My Girlfriend deactivated her account after I posted that I am Thankful for her.

[shadowarrior99]

After I posted that I'm thankful for my girlfriend on FB for Thanksgiving, she deactivated her account. Wtf? Does she not want someone to see that type of stuff on her account?

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she said she deactivated her account because it depressed her and she spends too much time on it. What do ya think?

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She cheated on me. She didn't like the comment because she was cheating on me with another guy at the time, and he and her family would have seen it. She wanted to make me disappear.

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I've uploaded my memoir on lying and cheating to Amazon's Kindle. It will be free for another four days (until August 26th), then will cost 99 cents.

The memoir even integrates Girlsaskguys, using questions and answers from this particular relationship, and shows the correct explanation.


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[bobtheinquizitor]

That is entirely possible. Like I said, people deactivate their accounts every day, and it is probably for the best. Facebook and other internet sites can take up a lot of our time each day. Especially if it is making her feel more depressed, it is probably for the best. You want to avoid things that would encourage you to feel depressed if you can help it. If this is true, I applaud her for having the willpower to do something like that.

If it is true.

Either way, just keep lines of communication open with her, but do not pressure her, lest you risk driving her away.

Just assume the best and trust her. Worst case scenario, you find she is untrustworthy, and therefore not worth your time. Or, she is being honest and you worried over nothing.

Stay strong.

[shadowarrior99]

She was untrustworthy.

[bobtheinquizitor]

First thing, stay calm. This might not have anything to do with you. People deactivate their FB accounts a lot. More and more every day. Even if something you said gave her enough reason to, I still wouldn't worry about it.

Just talk to her about it and see what she is thinking. It could be something else entirely. Or, you could learn more about her and her opinions on things. Use it as an opportunity to get to know her better.

[chocofrog1]

I agree with you. Also, you need to have open communication if you want things to work with her

[shadowarrior99]

Sure. THe problem is that she is on vacation in another state in the mountains, where she said her phone does not get a good enough signal to text or talk on the phone, so basically I have to wait until Sunday or until she texts/calls.

I mean, why else would her account be deactivated? It just really upset me.

[bobtheinquizitor]

At this point, your best bet is to just be patient. She said she'll call you, so just wait. Don't think about it too much, because if it is nothing, then you'll have worried for nothing.

Or, since she had a FB, she has an email, so maybe emailing her would be another idea to try.

But communicate your feelings to her and see how she reacts.

[ahemmm]

this

[shadowarrior99]

check my update and let me know what you think

[enigmatta]

Deactivating an account is taking things a bit too far if she did it for disliking the gesture. like people already said, she could have deleted it, hide it... but bring down the whole thing... I think it's too much. talk to her. you said she's coming back on Sunday. Ask her so casually why she did it, but don't drive attention to your post. be more general, "I noticed your account is down, is something up?"

You know her more than we all. Would she appreciate that gesture or not? Is everything alright between you? etc.

[shadowarrior99]

check my update and let me know what you think

[EmpressMe]

It's possible. She may just be a private person like me. I don't want my business aired on FB and I'd never be updating my relationship online for the worldwide web of strangers and hundreds of aquaintneces to stick their nose in. But idk, deactivating the account over the comment seems extreme. Maybe her deactivating the account didn't have anything to do with you saying that and you're reading too much into it?

[M_A_X]

Then why do you have a Facebook?

[EmpressMe]

Excuse me Max, I didn't realize that Facebook was specifically for displaying your relationship online.

[shadowarrior99]

check my update

[EmpressMe]

@ update, that makes sense. See, you shouldn't be quick to assume that a situation is all about you

[enigmatta]

Such a bitch! How did you find out and how did it all end?

[shadowarrior99]

Im writing a memoir about it, actually. I'm using my Facebook messages, girlsaskguys posts, and twitter for the book.

She blamed me as to why the relationship went bad, because we kept getting in arguments over her ex. She was talking to and seeing her ex two months before I posted this. I found out through twitter (she kept it private so I couldn't see, and she made it public). She stopped talking to me once I found out and never said sorry. She's dating the guy--the ex--she cheated on mewith

[shadowarrior99]

She was a good liar, and I was inexperienced as it was.

[tadpole25]

It is true that when people are cheating they make sure the other person they are with can't see what you wrote on their page.

But she could have deactivated her account for numerous reasons. A big one is to avoid procrastination, especially if she is a student coming back from Thanksgiving break.

What you should do is calmly and politely ask her why, in an innocent curious and non-confrontational way.

[shadowarrior99]

check my update and let mek now what you think

[tadpole25]

i think you should just trust her.

i don't think she would cut herself off from the whole world just to keep an affair. if there were an affair, she'd probably just keep her Facebook but block posts on her wall (as one of my friends boyfriend did.

im saying, don't be paranoid and unless there's direct evidence, give her the benefit of the doubt

[Lara90]

How long are you two together? Maybe she's not into that kind of showing love or thinks that it's to early for something like that. And maybe that's not the reason. Maybe she deactivated her account for some other reason (she hangs on fb a lot etc.). Just talk to her, ask what you want to know.

[shadowarrior99]

check my update and let me know what you think

[Lara90]

That can be true. If you spend to much time there it can make yo feel depressed, and you just forget about time, don't have energy to do other stuff...a lot of people say that's the reason for deactivating their fb account.

[prettymuscle]

Its means she takes you as a joke and your not number one to her

[shadowarrior99]

check my update

[CrystalMinds]

If she wouldn't want anybody seeing that, she could delete it, tell you to stop posting stuff like that or making it unvisible for others. There may be no direct relation between the two events.

Ever thought about asking her?

[shadowarrior99]

check my update and let me know whta you think

[CrystalMinds]

I think she's telling the truth. Facebook is getting quite overrated and I know other people who deleted their account because it took up too much time and caused too much drama. Don't read too much into it, I'm sure she didn't delete it because of your post!

[greycadillacs]

I think she just would have deleted the comment or hidden it from her timeline instead of deactivating her entire account. There seems to be more going on with her decision to do that.

[shadowarrior99]

check my update and let me know what you think

[Anonymous]

yeah, her husband.

[Lj236]

lol

[Opinion Owner]

DUDE! Stop thinking about this! One person does not delete an ENTIRE Facebook account because of one measly little post, she has other reasons for acting in her life than you, now pleas, get over it and resume normal relationship activities! Jesus.

[shadowarrior99]

Anonymous user is technically correct!

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry to hear your girl's a cheater

[shadowarrior99]

Eh it's whatever. I've been writing a memoir about it which is making me feel great. People love the story and I hope to publish it. She wasn't worth my time. There's better women out there.