Polls

I find it inappropriate that they have to add gay stuff to almost every movie today.

i personally will not be watching star wars since they decided to ruin it with their “wokeness”

what about you?

💋 or 🤗

For those wondering, these are two philosophical schools that are often pitted against one another. Determinism is the philosophy that says your entire life is determined from the circumstances of your birth, that your parents, your school, your friends, they all not only determine who you are as an adult but what your values become as a person. Meanwhile the school if Free Will focuses on the opposite, that poor circumstances around your birth can be overcome, that you can just as easily ruin your life as build it up if that is what you want as an individual. Which do you think is more in line with what you believe about the world?

I'm 45. I go bars and clubs by myself because there are not any women my age that want to. They prefer afternoon coffee shop or mediation class 😒

I spent my 20's in a relationship with an older man with drinking problems so we travelled the world but didn't go bars/clubs.

I had some time after thar relationship in my early 30's going out but had younger mates in their mid-20's to go with.

Then I was single mum raising my kids. So didn't go out at all for like 10 years.

Now I love it. And I'm way more confident at my age.

I'm not saying judge the models, but the style. Which one would you be more likely to be attracted to?

Obviously both are liars and scams, using deception to get what they want. Though would say you baby-trapping a man is worse than strining along (giving them false promises of marriage and kids) women?

Male method: He's been living with his girlfriend for 8 years and he already knows from the longest that he won't ever marry her. Yet he doesn't see the relationship as that bad, just that he sees her as a good girlfriend but not enough to be a wife. So he keeps with sweet talks and false hopes. The woman continues believing him but gets depressed the relationship isn't progressing. She's not happy. Or he proposes with a cheaper ring and keeps her as a fiancee just to give her false hope and keep her from leaving but never plans a wedding date. By wasting her time, he's taking away her fertile years.

Female method: She's been living her with boyfriend for some years but is fed up with the situation. So she elaborates a plan to pretend to be on birth control or secretly sabotage it. Sometimes the woman already knows the guy isn't the type to bail out and is against abortion or she does this to someone that believes a child should be raised with marriage. Knowing that, she got what she wanted; a short-cut to a proposal and then marriage. She might even take that secret to the grave. The man ends up believing the birth of his child as an accident or miracle from god if he's religious.

This is how a baby-trapping (this woman got marriage out of that deception and the man never found out) story looks like:

https://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/3427335-my-20-year-old-lie-secret.html#google_vignette

Both were about satisfying their own desires and needs; selfishness. Even though both are doing despicable acts (deception is already bad), would you say baby-trapping is worse? The reason I think it's worse is because an innocent baby (a small, living human) is used as part of the deception, scam. I think that's worse than even using someone for sex or money.

I'm known for just getting us and going. I like NC as far as the cost of living, but the beach is 3 hours from here, and there's just something missing. It's not quite like home. Maybe I should visit Cali a few times before drawing this conclusion or just go for it? What do you say? What would you do?

Although I probably wouldn't, there is a part of me that wants to. Though if it were the never jamanji, I would wait till I'm 80 or on my death bed and try it as you play as a character with your consciousness in that body, so that'll be pretty cool. And you don't age either though I would want to finish the game.

I'm going to dress up as catwoman for my boyfriend.

When I was little my parents were wealthy individuals. They had properties and owned a daycare corporation. In short, me and my sister were spoiled. Right now I'm 25 and actually working a job. It's hard, we're broke but I feel like if we would've stayed as wealthy as we were I definitely wouldn't have a job. I'd probably get a large inheritance and travel but I definitely wouldn't work.

A part of me is happy that I'm currently poor because I feel like without it I'd be a spoiled entitled brat who believes I deserve the best of everything. I've seen rich kids turn out entitled and selfish or completely helpless once they grew into adults. But also I'm kinda against this because what if we stayed wealthy and I went to better schools, got real help for my learning disabilities and actually had a healthy self esteem? Maybe I'm secretly praising my poverty because I feel like I don't deserve wealth or I can't imagine myself escaping so I try to pretend it's actually great? I don't know... What do you guys think?