my GOD! that's horrible! :( protect that poor child. you can't give in to his tantrums. if I were you, I'm sorry to say, but I would not want anything to do with that husband. I don't know how the rest of your relationship is, but judging on the fact that he gives your 2 year old BEER, I'm assuming the worst. my advice is to leave the guy and at court tell them about the beer so you can get custody and protect your poor son. if you don't do that, at LEAST never give into your childs tantrums for that (he'll get over it soon) and never, EVER let your husband o that again. and I would take your son to a doctor so you can make sure no severe damage was done and if there is to get the right treatment.
You and your husband need serious and long-term therapy for alcoholism and related issues.
You know this is warped. Why aren't you protecting your child? Why haven't you moved out?
State agencies routinely remove children from their families for behavior like this.
If I knew where you lived, I'd drop a dime on you. This is sick and wrong.
Don't give him the beer for one, he'll get over it eventually.
Tell your husband that he either has to stop giving your son beer or you're going to leave him, and you're going to have to follow through with that promise. It may be hard for you but he's not a person who should be raising a child if he's doing such things.
If you absolutly must stay with him, don't allow him to keep beer in the house and don't leave your son in his care until you're positive he's not going to give him anymore.
Warn your husband that if he doesn't stop that you will call social services on him. Warn him ONCE and then follow through with it. Tell them that he won't stop giving your kid beer. Social services will probably show up to your house talk with your husband and tell him if he does it again he will be arrested. Then if he does it again, have him arrested. (Don't worry, he likely won't get jail time). Doing all this proves to him that you are serious about your son not drinking alcohol at this young of an age. The implications could be very dangerous, not to mention it's extremely illegal. Hopefully you won't have to take it this far and he will stop with the social services.
Bottom line you need to take action. Not another drop for the kid NO MATTER WHAT. Warn your husband of what you are going to do and then DO IT!
Good luck~
Did you also ask this on Dear Cupid? I answered there but thought I should add that I agree with those who have said that you should take the child to a doctor.
Also although my dad (and also my mom at least once) let me drink alcohol when I was young I do not drink now and I've sworn off drinking for the rest of my life.
if he vomits when he drinks it, why does he want it? that's really odd! Call a child therapist and ask them to talk to your husband, most likely he will be more inclined to listen to a professional. Honestly a tiny bit of beer isn't going to make him an alcoholic, but at his age it's just not good for his health.
Um does your husband realize that totally illegal?!? Doesn't matter if its just a sip. My dad did give my sister whiskey when she was that age, only because she would go around drinking beers of they were left out. She never did it again after that. But that's totally different. You better hope your child doesn't ask for beer when your out in public. Someone's bound to call CPS.
i don't know why you even asking this question..its clear DO NOT GIVE BEER TO A CHILD! especially to a 2 year old. Honestly not to be rude but you are a mother you need to protect your kid, He keeps vomiting are you kidding me!? I understand if the child was like a teen and he gave him a sip its still wrong, but to a 2 year old, that's just wrong. Give your husband a lecture tell him to stop and its bad for the baby his organs are still DEVELOPING, you are messing with his health!
That is about as dumb as you can get! It's bad for the child and illegally, good thing your trying to stop that, it can cause liver and kidney problems at that young age. Stop that kind of action now! CPS will take your kid
Giving your child beer can turn him into an alcoholic later...what is he thinking.He needs to grow up and be an adult.It would be totally different if your son picked it up and took a sip on his own but for him to give him beer is just morally wrong.What kind of parent would do that.I have 2 children and would kick my husbands ass if he ever tryed!
he needs to know how dangerous alcohol is
try and analogize it with posion...
i hate lying but maybe telling ur son that what he is drinking is poison may help...
i'm sorry this is happening. good luck with the both of them.
you should help ur husband understand that the alcohol could kill or make ur son addicted.
you may blow away money to feed the addiction.
beer is an alcoholic beverage
it can be toxic to the liver especially to kids because their threshold of tolerance for that type of substance is very low
it's not a joke
definitely talk to a doctor
tell him to go to a medical professional
give him scientific evidence
it's a no brainer. would totally stop it.
My uncle used to do that with his son and it is never right. You need to have a serious talk with your husband about this and voice your opinion strongly. You should be entitled to a say about this because it's your son as well. That is just not right and you are not overracting by any means! If your husband does not care enough to consider your opinon as well, I would warn about leaving him if I were you.
your hubby is needs help if he thinks its ok to give a toddler beer. if the child cries, let him because you know its best to not give it to him just to keep him quiet. you are an accomplice of hurting that child if you do it period for whatever reason.
This is such a bad idea, and completely dangerous for the kid. Your kid needs to be removed from the situation, and your husband needs help.
Voice record your next argument about this (if there is one), take it to court for evidence for custody of the kid, and separate from/divorce this moron. 2 year olds shouldn't be spoiled; It's just bad for their development and creates problems later in life.
Call a lawyer and tape your conversation with him where he talks about giving beer to the child. Then call child protection services and tell them you want custody of the children. Then divource your husband. I grew up in an abusive home. I had an eating disorder for 6 years because my mohter told me I was fat and ugly, my dad would not take me to a doctor, because he wanted to make my mother happy. Now I hate both of them and hope they burn in hell (and they will because God is real)
omfg ur husband is a idiot! omg tell ur kidif he cries wen he doesn't get what he wants he'll get a time out 4 ten minutes.. if ur husband does it again I wood take the kid and leave fer a while.if he calls the po-po he'll be the one in trouble not u.
Thats child abuse..and illegal. I would in a very serious tone point this out to him and let him know you won't put up with it. Add to it that your child is vomiting...something is seriously wrong here. Personally, if that was happening to my child, I would be out of there. She means more to me than staying with any man.
give him egg nog!
It's milk, kind of
and it has alcohol in it!
pretty soon the baby will cry and have hangovers
maybe when he's 3 he can teach the kid how to play beer png!
jk
yeah, that's not right
feeding a 2-year old beer is bad
and the state could remove the kid from your house
This isn't good because this just started a habit and will eventually start a worse habbit when your son gets older. If your husband acts like he doesn't care, tell him that you will leave him if he keeps this up. Then he might realize how important being a father is. Do it for the safety of your son.
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