What's the best revenge you can get on an ex that has hurt you?

[carmenS]

Would you curse them out? Break out their car windows? Or would you just let them go?

[Fiona83]

Here's what happened:

I was 18, he was 17. He was my first boyfriend and I his first girlfriend. We were both virgins.

One day I got a phone call from my (now ex) boyfriend's dacning instructor (she was 25, a friend of my mom) telling me that she can't be his instructor anymore and that she needs to tell me the reasons. She told me he always felt very aroused while dancing with her and even told her (!) that he fantasizes about her, which she tried to ignore at first, until she eventually received a letter from him.

She showed me that letter later. He wrote her how he can't stop masturbating fantasizing about her giving him a BJ, and he also wrote how sexually frustrated he is was with me cause I wasn't ready for sexual stuff yet and that I always give him "blue balls" whne we're dry humping. I was a late bloomer and didn't feel quite comfortable yet doing sexual favors for him, so it's true that he must have been very frustrated never having been sexually pleased by him. BUT...telling all this private stuff to his dance instructor and openly telling her how he fantasizes about her is completely off! I was so hurt and SO PISSED!

So here's what my revenge was:

The next day we were invited to some friends having dinner and then partying a little. I put on my sexiest clothes, one I knew would drive himn crazy. At dinner I sat facing him and I put my foot between his legs under the table and kept rubbing his boner over his pants the whole time. Later at the party I danced with him and totally grinded my butt against his crotch for several songs. Then I wispered into his ear "let's go upstairs, I got a surprise for you".

So we went upstirs and locked in a room. I told him to sit on the edge of the bed, I knelt in front of him on the floor to give him a BJ. He said "I'm not sure I can take this today" (cause I have blown him before, but never finished, so he thought I'd just tease him again) and I said "no no, today I'M gonna let you finish...and in my mouth if you want", and he got so excited!

So I gave him the most sensual BJ for a while, then I told him to give me a sign right before he cums, so I could increase my movements. As he was about to come he said "I'll come in like 5 seconds!" and so I stopped! He was like "What are you doing?!?! I will come any moment!" and I smiled at him and said "I changed my mind" an he was like "You'd just have to continue for like 5 seconds max., PLEASE!" and I smiled and said "maybe you can ask your dance instructor tp finsih you" and stood up and left the room.

That was the end of my first relationship.

[xoxBugzyxox]

Seriously, you're psycho. If they hurt you that much just forget tem and show them that you're happy without them. If you want any revenge, that's the way to do it. If they see you happy an that you don't need them they'll probably get jealous. Just don't get back with them though, especially since you're psycho enough to smash out their windows. Dude you're like under 18, if you take it like this now... Imagine what you'll be like when you're older and going through a breakup. Jail for you mate and then... FOREVER ALONE. Just drop it, stuff him and stuff what he did or thinks. They're aren't worth it. :) ¥ O_o ¥ peace

[CrystalMinds]

Best revenge? Show them you're having a great life without them! I got my share of bad boyfriends and I really wanted them to feel worse than they made me feel. But where will revenge get you? Nowhere. Just shows that you can't move on. Just rub it in that you don't need them, that you don't care on how they are now and that you have an amazing life without them.

Just cut them out, ignore them and try to move on, pretend you have moved on.

[Anonymous]

The perfect revenge that would be like saying they perfect way to commit a crime it depends on how much they actually cared about you (if they cared at all). If they did not care their is no real perfect revenge unless you know their weakness for example if they love their family and you find out a family secret that can break them apart and you do it that would probably not be good though as it will not change anything that has happened to you it only spreads the pain out to everyone else. You may also say how unimportant the relationship was and how the person was just a toy to be used in your own personal experiment until it's use was fulfilled. Although revenge is usually not the best answer to things.

The best passive revenge is probably not to do anything at all since would cause you less grief some times the best thing to do is just let go of the feelings for revenge. Hate can only cause more Hate and the more you bring the more that will end up out there in the world. But instead if you spread more of the positive emotions you will become happier in turn the best revenge since revenge is done so that you can feel better but this revenge will make you happier longer.

[rabster]

The worst thing you can do to an ex is to completely ignore them.

Even when a break is really bad, when there were massive arguments an ex will still want you to have feelings for them, that there will still be a desire within you to want them back even if they were the one who broke up with you.

Letting them hear you miss them, loved them, that your angry with them, hate them, it's all the same because they then know your thinking about them, they are on your mind.

Don't contact them in any way, don't reply or even defend yourself if you hear they've said things about you and don't even speak to friends about them or what happened in the relationship even though that is incredibly hard to do. For them to hear nothing, for them to think your just not interested and that you've literally wiped them from your memory, that is a million times better than any silly act of revenge you might take.

[OpenClose]

The worst revenge I think I could give them is to just let the carry on.

I once dated a girl who was seriously manipulative, and seemed fairly condemning of men.

After we broke up, she was upset because her longest relationship had been about 2 months or so. She was wondering why she kept getting "the bad people" and refused to take responsibility for her own failed relationships thanks to her stupid standards.

So I basically said "Don't take it personally, there's nothing wrong with you." Immediately knowing that this would only reinforce her predicament.

If someone is an a**hole. The best revenge you can give them is to not call them out on it. Either they will fix it, or they will be obliviously haunted by it.

Otherwise, communication is always the best policy. Remember that one first... Assholes need feedback to realize why people think they're a**holes.

[wstt2]

The very best revenge you can have on an ex, is to do nothing but move on, start dating someone new and be happy with the new person. It can't be moving on just so they can see you with someone new though, you have to be happy and not care if the ex even knows and not care what the ex even thinks about you and the new person. That's what gets to an ex most, seeing you with someone new but seeing you happy and not even thinking about them. Seeing you've moved on quickly and you can make someone else happy and be happy yourself is the most hurtful to them long term. (If your new relationship is fake, or if you just want the ex to see it and you really haven't moved on, then the ex will still know in the back of their mind that they have the upper hand because you're not over them.)

Trash talking and damaging their property is short lived, makes you look crazy, and makes the ex and their friends just laugh at you. It just proves to them that the ex has the upper hand.

[GoodManDave]

Live well. As trite as it may sound.

Sadly, while I am happier without either one, and while I am much better off not dating them, I don't exactly have the kid of life that if I accidentally bumped into them, where they'd happen to be jealous, and I've gotten really successful without them. While part of me is all for the living well just for it's own merit, I admit part of me says that ironically bumping into them when looking amazing, or being at my happiest (or, say, with a gorgeous smart new girlfriend) would be pretty cool.

[Anonymous]

unfortunately I think I have... there was a photo of here with out a top... she sent it btw! she dumped me for another guy, then the same to that guy... it lasted to I think my count was 21 different guys, a couple of months ago I got fed up, cause she destroyed me, she got my friends to abandon me, even my best friend... so... when we had a fight there was a bunch of people (unfortunately again mostly girls...) and I showed them the photo, she ended up punching me in the neck about 8-9 times but she got the worse of it, she got suspended and I got away scott free.

[gemglam]

What I do to my exes is keeep them around making sure they see how well I am doing, how great I look, how over them I have gotten and how better looking my new guy is while still being very unavailable and being very nice to them. That way they see a behavior that's unexpected and don't know how to react. Often times they want me back badly snd that's where the revenvge comes in because its hard not getting something you really want plus living with a really bad regret is torture.

[Anonymous]

Personally getting revenge is only going to make it hurt more. You should just let them go and move on, that's the best you can do. Seeking revenge will do no good, it would be best if you just move on with your life and show them that you can survive without them.

[Anonymous]

I've found that the very best revenge is to distance yourself.

I did this to a guy and it drove him crazy. He thought we were friends after he screwed me over. I was nice to him when we'd see each other, but any time he wanted to hang out I was busy. Any time he texted me I was unavailable. I could tell it bothered him that he no longer had my attention and I loved every minute of it. He started offering to do things for me and was really nice. I almost felt bad. Almost.

[jofherylle]

Revenge won't do good to you. It would just hurt you more. Forget him. Move on. Do something to make yourself prettier. There are still great guys out there. The world is so big to be stucked to only one.

[XRabbitHeartX]

I've come to realize what stings the most is if the person disappears like there never existed anything. That's a bitch.

[sourpatchchik2]

Uhhh let's see. Start dating again. Find Mr. Right. Fall in love. Completely forget about the ex because your life is so perfect now. Yep.

[OftenHeartBrokenGuy]

Send them a note say omg the sex with this new guy is nothing that you have given me whether it happened or not just say that and this will kill his male ego also tell

how long and good it was

[martyfellow]

Let him see you snuggling with some 'nice guy.' Even if you just agree to stage it with the nice guy...

[QueenBeatris]

just get on with your life,revenge is him knowing you have a happy life with out him,he will hate it that you are not suffering or begging him

[cinnamongirl]

Showing him that your life is so much better without him.

[freewill10]

you should say that you are popular. your where its at. put the focus on you.

[Anonymous]

Forgive them. Let them go.
Just wouldn't hold a grudge.
Better to be non reactive they'll understand eventually.
Just keep my hurt to myself.

[Anonymous]

Moving on to someone better who makes you happier and completely forgetting them

[Robotic]

How did he hurt you? merely by breaking up with you? move on

[GGGGGG_unit]

leave them alone and let karma deal with them.

[Anonymous]

Move on I agree with wstt2. because crying about it won't do any good.

[technogirl42]

the best revenge on an ex is for them to see you happy without them in your life. that you moved on and you don't need them anymore

[Anonymous]

Be happy! Nothing says "shove it" like moving on. Breaking car windows, keying his car just shows him that he was right to part ways with you, plus it's illegal and if you're caught he wins again.

[prophecy]

ignore him and move on with your life.

[TheGoodTheBadTheHOT]

best revenge?

To move on.

[Anonymous]

I'd kill them with kindness. Even though I'd love to put a piece of porcelain threw all her windows tho.

[Anonymous]

Smartest idea would be to let it go..because you don't know what they will have in return.

[jacquesvol]

Ignore him/her completely.

[sikoo31]

revenge is not the way.

[NoOneListens21]

Move on and do better

[Drast]

Your revenge is that they don't have you anymore.

[michael0314]

get a blowjob from her little sister LOL

[Anonymous]

Best revenge is date up a class or two! Move on!

[Anonymous]

"Living well is the best revenge."

[CatholicVirginia]

Niles: "It's a wonderful expression. Just don't know how true it is. Don't see it turning up in a lot of opera plots. 'Ludwig, maddened by the poisoning of his entire family, wreaks vengeance on Gunther in the third act by living well.'"

Frasier: "All right, Niles." [heads into the kitchen]

Niles: [follows him] "'Whereupon Woton, upon discovering his deception, wreaks vengeance on Gunther in the third act again by living even better than the Duke.'"

[Anonymous]

Be happy and don't sweat it

[XNicholex3]

Be happy.

[internet_guy]

seek a therapist?

[Anonymous]

Break car windows