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I am part of a new friend group comprised of this guy, his cousin, best friends and their long-term partners. I really like him. I’ve only briefly met him twice. His cousin and cousin’s partner were keen to set us up, so was his best friend and his fiancé. The best friend and his fiancé still are but his cousin and his girlfriend changed their mind claiming we aren’t each others type. I was told by her to leave it at few months for a relationship. She is very obviously bullying the other girlfriends, trying to split her boyfriend from his cousin and friends etc. I honestly don’t trust her. I don’t trust she’s looking out for me.

On Saturday, his best friend and his fiancé (who I am actually now closest to) got us briefly talking. He asked me if I was single, my age (which he knew) and said ‘I’m 24 too! At 24 I feel rushed to … a relationship. How do you feel about it?’ (I can’t remember the actual word he used). He asked about my previous relationships and tried to joke around with me for a bit before cutting the convo as everyone else was putting on their coats. Before our convo, he had randomly put his hand on my shoulder twice when I was just standing beside him and made a point of loudly expressing concern about waiting for me to be collected.

My mother claims it means he’s looking a relationship and feels pressured in a good way. I took it as that. But since, I’ve started to wonder if he meant he feels like he should but it isn’t what he wants. I would like to message him but it’s not worth my time if he means he wants something casual.

What do you think he meant? Should I message him?

My good friend is going to have a wedding and I'm one of the bridesmaids.

But unfortunately, we still don't agree so far, we both lean towards green, but I prefer sage green, she likes olive green, I said "bridesmaids are 5 people, and there is no problem with the green color, but it is difficult to communicate".

I am very distressed!

28F, I gamed online frequently with two guys for a little over 2 years. We never met in person & over time the two of them stopped playing as frequently. Now I ended up unfriending one in Dec 2022 bc over time I got irritated with him. While he was clearly a better gamer, he came across as arrogant at times & if there’s one thing I can’t handle it’s a conceited man. He wished me merry Christmas, I didn’t answer & he follows up maybe a month after on IG. He acknowledged that I unfriended him & wanted to know why, I was blunt & he apologized etc. It was a mature conversation & shortly after he tells me that his apartment burnt down after an electrical fire. He’s complained about the complex for the whole time I knew him but for it to end that way is absolutely insane. By the time we talked about it he already moved into his new place, confirmed his ps5 was safe & we left it at that. I checked google & there was a go fund me page for he & his wife. This conversation was in Jan this year & we haven’t spoken since, I added him back on the PlayStation app maybe a month later. He’s been online but not as often, we’d usually talk most of the time he was online but he hasn’t reached out & I feel awkward. I see him online & we’re playing the same game too but nothing. It may seem like an obvious AITA post but tbh if he didn’t say that conceited shit when we were still talking I’d very very likely check in with him by now. I haven’t gotten over it completely, even though I accepted his apology 🤷🏻‍♀️

WHAT IS MORE DESIRABLE AND SEDUCTIVE TO MOST MEN?

Asking for a relative who's much older. They got married in their 40s after 6 years of engagement, there was nothing really stopping them. They also got divorced almost 4 years later..

I feel like a lot of people do at least a little.

Kinda like when you're playing strategy games/sports where you read someone's movements and adjust because a different action is the better play to maximize your chance at winning. Sometimes you draw up plays with your boys/girls and most of them are usually bad at giving advice but every now and then there's someone who has mastered the game.

If you think this is terribly inhumane and manipulative then I'd love to hear your success story and/or what advice you'd give to someone who's terribly shy and socially anxious. If it's "be confident" and/or "be yourself", how? It isn't that easy for some people. I'm speaking from experience.

I think it's all fair unless you're intentionally doing something that you know would hurt someone just for your own gain. Often both men and women want the strategies to be done on them. This doesn't have to be super complex. It could be as simple as positioning yourself closer to the person you like.

Imagine one of your opposite gender friends sends you a really beautiful and poetic message that genuinely makes you feel special.

The next time you see them in person, the moment you mention the message they cut you off to explain that they were drunk that day and were only trying to say nice things just to be nice.

They are visibly nervous and stuttering.

My boyfriend works at a solar install company and latest he’s worked with them was like 8. Tonight I called him around 7:40 and he didn’t answer I called again at 8:30 and he said he was still at work and that they had to go another job and it was taking long due to the panels. He said he would call me on the way home and he did and he just didn’t seem tired or in a bad mood like I thought. He wasn’t like super happy but he seemed happy and was like hi pook I’m heading to the store to get soda and snacks. Heard him get home talk to his mom and her say I made ya dinner and him tell her he had two jobs took long. He sat on the phone with me and we talked normally and he ate and watched some chargers chat and he took a shower. Is this suspicious? Most of the time he’s okay like that after work but after a long day like today I expected him to tired and grumpy not happy. Could it be that was with another girl so he was happy?

I've flown maybe a few times in dreams, but it's very rare for me. I'm usually confined at least generally by the idea of gravity.

Whereas breathing underwater just casually, this has happened a good handful of times in my dreams. At least 3× as often as flying.

But I also may have hobbies and routines that make me think about water and breathing underwater more than the average person, owning fish and being a nautical book enthusiast and whatnot...

So what about you? Do you get one of these dreams noticeably more often than the other? If so, do you have a guess as to the reason why?

So lets say you suggest doing something with your partner that both of you seem interested going and you pay for the tickets (that are not refundable) and closer to the day you end up not feeling well. But your partner ends up going to see this thing another day with someone else but still wants to go with you. I told them that its a waste of time since they already saw it and it didn't make sense to pay for something twice especially if they already saw it. But they still want to go.

Should I be the one paying again for the tickets or should my partner pay?