What is considered chubby? Or fat?

[Anonymous]

I am 21 5'9.5 190. I go to the gym almost every day. I burned 900 calories on cardio then do brief weights. I don't eat junk or soda.

I am worried I am too big for girls. I have 23 percent body fat. I used to be a tad obese. Now I'm living a healthy lifestyle

I wear a small shirt and medium shorts at the gym bit you can see a muffin top so I go to up to a medium shirt. Generally I wear medium. Of course I have some excess skin and a little belly that hangs over which will never go away.

My waist is about 38-39 inches.

Am I too big for girls?

[AudiR8]

Hmm.. Idk..A pic would be helpful... Some people look heavier than they really are and vice versa.

However, the reason you have excess skin that hangs over is due to rapid weight loss, which was probably accomplished by doing mostly cardio. You should have done it gradually, adding lot of fish (particularly salmon), cottage cheese, beans and nuts to your diet... and also doing a lot of weight lifting so that you wouldn't lose lean muscle. Doing mostly cardio to lose weight will leave you with undesirable flabby skin. It doesn't mean it will never go away, it will just take a longer period to get rid of.. Maybe 2 years or so... Drink a lot of water, lift weights, eat protein rich foods, and exfoliate your skin (keep away from the sun).

Anyway, not always but in general chubby girls have a harder time than chubby guys in the dating world. A lot of my very thin friends date very big guys.. (big as in chubby). :/

[JazzyDevil]

Its not necessarily about whether you're pudgy in the eyes of women... Its more so about how you perceive yourself.

I for example am 5'7 or 170cm and 120kg or 264 pounds (according to the internet). Some have seen me as fat or obese like the out-dated BMI system. But as of late I have seen myself as one curvy, natural woman by size and as a result am confident in myself. I still think that.

Since then no one has called me fat or pudgy and more and more men seem attracted to me in some way. Even some women have said they wish they had a body like mine... When all it is is confidence.

It is great to hear you live a healthy lifestyle and I commend you for providing such detail into your physical appearance. However, if you want to attract women, confidence goes a long long way, regardless of size or shape.

[Izzy2102]

I can't really tell by weight, but 23% of body fat is def way too much for a guy. I have 20% and I'm a girl.

link The numbers on this picture are completley wrong, but where do you see yourself? I think the 23% would be more like 30 or 35% on this pic and that's def too big for me

[sexyasianboi26]

My opinion, you are still big. Keep on working out, keep dieting and you will eventually get there. But you should stop with the cardio, and hit more on the weights. When you build muscle, you will actually look smaller than when you were fat. Why? Muscle doesn't take a lot of space than fat does.

[Crispin7]

5'9" with 38-39 inch waist umm depends on your build most likely chubby but you need pictures for people to answer this. take a couple just from neck down if you want privacy

[bluehen46]

Pics are always helpful. Unlike some men I have done a bit of the best of both worlds. I have been both overweight and very in shape. Now I have always been a bit shy and was a very late bloomer. I have been the guy who was "cute" but this or that was wrong. Got into weight lifting then after college got a "sit on my a&& job" and did not lift weights for liek 17 years and was as heavy as 400lbs from competition weight of 217lbs

Then i got into lifting weights after losing quite a bit of weight and I will never forget there was a girl in college I thought was quite attractive. I was checking her out and not aware she noticed me. Then one day I speak to one of my freshman orientation leaders was with his girlfriend. She was a freshman apparently he met during orientation and decided to be boyfriend girlfriend. Well she sees me and says "my sister likes you" first off it was sorority sister ( pledge sister) and i thought regular sister. Now as naive as I was i am like "How does she like me? She does not know me". The guy too me to the side as we talked before and he mentioned it meant she thought I was good looking and wanted to get to know me. Sorry just a bit of background there and for what its worth every girl i slept with or dated except maybe 1 pursued me

So First off looks are not everything for those into you and hopefully not that you look for. Personality is way more important and this is all this crazy liberal crap but there are many ladies who would rather be with a guy that can make her laugh and will hold a door for her than "a jerk with a great bod". Not to say they don't help and there are standards and people do usually have a "league" they date in with a bit above or below their typical "league" some do not even care about that. There are even many thinner guys who have what you mention as shape. Even with some "smaller" guys they have fat on them. All girls are different and many attractive adn plus girls like a guy with a bit of meat. hell look at all the linemen with girls who play football.

One thing i will mention about your training since i am really into weight lifting. First off do your cardio AFTER you workout. You might not be making gains this way. if you do cardio first keep it to about 10 minutes. I found this out the hard way. Also since you are a bigger guy you want to focus what you can do well which probalby is gain muscle. Check out mike mentzer heavy duty training principles as it builds bulk. There are many guys who are lean. I notice it many guys have that. They are very learn even without workout out. Then there are guys who are bigger or fat who can gain muscle that often you dont see until they start working out. The later is my case. I once was as thin as 180 something and i think i looked horrible like starving myself. A girl i was dating a year later saw a pic of that and wondered if i would ever be that thin yet most of her friends said "jackpot" when they met me. I was like 10% bodyfat and about 220 at the time yet she perfered what i would call a bean pole. So all girls are different. This girl was very over weight so i give an example of personality but I did not know at the time in spite of her being in between bbw and ssbbw she would not date an overweight guy. I get attractive but thought that to be shallow. but remember women have sex with who they want, men have sex with who let them.

[Michelle76]

OMG! No! You are fine! Just keep working out. I'm 5'6 and a 139 pounds. My AMI 22.43. Girls are know to like bigger guys. I know I do. My boyfriend is the same way. I love him to death. Excess skin and all. It's about the person you are is what's important. Let that be the focus. Don't get insecure...that's a big turn off.

[onekindofgurl1]

Keep in mind that muscle weighs more than fat so don't always go by your weight on the scale to judge whether you're too big or not but also if a girl loves you she'll love you no matter what your size

[Anonymous]

You're quite fine. You should consider working out a lot until you will get your desired body shape.

[jessik424]

pics would help