Am I too sensitive for getting annoyed over his joke?

[Reemaa]

My boyfriend jokes that he will find me a groom so i can get married soon. Am i too sensitive for being sad over his joke?
I feel like he shouldn’t joke over such things.

No, this is a stupid joke

Yes, you are too sensitive

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11 mo

Lol, i already said that to him Nd he suddenly become uncomfortable 😂. But i dunno some men it’s ok for them to joke with girls but when a girl jokes with them it’s not ok. Tbh, i love this guy, i hope he doesn’t get annoyed by my reaction. My guyfriend keep making me feel guilty 🙂. I’m thinking of telling him about my period and apologize to him in case i really overreacted.

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that you feel sad and annoyed over your boyfriend's joke about finding you a groom. It's important to communicate your feelings to him and let him know that his joke is hurtful to you.

Everyone has different boundaries and sensitivities, and it's important to communicate openly and honestly about what you find acceptable and what you don't. If your boyfriend continues to make jokes that upset you even after you've communicated your feelings, it may be worth reevaluating the relationship and whether or not it's a healthy and supportive one for you.

Remember, it's okay to have feelings and boundaries, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.

[Reemaa]

Thanks for your reply. I totally agree with you and this is what i exactly did. However, a guyfriend of mine made me reevaluate my reaction when he said you are too sensitive and you made a big deal over nothing. Yes i like to make boundaries but at the same time if I’m really the problem here or im the one who is exaggerating things, i need then to rethink my behavior because i always aim to improve myself. Again, me being before my period makes me hardly judge and evaluate things

[Opinion Owner]

It's important to take into account your friend's feedback and consider whether or not your reaction was appropriate, but ultimately you are the best judge of your own feelings and boundaries.

It's possible that your period may be affecting your emotions and reactions, but it's also important to recognize that your feelings and boundaries are valid regardless of the time of the month.

It may be helpful to take some time to reflect on your own feelings and to communicate openly and honestly with your friend about your perspective. It's also important to prioritize self-care and to take care of yourself during times when your emotions may be heightened.

Remember, healthy communication and respect are key components of any relationship, and it's important to prioritize your own well-being and happiness while also considering the perspectives of others.

[Reemaa]

Thank youu again. Your reply is so helpful 💗💗

[Opinion Owner]

You’re very welcome 🙂

[MementoMori777]

Tell him that if it bothers you, it all depends on his intentions but jokes are jokes, they can't all be winners lol

[Reemaa]

I already told him. I don’t mind jokes, and i like to have fun and not take things alwaya seriously. However, from my perspective, I don’t think u can joke over everythings in life. There will be somethings that u can’t make a joke of it. Such as the death of someone, break up, etc. I told a guyfriend whether i am emotional getting annoyed by this joke and he told me yes you are too sensitive for getting annoyed over this joke and your boyfriend will be so cautious next time joking with you! I told him we joke everyday but there will be few things that u can’t joke about. He just made me feel more guilty !

[MementoMori777]

So what exactly did his joke make you think?

[Reemaa]

It’s not about thinking, i was just shocked. I’m with you in a relationship and you joke about you finding me another man to get married to. I dunno i just think it’s inappropriate. A man should feel jealous if he loves a girl, and not telling her with a laugh that he will find her a groom. Even if it’s a joke.

[Reemaa]

The problem i’m getting my period very soon. So I can’t judge very well. I dunno if it’s my hermones makes me sensitive or if it’s his joke the problem. 🤷🏻‍♀️ and my guyfriend telling me i was too sensitive makes me feel just more guilty or stupid

[MementoMori777]

I know sensitive girls exist but you are saying that you are close to your period so maybe it plays a part but some people have dark humor, unless you've seen signs of him losing interest or something then you should just take it as a joke but let him know that those type of jokes rub you off wrong and you don't find them funny, if he's respectful he should stop with those type of jokes, but try not to take jokes seriously unless they are repeated constantly or they aren't joking.

[Reemaa]

Thankyou for getting my point. For some reason my guyfriend didn’t get my point at all. He just blamed me for getting annoyed over his joke and made me feel as i did a huge mistake by pointing out to him the issue 🤷🏻‍♀️.

[MementoMori777]

Well my observant and paranoid mind opens the thoughts of how something can rub someone off wrong, they are blind to how it can be offensive because they don't come even close to thinking on how you might feel about it or how it can make you feel, cause there's always a possibility that they might be saying the truth through jokes so I can understand why things like this can rub someone off wrong, it's basically saying "I don't care about losing you to someone else" type of thing, I'm sure he was just joking tho, I give him props tho cause for me just thinking of someone I care about with someone else would piss me off so props he can joke about it I guess lol

[Reemaa]

Exactly! I told him if i were in your shoes, I would not even be able to imagine that. Just imagining that will make me upset. But that’s how i am! What makes me believe it’s a dark humor, my guyfriend’s reaction and the way he stands up with my boyfriend. And yes you get my point sometimes will be truth behind jokes so and when you doubt the truth with these kind of jokes, here comes the problem 🙂

[MementoMori777]

No lie I'd be like 🤨

But I can see where you are coming from, maybe it's from a very high dose of loyalty in our DNA that we can't even think of it, I'm not saying the dude isn't loyal but I think there's high amounts of loyalty down to no loyalty, I don't doubt he has loyalty but I think you have a much higher dose of it, what leads me to this assumption is how his friend thinks it's normal and can't see your point of view, it might cause an argument but you can always make it backfire, like "ooo who are you going to get for me?" See some reactions, if he gets mad then he will know how it feels lol

[Reemaa]

Lol, i already said that to him Nd he suddenly become uncomfortable 😂. But i dunno some men it’s ok for them to joke with girls but when a girl jokes with them it’s not ok. Tbh, i love this guy, i hope he doesn’t get annoyed by my reaction. My guyfriend keep making me feel guilty 🙂. I’m thinking of telling him about my period and apologize to him in case i really overreacted.

[MementoMori777]

Whatever you think you gotta do to ease your situation Rema 😂

[lightbulb27]

no, that's a slap in the face that shakes to the core. that's a messed up communication, either he doesn't understand or he's talking about how hopeless he is.

[Reemaa]

I didn’t get your point. What do u mean about him being hopeless?

[lightbulb27]

he's making a sublimial communication that he's hung up on getting married, you turned into a personal insult (which it is) rather than dig in and find out, what is his hangup?

[Reemaa]

I didn’t ask about his hung up because getting married to this guy is not my main goal at least in the first year of our relationship.
What pissed me off is the joke itself! And the fact he can imagining me with someone else. Like he is not nervous or afraid i left him to someone else. I see it as a form of respect. Even if you don’t really mind me getting married to someone else, you shouldn’t at least say it openly while you are joking and smiling.

[lightbulb27]

that is a messed up joke and it's worthy digging into what he means. To me, it is a statement of low self worth, or pushing you off. you have to talk to him and may not be easy to get the truth as he just brushes it off as just a joke.

[TooHot2Care]

I think you’re internally finding that annoying because you want him to be your groom and to take this relationship seriously, and he’s making a joke of it.

Am I right?

[Reemaa]

No , u r not

[TooHot2Care]

Fuck it, I quit.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Tell your boyfriend marriage is like a hurricane there is a lot of blowing in the beginning & when it’s all said & done you house is gone.

[Anonymous]

challenge him and tell him that you are okay with him finding you a groom as long as he is more of a man than your boyfriend