Men, do you like spending your money on women?

Question

Im always hearing men complain about how they don't want gold diggers but then I see y'all buying women gifts like jewelry/flowers, taking them shopping, out to eat. Like I can't imagine men are doing all this stuff just to impress women. On some level it's gotta be cuz you guys like to spoil women by buying us things.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Men enjoy taking care of our woman (and family), even though it can be a lot of pressure at times. One of the ways men show love is through providing and other acts of service. We're not good at TALKING about our feelings - many men lack the vocabulary and most lack experience - rather, we DEMONSTRATE our feelings through our actions.

There's a huge difference between a woman who a man provides for financially (who in turn takes care of their home and him when he's not working) and a gold-digger, who is a woman who is only with him for his money, and whose main motivation is living a high lifestyle at his expense.

Men are looking for women who will be on their TEAM, who will work on goals together (though their roles are often very different), and who understand that both people have duties and responsibilities to the other.

That's not what most women have been taught, and many have specifically and deliberately been taught NOT to want such a relationship or to be such a team member. Many are actively combative at the idea. That's why a lot of men have given up on relationships completely.

Men built a world where women could take care of themselves, and then women lost respect for what men did for them. But things are changing quickly.

A huge number of jobs are about to go away, and they are exactly the kind of jobs that women have been doing. Writing, journalism, administrative, etc. - office jobs. A. I. will be taking over so many of these jobs, at such an incredible speed, that people are going to be shocked. And they will just be permanently gone. Obviously men will be affected too, but there is a big demand for people to do physical jobs - construction, transportation, etc. Women don't want these dirty, physically demanding jobs, but that's what is going to be left.

Things are going to get interesting.

Lliam · Accepted Answer

I always paid for dates. I didn't mind one bit. I mean, I wanted her to have a good time and the date was for my enjoyment, as well.

Once we were exclusive, I still usually paid for meals and outings because, again, I was enjoying doing those things and was happy to be doing them with her. But sometimes she would treat me to things.

Once we were exclusive, I might bring home flowers on occasion just to let her know how much I cherished her and that I was thinking about her. And I would buy things for special occasions like Valentine's Day, her birthday and Christmas. Maybe pretty ear rings, a bracelet or pendant on a chain or something I knew she would love.

But I didn't lavish her with expensive jewelry or anything. I didn't act like a sugar daddy. I didn't want to buy her love. I just wanted her to know that cared and didn't take her for granted.
She did the same kinds of things for me.

Creative_Name04 · Accepted Answer

My boyfriend loves buying me gifts and seeing how happy it makes me and I love him. I always appreciate the gifts but I also remind him he doesn’t need to buy me these things to earn my love

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Imma woman and I like to spoil my man

EricSummer · Answer

I do not have any expensive hobbies and I prefer my city of Geneva, home of women from all over the world, over any other places. I only like good food, but that is not awfully expensive.

So what better way to spend your money than with a woman? If we have children together, that's a good reason to spend as well.

For example, I know a guy of similar earnings and low personal spending as myself, and he stopped work at 54 as early pensioner to travel the world. He had saved up enough money as he never had a woman. I do not envy him in the slightest. I hope he finds a woman in one of those far-off places.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Lol answer… do we like spending money on women  No!!  However, the best way to get consist pussy is to spend some money. There are 100 million other things I would rather spend my money on.. and at this stage in life. I do spend my money elsewhere pussy isn’t worth my money anymore.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

I guess if a girl agrees to go out with me I’ll pay for dinner, I won’t buy flowers because that’s too romantic — girls and women take time to develop feelings like that. I won’t buy things for girls because unless she is a loyal girlfriend or wife I won’t. If it’s a girl I’m dating and it’s her bday I would give something, if she liked a particular shirt at a store for $75 I’d buy it and give it to her.

razelove · Answer

None of your options were for "I don't spend money on women". I'll provide for my family, but spending money on women would be buying hookers, which is more effort than online dating and going dutch.
Women can vote, own property and work the same jobs as men. There is no reason at all for me to buy y'all stuff in America unless it's for my own satisfaction. With sex positivity it's simpler to just get another woman if you aren't going to build a family together. I feel like your second reason would be closest to the core though.
If a guy doesn't want a gold digger the answer is real easy, the women that are left when you don't spend money on them... If you spend money on them, you can't cry about only meeting gold diggers when you motivate your dates with money.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I'm one of those rare guys that expect women to spend money on me. But there is reason for that. I'm the one here at home with the kids... all I buy for myself is home gym equipment so I'm not too pricey. I mean there is stuff I get that we also buy the kids... PS5's, and huge TV's and stuff like that.

So in my position, I do gotta say I get sort of irritated by these chicks with the same situation as I, but no home gym... they don't do shit. Not all, but a lot of them don't do shit. All that time on their hands and they spend it doing not much more than shopping.

Military dependent that lives on base - for a better perspective of what I'm talking about.

Billlewis · Answer

I absolutely love spoiling a beautiful plus sized woman and spending as much money as possible on her... but what sets me apart from most sugar daddies/pay pigs (for the record, I consider myself a pay pig through and through) is that I actually prefer that she has a boyfriend or male lover whom she's intimate with fairly frequently, while all she does for me is tease the living shit out of me and make fun of my little piglet penis... lol

Unit1 · Answer

Absolutely not for me.

If I spend money on a girlfriend, then I do so (1) because I have money to spend, (2) I want to make her happy in simple yet affordable ways and (3) it is within my will to do so and not because it is expected from me. Doesn't mean I'll never expend some green paper.

My point being: I absolutely detest feeling like a wallet. The moment I feel like one is the moment I feel I am single and that am paying for something, that is not genuine - a courtesan.

TCredo · Answer

Hello stranger :) I enjoy spending money on my wife on things like trips, dinners, outings etc. She's not into material things so it's more the experience and enjoyment. It's fun and she deserves it :)

Adam1978 · Answer

We don't mind giving some gifts once in a while. But it should be our decision not a requirement or expectation. The complaints is about the amount and the level. Not that we want it completely banned.

Sonorous · Answer

I like spending money on anybody where I feel the money will be put to good constructive use & that the value of the money will be respected.

I truly am an amazing human. Though I have less to give, I am one of the most generous people I know.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Totally depends on the woman. Women in my family then yes or if I like her and she's treating me well then I won't mind spending a bit of money on her like a dinner.

But I will not spend my money on a woman I don't know or just because she physically looks good.

Anonymous · Answer

I enjoy occasionally buying things for people I care about when they are genuinely and openingly appreciative about it. I really don't like, however, when I am expected to pay for a woman just because she is a woman and I am a man. That's really pisses me off. Especially in era where women have spent so much time advocating for "equality".

annabananna · Answer

I think it’s a think guys like to do but they don’t want to feel like that’s the reason a girl is with them and they don’t Wanna feel used.

Pirate_Jay · Answer

We spend money with the hopes of impressing women but it is not solely the reason.

-We also spend money because society has conditioned a lot of people to view that a man is more appealing when he spends money on someone else.

-Another reason is because some men spend money not to impress but because it is their way of showing appreciation and affection. (We hope you like it because it is how we show that we like you)

I cannot speak for all men but I hope this helps

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I like to get her things now and then and not just for the holidays or her birthday. I like to show my appreciation for all the things she does for me.

Anonymous · Answer

We like to take care of a woman, just like a woman (hopefully) likes to take care of her man.

What we don't like is the entitlement of today's women, and their hypocrisy with respect to traditional gender roles.

It's not rocket science.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

I only spend money within reason when dating. Otherwise, I like doing nice things in a relationship from time to time, but not a spoil her every day situation

stepyo99 · Answer

There's a world of difference between a man treating his woman because she's a supportive, submissive and wonderful girlfriend/wife and some hoe who views men as her personal ATM.

jamesgoldman · Answer

I love spending money on women especially gold diggers

Lynx122 · Answer

It depends on the woman, how turstworthy she is if she appreciates it how caring she is etc. With the right woman a guy will love to treat her well.

convo_king89 · Answer

In terms of paying for sex or just to take em out to dinner like on a date?

mommymommymommy · Answer

It's like women and their heels. They'll complain but do it anyway. Why, i dont know

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I would only spend money on her if she was my wife. I don't gamble with money, so I wouldn't risk throwing my money away on someone who might not be in my life permanently.

strateguy632 · Answer

if i like her, then i wanna buy her stuff. reference charlie in 2 half men.

RangerBlue22 · Answer

We like spending money one women who do NOT feel entitled to it.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

A gold digger is a woman who doesn't appreciate the money being spent on her, not just some chick that has money spent on her.

BrickBiggems · Answer

I can't think of something I'd enjoy more than getting something for my SO that makes her happy.

Bricealan · Answer

I do not mind spending money too do something we both find to be worth while.

Grond21 · Answer

I love spending money on my girlfriend because she is deeply appreciative of each thing. Nor does she expect anything from me

nawtee_me · Answer

I don’t mind spending money on girls and often do. I just don’t want to feel like I am supposed to or have to. I do it willingly like opening the door for them too.

ImalwaysrightOK · Answer

It's ok to spend money on girlfriend worthy women who appreciate it. Entitled, not at all.

Staximus · Answer

There's a big difference between spending money on a woman you love vs. a woman using you for your money

Juxtapose · Answer

I like occasionally giving gifts and being generous but I'm not going to be treated like an ATM nor do I want to sign up for that.

Anthony20108 · Answer

No because every time I have it’s led to me being out of money and happiness so I don’t see it as beneficial and I haven’t met a women that’s worth anything anyways

james_d0007 · Answer

We like doing things for woman because we like to see them happy. The good ones will ensure you don't overspend money on them and the bad ones will take advantage of this.

BrookeS · Answer

Im not a guy but i love spending my cash on women

NYCQuestions1976 · Answer

It's probably a little bit of both of what you described.

Cb142 · Answer

been there done that and thats all she wanted at the time so not a good thing to do unless she is into you

Christoff92 · Answer

She's delicate, sweethearted, very honestly down to earth. Yes I would 🙂

PointTaken · Answer

Yes. Maybe it's a bad habit of mine? I just like giving gifts.

Likes2drive · Answer

If it’s appreciated I don’t mind and sometimes to impress

LiamJHayden · Answer

If I' in a committed relationship I do. My female friends, yes. Random women? No.

glennos89 · Answer

We spend money to make you happy. All we want is a happy woman in our lifes that brings love, peace and comfort. Whatever it is that makes her happy... Makes us men happy aswell

OddBeMe · Answer

I mean I like making her happy. But honestly I like women who have similar wage or ambition. Not exactly to share the expenses or buy each other gifts. But I doubt I’d have much to talk about with a barista. No offense.

Noah2023 · Answer

If I was married, I will sure do.(If I had the money)

Greenbins · Answer

Only if she deserves it.. I spending a dime on no hoe

EaterPeter · Answer

To get in their p🐜s for once or over and over again

Chthou95 · Answer

If sex wasn't a possible option because men pay for things, men would be paying a lot less

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

As long as i get a good return from her on my investment, sure. Of course.

Cheerfull009 · Answer

If the girl is beautiful and sexy, and responds positive, then men like to spend for them

alearningboy · Answer

Yes why not, if she is the love in my life she deserves to be happy

BoobMan · Answer

When she's worth it? Absolutely!

zetareticuli · Answer

Pay for your own sh*t. I get told all the time how much money you all make.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm not sure I really don't do it. I've never had a problem in the few times I have. Because I NEVER do anything with women that I don't WANT to do.

Degenerate · Answer

You betcha. Do you need anything?

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah if they are pervert in bed.. nothing is free

Anonymous · Answer

Most men don’t mind but when she expects it that’s different.

exitseven · Answer

i like buying stuff for my wife.

Fuentes · Answer

Lol no only on me

Nahid1707 · Answer

If she was my partner yes  I’ll be happy to buy her flowers  Nice dating question

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