I love my husband a lot, but when he drinks he’s like a whole different person, he gets very silly and annoying when he drinks. Last night was when I noticed how bad it is he pissed all over our bed and tried to put me in it, I wish I could say I was exaggerating but I’m not. He also likes to get on top of me with all his weight (in a playful way not sexual) and he’s a big man he’s 6’3 and around 250 pounds while I’m 5’1 and 110 pounds so it hurts a lot (I have literal bruises from it) I try to tell him it hurts and to stop but he won’t listen. And when I don’t listen to his dumb request he gets real mad like his “silly” attitude turns into aggression, he gets real scary when he’s mad.
And the worst part is when he’s sober he denies and denies, he said I was the one that pissed on the bed and trying to blame it on him so I can get him to stop drinking.
I have no idea what to do, and I’m afraid it’s going to grow into something worse.
Any advice?
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This problem will get worse before it gets better. You didn't sign up for this, and he likely didn't plan to become like this. As his wife, you owe it to stand by to allow him to get help and change this if he chooses to, but as a woman you do not owe it to him to stay if he does not. Right now, you are sending a message that you are okay with the behaviour as long as you do nothing about it. Saying you prefer him sober, or you enjoyed how things were when you first met can give him clues that there is a problem today. Set your boundaries if you must, that you will not sleep in the same bed if he's been drinking, and try to let him know that it's his responsibility to clean the bedding if he soils it. If you fear telling him any of this, you should take steps to get help outside the marriage.
You can Google social services in your area for Al-anon or other counselling that can steer you into a direction that can help you both.
Alls you gotta do is put him on a drink limit. Let's say 3 or 2. Whatever the number is before he gets drunk
Then tell him if he don't control that shit you gonna leave and don't be bluffing either. Cause you've told him maybe times and he's don't listen. Which means he dont give a fuckkk what you've got to say
Set up a camera and video-record his drunken tirades, preferably several instances. I have read that replaying the police bodycam videos of DUI/PI arrests have the most profound effect on defendants in the courtroom.