This guy I've known for a 5days on the 2nd hang out was an asshole to me all day then cried about his mum, do I move on?

[Anonymous]

Met online, known him for 5 days, He was just rude to me all day then told me he doesn't want a serious relationship or to open up about anything then started sulking about his mum so I had to cuddle him. This all happened in one day. I barely know the guy. Then later that night he texted me 'are you angry with me?' All I wanted was to have a fun time and I got that.

Is he just a major red flag?

Yes

No

[HollyK21]

Yeah, I’d kick him to the curb. If he’s flat out said he doesn’t want a relationship then he is definitely just trying to start a friends with benefits situation. If you don’t mind that then that’s fine, however I think he has mental issues happening that you shouldn’t want to deal with at any capacity. Like if he had that whirlwind of emotions in only one day, then you will absolutely be dealing with that sort of personality going forward, and I don’t think that’s healthy at all. It’s only been 5 days, so walking away will be fine.

[Asker]

I think this is what I'm afraid of. I was just getting mixed signals all day and no laughter or even compliments from the dude. He said it's completely up to me, he won't be mad with my decision either way. Do you think this is his way of say we should call it quits?

[HollyK21]

Sounds like he’s saying the ball is in your court and regardless of what you decide it’s no hard feelings, which is fair and understandable considering this is so new and feelings have not yet developed. One thing to consider is that right now while you’re dating people, you have the opportunity to honor your standards and be picky without having so many feelings behind it. Do you you feel like you know what you want in a man? And feelings aside, does he hit those marks? Ask yourself these things and respect your standards for what you want. This guy sounds like a red flag, especially since he flat out wants no relationship, and seems to have emotional issues. Already you are feeling bad and conflicted about even walking away and it’s been only a few days. If you stick around, how much deeper can you delve into that while still respecting yourself? Is it better to be patient and single rather than settling for a person like him just for the sake of having someone? Ask yourself vital questions like this and you will have your final answer.

[HappyJon]

I was super mean to my wife the second time i ever saw her. I had a real bad tooth ache and took it out on her. We were married 2 years later.