My boyfriend is too emotionless....

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend never tells me I'm pretty, never texts me goodmorning or goodnight. We don't ever really talk about anything on a deep level. And that kinda bothers me. We have been dating for about 8 months now. I know he cares about me, but he just never ever tells me and he barely shows me. Sometimes I feel just more like a good friend or something...what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Some guys are just like that. They just aren't the type to express emotions. It might be something he is very uncomfortable with, so trying to get that kind of attention from him might be difficult. It's something that really needs to come naturally. It's possible it never even occurred to him to tell you that you're pretty, even if he thinks you are.

For deep conversation, do you mean serious talks about the relationship? Or deep, like philosophical?

I don't really have any suggestions other than just talking to him about it. Let him know it's important to you. That might not work because he might not get it, or it's just too far from his natural tendencies. It took me many many many many years to figure it out. :)

[soaren]

Ask him how he feels.

If you aren't very emotional with him, then he won't open up to you. Try opening up to him more.

A lot of guys feel they compulsively have to put up that act to keep a girl attracted to them... Sadly, they are usually hurt in previous relationships where the girl they were dating dumped them because they were too emotionally attached... But 8 months in? That's pretty sad.

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There's always that chance he is "one of THOSE guys" that can't get over himself... If that's the case, good luck.

[Anonymous]

You have to be comfortable with telling him how you feel. How else is he suppose to know? When he does something nice it's important that you tell him. Also some guys are really insecure and have a hard time complimenting. In this case you have to show him you're open to texting him goodnight or saying his hair is cute that way etc. no response then? Well now try giving him distance and making him wonder why you're not being that close to him. Some guys need lessons. This needs patience on your part because it might take him a while to realize. If he can't appreciate that you're pretty well some other guy can. That's the worst case scenario.

[Simple-Simonette]

As much as you want your boyfriend to show you love the way you want it to be shown, he can only love you the way he knows how.

You can either accept that or move on, but I don't think it's fair to expect him to change to make you feel better.

[JessC03]

I promise you it's worth the wait. Just accept it for now. I know what your going through. Keep making an effort to show him how much you care. I know that he notices. He will open up over time

[kovalinkie19]

Best thing to do is to talk about it. Keeping things inside can lead to resentment. Be honest, and it seems like a a decent ask. If he cares about you then it should be easy for him to realize that giving you a compliment or expressing some form of emotion.

However another thing you should consider is that relationships sometimes become exhausted, and especially after 8 months I think you and he might want to evaluate where you want your relationship to go and if it is meant ot be romantic rather than as you say simply platonic.

Best of luck!

[jmr2191]

If he's not that kind of emotions person, he's just not. He's not a piece of clay for you to mold into your dream man- he's another human being who has the right to be who he is. I know this sounds harsh, but if you want a boyfriend who's more emotional and does what you expect, find a guy like that. Don't date the complete opposite and expect him to change for you. That's just plain unreasonable.

#brutal honesty

[trey10]

Since you're confident that he does care about you, it sounds like he is one of those guys who is emotionally stunted. He may or may not know just how stunted he is. I'm not sure if he can learn to be less of a log, or if you can help him by talking to him about how you feel. Assuming that everything else about him is okay in your eyes, then maybe you can help him learn how to express how he feels. Maybe first that could be about ANYTHING.

[Racez]

I think he's the guy who can't express his feelings well.

If you would like, take a time on your weekends and hang out alone with him. Play physical activities with him like walking in the park, chess, badminton, ice skating, golfing, horseriding, swimming, and others. Spending a lot of time with each other can greatly tighten your bond, thus becoming more open to each other.

[mattl338]

This is normal, he's not wanting to come off as overbearing most likely. Some guys are very insecure about their emotions and have probably been hurt and felt the need to suppress their emotions. I did that for a long time to protect myself.

[PhilaPenn]

If you know that he cares about you then hats the big deal. If you weren't sure then you might have a problem. I'm kinda he same way. I'm not super mushy, but I'll do things do things for my girl whenshe least expects it so she knows I care.

[newbernguy]

Obey him, and stop playing your games. If you win all of his attention, it will make you sick and it will fall apart. Is that wahat you really want? Think about it. Be happy with what you have.

[shalehandro]

give him a blowjob