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Literally was a guy saying only monkeys could be attracted to black men on my question about 2 black men. This was yesterday. He then proceeded to call black people the n word. Honestly I think he was just jealous that these guys are way better looking than him lol. But racist people in general are annoying, and bitter.

Been together for 7years. He has his final med exams and he isn't studying properly.. spending most of the time playing games and being hopeless that he'll fail anyhow and will reappear for exams.
Yesterday i was kinda being BRUTALLY HONEST with him and told him to think about his carrier and goals so that he can Have some motive to study. (He dosen't like thinking about future becz it stresses him). And get a bit more serious and stuff. Bcz i have been motiving him to study since 2-3 months and still he isn't doing well.
Now i feel really guilty for making him feel bad about himself and the fact that he was constantly thinking about what I said.

In the same way it’s proud to be black, Hispanic, Asian and so on?

I seriously cannot decide by myself which coat to get. Both are gorgeous and both would come in handy.

The red/burgundy coat is just so pretty, it's such a lovely color but at this time it isn't available in petite lengths :(

Black option is still available in petite and despite it being classy and versatile, it's also boring in a way and I have to admit I already own quite a lot of black in my closet.

So, which color would you guys get or simply find more appealing?

I don't watch them. I actually practice a sport (Judo) 3x a week and come home very tired. On the little time available, I'll continue progressing on my 2,000 pieces puzzle, cook other dishes or pastry, read more and perhaps start on my own novel.

When you're watching a sport (or yelling at game/TV), all you're doing is cheering for someone else's fame. That someone else has worked hard, is healthy and is exhausted at the end. Similarly when you're watching a soap opera, you're watching someone else's success. You're cheering for others but yourself.

Thing you're not able to do if you're on the TV for hours watching sports and soap operas:
- Meet new people
- Earn money or learn new things/skills
- Cultivate your mind with knowledge
- Perhaps meet your boyfriend/girlfriend
- Get healthy

I've been seeing a gentleman for a few months now. He's everything I've been seeking in a man; smart, dependable, ambitious, and sweet. He's good at making conversation, but I'm unsure of the chemistry between us. The silences feel more awkward than comfortable (from my perspective, anyway) and while his bear hugs are great, it doesn't feel intimate in the same way it did with past boyfriends. I still don't feel totally comfortable with initiating touching or kissing, despite his encouragement. I find myself anxious if I'm being weird or awkward, he insists I am neither.
Something just feels off, and I don't know what it is! I have experienced abusive relationships in the past, so I wonder if my emotional programming doesn't know what to do with his kindness or it's a chemistry issue. I know I tend to be attracted to narcissistic men (outwardly & socially confident, internally insecure), which he is not (very internally secure & stable), is that why it feels wrong?
He's just so perfect for me, why doesn't it feel "right"?

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If they refuse to learn English (not even basic things or their own address), don't even try and use their children as translators for everything would you call that lazziness?

I was expected to even translate insurance policy forms at the age of 10. At that age, I didn't know what foreclosure meant nor how to explain harder terms. Even now as an adult, I still can't translate everything.

Met online, known him for 5 days, He was just rude to me all day then told me he doesn't want a serious relationship or to open up about anything then started sulking about his mum so I had to cuddle him. This all happened in one day. I barely know the guy. Then later that night he texted me 'are you angry with me?' All I wanted was to have a fun time and I got that.

Is he just a major red flag?