Questions

Is the belief or ideals of Monogamy inherently toxic?

For example Hollywood ideals we have come to know such as true love and soulmates demand both partners to be perfect for the entire marriage or relationship! Or otherwise it was never true love!

When we all know that human beings are inherently imperfect creatures, make lots of mistakes, and grow and change as person over time including our interests and dislikes.

Jealousy, suspicion, and mistrust is a huge part of monogamy! even though they will never admit it they will always have some doubt in the back of their heads. Why were they nice to x person or say x to that person or act in x way.

There are so many stipulation to marriage such as limiting interactions with the opposite sex, obligatory huge expensive weddings, obligatory expensive wedding ring, obligatory children, etc. etc.

If by some chance you are both miserable, divorce is a taboo and frowned upon and you are forced to stay with a person you hate for the rest of your life! And if you do get a divorce both partners fight tooth and nail to get as much from the other as possible and get control of the kids. etc. etc.

What do you guys think? Is it fair to trap a person to be with you for your entire life for your own selfish desires, beliefs, or insecurities?

What is wrong with loving every human being instead of being forced to just be with one for your entire life?

I work a full time job and i can barely afford rent and food. in fact some days i go eating only once to make it through the month. i can't afford to take my girlfriend out to dates like other men do. i don't want her to put up with my inherited broke-ness and everything that comes with it. if she gets bored of not being taken on dates, i won't be surprised if she dumps me and finds someone, who will. I know she's bored and we're not able to be doing those exciting or romantic things, that have to have a price tag.

What was that? I should simply stop being broke?

I tried. getting a 2nd job is not available where i am. Those employers and contractors don't like to see that. They say they want workers with full commitment. my side hustle is in the works but it's a slow process, that i am committed to. it may take off or it may crash but that's where i invested a good amount of money and time to see if it works. I don't have faith in those crappy regular jobs.