Girl shows a ton of interest, then doesn't respond. What now?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I met this girl a month ago. We talked for 5 min and I got her number. Since then we've talked for hours on the phone but have never found time to meet up. She really likes me, thinks my voice is nice, says she wants to kiss me, says she wants me to spend the night and to "bring a condom" haha, and the list goes on... I called her a few days ago w/o an answer but she responded last night. We talked about getting together tonight and on the phone she said "I love you" but when I said "really, already?" she said "well I love you as a person", then later said how she really wants to kiss me, and then we made plans to meet tonight at 10:30 but I don't have her address. Then when we were hanging up last night, she blew me a kiss and said goodnight and asked me to text her.

So I texted her saying "Hey, do you have yahoo messenger? We should talk on there if you do!" But she didn't respond. Now it's the day where we're supposed to hang out but she didn't respond and I don't have her address. We are supoosed to meet up at 10:30 at night...so what should I do now? Should I call her? If so, when?

And do you think we are actually going to hang out tonight? I mean, she said all those things but then doesn't respond :/ ugh!

[Surfinforlife]

She's either a flaker or she's just playing the game of attraction with you. In my experience, girls will show some interest but tend to pull away to see if you'll actually chase them and show interest.

If this is the case and she seems like a decent girl, go chase her a bit, show interest, text her, flash her those pearly whites, make her laugh. But if you're showing too much interest she could get uninterested. It's all about being comfortable with yourself and the situation. Act like the guy who has the mentality of, "I'm just taking my time. You date around and have fun, if a girl doesn't work out you go on to the next one." Just have fun man

[That-Guy]

This girl sounds like a nut case and you sound desperate...

Come on, an "i love you" without ever really interacting?

Don't call her and move on. If she does like you, she'll be clingy as hell.

[Asker]

She didn't mean it as I love you. It was more like I love you as a person...personality, how I can make her laugh, ect.. and how do I sound desperate?

[help22]

Call her and find out, cause if she isn't replying is maybe cause something else must have come up or maybe ( hope not) she was joking with you all along. So just call her and find out the truth!

[Asker]

If we don't get together tonight, I'm done with her. I can't put up with this sh*t. I really doubt she was joking with me... I mean, we've been talking on the phone for probably around 6 hours now I'd say. That's a lot of time to develop a joke... especially when she sounds genuine about wanting to kiss me and then blowing me a kiss at the end? Ugh..

[help22]

Look, just phone her and find out!maybe she completely forgot that you don't have her address or maybe she was busy. PIXK UP THE DAMN PHONE AND ALL HER NOW!

[help22]

Look, just phone her and find out!maybe she completely forgot that you font have her address or maybe she was busy. PIXK UP THE DAMN PHONE AND ALL HER NOW!

[help22]

Call*

[help22]

Bloody iPhone's

JUST CALL HER NOW!

[Asker]

Haha it's only 11:30 where I am now so I'll wait a bit more before calling. But I will!

[help22]

Let me know how it goes LOL

[Asker]

Not good. She didn't answer...

[help22]

Ohh, try again!

[Asker]

She's a psycho. If you care to read, look at the comment I made on one of the guys below. It'll explain what happened.

[hayfa]

Who was the last one to message or call? If it was her, maybe she is expecting you to call/confirm on the day that you're still on for it

[Asker]

It was me... the last contact we had was me asking "Hey, do you have yahoo messenger? If you do we should talk on there!"

[hayfa]

well in that case, you should probably wait for her to get back to you...you don't want to seem desperate either running after her when she didn't already even respond to your previous question about yahoo messenger

[Asker]

But I sent that last night. We are supposed to get together in about 8 hours and I still don't have her address... it should be OK to call, right? I won't spam her phone or anything, I'll just call once and if she doesn't answer, I'll hang up and wait for her to contact me. If she contacts me today, I'll get together with her. If not, I'll call her out on being a flake and tell her we should stop talking. Honestly, I can't put up with this.

[hayfa]

ok I guess you could call to ask, and if she doesn't pick up etc you should just leave it since she doesn't seem serious

[Asker]

Yeah, I called. No answer. Its up to her now.

[hayfa]

Well I don't think you should think about it too much, just let it be and move your focus away from her onto more important things

[Asker]

It's not just this why I'm upset. I had plans with a different girl that I actually really care for on Wednesday and she apparently got really busy. Then I had plans on Friday with someone else and they fell through as well. Then this. Add this to my best girl friend who I really want to date kinda ignoring my attempt to hang out with her alone. She wants to hang out, but always with someone else. I'm just in a sh*tty position right now.

[hayfa]

i see. Well what you need to do is not care about any of them till one proves she does care for you through actions, not plain words

[Asker]

Here, what about this one? link

That is the girl for Wednesday...the one I really care about. She did that but then made excuses not to get together even when she said she wants to see me on Wednesday right after holding hands...

[hayfa]

well personally I would not. But then again some people don't mind..or it seems so anyway, I think this would hugely depend on the girl in question. What is she like around others? Would she casually hold hands with another guy?

[Asker]

I don't think interlocking fingers for 10 minutes is ever just casual. Then she ditches me for Wednesday. I have more info that I asked to someone else on here if you'd want to hear more about it... if not, it's not big deal.

[hayfa]

yeh I'm really not sure, all these girls sound unstable to me, I don't know, it could be they just want temporary attention, it could be a bunch of things. Maybe she does like you but isn't sure what she wants. The only way to really know these things is to just ask her. You need to talk to her or them and before getting all close and cuddly or too close and cuddly find out where you stand before creating expectations

[Asker]

Should I talk to her about where we stand in person, or should I just text her? And if we should do it in person, how should I get time to hang out with her again? I texted her last on Monday where I said she should let me know if anything changes but she hasn't texted me since then. I want to see her again but I don't want to come off clingy.

[hayfa]

well I don;t think you should text her if she didn't get back to you again. If a girl likes you, she would get back to you for sure.

[Asker]

Well I didn't ask her a question. My last text was something along the lines of "Alright just my know if anything changes! You could always just skip your cabin :P but have a goodnight." and she didn't respond. She never really did respond to goodnight texts.

[TheUglyOne]

Sounds like a flake. I'm gonna vote no.

[Asker]

Then why would she say all of those things? Just weird.

[TheUglyOne]

If I were to guess, which is all I can really do here, I'd say she caught in the excitement of the moment and later realized all she said. But who knows though, except maybe her.

[Asker]

She's been saying we should meet up for a while now. She's said she wants to kiss me multiple times, not just on the last call. I'm not sure even she knows what's going on :/

[TheUglyOne]

haha she probably doesn't. My suspicion meter gets raised when I run across a woman who acts TOO eager after just shortly meeting.

[Asker]

Yeah, she's a psycho. I'm not going to see her ever. I called her, no answer. She calls me back a few hours later and the reception was bad so I couldn't hear her well and she hung up on me(she does that frequently). I called back and the same thing happened where I couldn't hear her and she got impatient with it and hung up. I waited and hour, called back with no response. I give up haha, she's not worth my time :P