you should go regardless. You do love him right and are happy?
Ensure him he has no reason for concern.
He obviously thinks you're going to get drunk and get off with someone else... He's insecure so you must be cute 😝, lol sorry for the last part (I'm a cheeky git and can't help it).
Seriously though, so long as you let him know you're safe and doing well every now and then there's no harm.
If you just want to change his mind, simple solution is to use sex to get your answer, try option 1 though and be honest.
Your marriage will only be as strong as your foundation.
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I mean can you not have a good time without getting drunk, that one line "8-10 drunk girls in a foreign country is a recipe for bad decisions" would insult my pride, I can control myself and it really isn't too different assuming you all payed for things equally , ask him exactly what he did on his trip and promise to do the same, that's about all I can say, if it gets any bigger or if he gets angrier about this, I don't think you guys are ready to be married... freedom is needed, and obligations like what? what is he getting at that you'll throw away?
1.) you want to go
2.) you can afford ( time and money) to go
Your husband 'won't let you go'? Wtf?
Does the party sound: Excessive probably, Unsafe - maybe.
Mostly to me it sounds like he's controlling who spends money on what. And saying '8 drunk women in a foreign country is a recipe for bad decisions...' fuck that. That's what I say. Think he'd feel the same way if his friend wanted to have a stag party in the same way? I don't fuckin think so.
Since you really seem like you wanna go.. I'd ask my husband to come with me. He can just go off and enjoy the resort while I'm with the girls. But tbh if it was actually me I'd just stay home with my man. It's your life though.
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You think it's unfair he feels otherwise.
I doubt that you can change his mind.
I don't know if this is insecurity, selfishness or something else...
But let him know how important this is to you, that this isn't something that can ever be experienced again.
If he doesn't budge you'll either have to leave (possibly ask if your marriage was excessive use of money) or accept that.
Possibly also get some money of your own.
You're fully justified in being royally pissed at him for a while I think.Personally, I think he might think you might be put in an "uncomfortable" position where you might do something you'll regret. You do know what goes on during some of these bachelorette parties right? High possibility of alcohol and intoxication, plus male strippers can lead to you doing something that you regret. That's what I would be concerned about if my wife wanted to go to a bachelorette party.
Maybe you can come up with some sort of compromise? Maybe it would settle his nerves if you promised not to drink. That way, there would be at least one designated sober person present at all times. Just an example.
Plus, $500 isn't that much money. Go work at McDonald's for 2 weeks.He has a double standard. You have a right to go and if he won't be honest about his actual fears, (most likely that you will get drunk and sleep with someone), then you really him to grow up. He is your husband l, you love him, but this is your best friend, someone you also love. And if he can't appreciate that, he is being a bit of a bitch.
yeah it's not fair or ok.
1. he shouldn't be so controlling
2. he should trust you
3. he can't hold you to a standard and himself to a different standardJust tell him the male strippers will keep the jock straps on unless they bring out the tequila shots.
He's sounds concerned for you and your safety.. maybe set up an agreement to call each other at certain times of the day to see how you're doing
In Britain we've just introduced a law to stop controls Greeks like your husband, a local man's just been convicted of trying to controls his girlfriend.
You don't need help, you need to overt your husband.
He's explained more than well enough why you aren't being allowed to go.It's your decision, if he can't handle that y'all have some issues to work on when you get back.. Aa have a blast be safe...
He might something jelious of it. He shouldn't controlling you. it is not fair
If it was for one night then no big deal but it's a few days in another country, maybe he can go too but just not the party
Can you bring your husband along?
He has a point. You are married now.
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