I like to be manhandled?

[Anonymous]

I'm not talking about violence but I like to be manhandled. Don't know why. Maybe because I'm short and petite. I like the idea that a guy is so much bigger and stronger than me and he has the ability to hurt me / control me whenever he wants but I cannot hurt him even if I try so hard. (don't want him to hurt me but I just like the idea.)

and I'd like if he picks me up, pins me down, grabs my wrist, holds me so tight, I like these kind of things. Guys would probably think I'm a psycho ? :D but idk..is this normal?

[Daffodil777]

If you google "ValerieMalla-ExploreYourResources, and see the topic "Rape or Passionate Sex", you'll see a great article and can comment there too.

This topic is very 'normal' and very common. The boundaries just need to be understood so no one gets hurt.

My experience has been that men feel uncomfortable manhandling because they think it is rape, but there is a big difference. So, as long as everyone knows what's happening guys should feel comfortable playing this harmless flirting/foreplay that keeps sexual tension up and is also fun and sexy. It is also a way to get a lot of sexual energy release as well. And, most women love an assertive guy (who is not controlling).

As long as he is not an emotionally and/or physically abusive guy in real life, this can be very sexually exciting and fulfilling for both man and woman.

[curiousperon]

Love ur answer thanks even though I didn't ask this question

[upsyndrome]

I'm pretty sure it's normal and most guys wouldn't mind, I think.

[UnderDriven]

It's probably normal, but there is a certain amount of cognitive dissonance in wanting someone to demonstrate the ability to hurt you, but yet not actually wanting them to hurt you. If you think about it, the things you describe are essentially the actions of someone who is trying to rape you. No woman wants that to happen, and yet many women are strangely attracted to it at the same time: link

In any case, be careful when you draw such a fine line. You may find that some guys will cross it--either because they aren't sure where the line is, or because they get carried away...

[Asker]

ohh..what was written on that link scared me a bit :/

[Asker]

thanks for the answer tho, I'll be careful :)

[Vandal]

Interesting article about the whole rape fantasy thing...

Here's a vid about it if you or the QA (or anyone else) is interested - "Female Rape Fantasy Is Not What It Seems..." link

I think the guy makes some good points

[Asker]

@vandal he seems right about the power thing and feeling safe and protected thing. I've never considered mine as a "rape fantasy" (even the thought of it gives me the creeps) that's why I was shocked and scared at first at UnderDriven's link. I guess I just like dominant guys not extreme cases like "serial killers" as mentioned in the video :O

[Vandal]

To quote part of the article UnderDriven posted -

"Sixty-two percent said they'd had at least one such fantasy. But responses varied depending on the terminology used. When asked about being "overpowered by a man," 52 percent said they'd had that fantasy, the situation most typically depicted in women's romance fiction. But when the term was "rape," only 32 percent said they'd had the fantasy. These findings are in the same ballpark as previous reports."

Perhaps this would apply to you.

[UnderDriven]

I wasn't implying that you actually had a "rape fantasy" since the article also mentions "being 'overpowered by a man'" which is more like what you described, and apparently 52% of women have had that fantasy. So I was trying to show that it is not uncommon. Also, the article mentions that romance novels can feature some rough handling of women, and they are very popular. However, I felt it was worthwhile to point out that being 'dominated' has some similarities to rape fantasy...

[Asker]

yeah.."overpowered by a man" I guess that's what it is, which can be consiedered normal. I hope. lol.

[Asker]

@UnderDriven I hear you, I guess I was just frightened when I first read the title and didn't pay much attention to the rest.

[Asker]

And yes it was helpful, thanks again.

[UnderDriven]

It really doesn't matter if it is "normal" or not--that's only statistics. The important thing is that no one is getting hurt, either physically or mentally...

[Anonymous]

You're very normal. Most women love to be manhandled, and most men love to do it. It's the way it has always been, with the exception of a few decades during which women were brainwashed by feminism to believe it was disrespectful toward women. Just another example of the damage done by feminism from which we are all still trying to recover.

Relax and enjoy it. It's totally natural human sexual behavior.

[Asker]

i agree with what you said, thanks for the answer

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome. I hope you find a great guy who treats you well and manhandles you. :)

[Asker]

thx, I hope :)

[sovetskii13]

Many girls have this fantasy. I think it's because you want to experience some extreme excitement. Something really thrilling. Being tossed onto the bed, pinned down and being controlled by your partner with nothing you can do. It's a cool fantasy.

Just make sure you do it with a guy you trust.

[Asker]

thanks for the answer, yes it's exciting and thrilling.

[ketfoen]

I don't think it is persay a rape fantasy, but more being very submissive to your partner, were as he is very dominant over you.

Pretty common among women, nothing wrong with you, it's pretty normal to fantasize about these kinda things. As long as you trust your partner no reason why you can't indulge on your fantasies, just have a safe word you know you won't forget, to let the other person know you want to stop and are feeling very uncomfortable.

[Asker]

thx for the answer, yes it's just a dominance thing, now I'm relieved a little :))

[curiousperon]

Asked do u or other women like it to be dominated

[SaltandVinegar]

Thats normal most girls like that stuff. My girlfriend always asks me to flex for her so she can feel my arm. She also asks me to pick her up and I can tell she likes it when we are arguing and I grab her wrist and she tries to move her arm and she can't ;)

[Asker]

i'd love that

[WoIIie]

You're not the first and you won't be the last.

Hopefully you tell guys this because I'd never manhandle a short petite girl out of fear she would be very uncomfortable.

[Asker]

aww it's nice that you're thoughtful :) I don't know if I can tell them though it's kinda embarrassing..like "hold me tight!" lol

[WoIIie]

I'm a sucker for ego baiting.

"Is that as hard as you can **** me?"

"Is that it? I expected more."

"Are you normally this soft?"

[WoIIie]

You can just phrase is like you did with this question. If you're really good you can bring it out of him by baiting him.

[Asker]

Wow! :D these were useful thanks ;)

[360Grrlz]

I think its confusing because women will say they want to be free and not controlled and then this. So I should respect your opinions and what you want except when it comes to intimacy and you want me to initiate? You want a sensitive partner but they better top well? Confusing but then again. I like that sometimes too, I guess its back to communication and turn taking. Oh and can we skip the psychic link and actually talk about what we want instead of it being a test on “my partner just gets me” business?

[Anonymous]

Many of us guys like petite girls for this very reason, myself included. We like to be able to easily pick up girls, it makes us feel stronger.

[Asker]

yeah, us petite girls are easily pickable Lol, and you can't imagine how Amazing it feels to be picked up and wrapped up by a guy's strong arms! :)

[front2back]

Huh, no wonder my small girlfriend thinks my built 6'2" 210lb ass is awesome. The problem is (except for sex) I would never manhandle a woman. Other men is fine, since I do full contact sports. However, I guess it is sort of a dominance thing.

[Vandal]

Totally normal. You being short and petite has nothing to do with it - women of all shapes and sizes like it.

[Anonymous]

No.. it's normal...
I would love to pin down a girl by her wrist and dominate her and drill her while she just submits to me and all she can do is moan !

[jmurk]

Most women love to be manhandled during sex.

[rachel776]

i'm tiny and i like this a lot too

[DarthGameRuler]

This is the most common fetish women have