Why I DGAF About Polygamy

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Because I'm not apart of that type of relationship.

As in, I'm not polygamous so that relationship style does NOTHING to affect me in a positive or negative light. I know people who're into polygamy, and have been for years. I don't give a fuck. That's great for them. They can do their thing while I do my thing.

I can totally see how someone would be into that lifestyle. I personally wouldn't, I'm a clingy and protective sonofabitch. If my SO said "I wanna be polygamous" or "Can we have an open relationship?" I'd either say No or GTFO. Depends on how they ask and if they know me well enough to know I'm not about that life. If I went on a date with someone I really liked and they told me "I'm in a polygamous relationship, I'd like you to be apart of it too." TBH I'd be flattered but I'd say Nope not my style. I would love to stay their friend but that's not how life always works out.

Polygamy sounds great until you realize you have to keep all the wives happy.

Haha get it? Cause...yea it's funny.

But the other night on the show Futurama, there was a lawyer for Zoidberg who was great at his job, but he'd randomly slip "Polygamy should be legal" into his speeches and everyone would Boo right after they'd been cheering.

I read a book on Polygamy, (it was a main part of the plot) called Bittersweet or Stay Sweet or something and it was amazing. She was a young girl who was married off and she was about the 5th or 6th wife. He raped her multiple times to get her pregnant. The book (spoiler alert) ends with her escaping I believe. An amazing book and it opened my eyes that people still are polygamous (I was like 12 at the time). So I did research and every now and then I try to do more.

Now, we've just gotten into a world (more like a country) where same-sex marriage is legal in all states, but that doesn't mean everyone agrees with it. In my opinion, as long as everyone is consenting to that lifestyle then there is nothing wrong with it. I simply wouldn't be able to do it myself because of who I am when it comes to my relationships. Polygamy is completely fine, I don't care who someone loves or how many of those someones that person loves. It's not harming anyone at all. The only kind of polygamy thats wrong is those who're forced into it/beaten into it. The polygamy that doesn't involve minors, rape or forced marriage is okay. The kind that DOES involve rape, children who're only 14, 15 etc, or being forced to marry the guy then that is NOT okay. As long as everyone is consenting in the relationship then you enjoy your sister wives or brother husbands!

[Ruff2muffs]

Polygamy isn't illegal, and I don't think it should be. A group of consenting adults can have threesomes and orgies as they see fit and good for them. Where some people start taking issue is when it starts getting called marriage.

I've started to understand why those people get so defensive of a definition. it's because that word means something special to them, something that used to be exclusive to a religious ceremony and even though I'm gay and want to be married someday I still get why they don't approve.

Personally, I don't care what anyone else calls marriage. All that matters is the promise I make to my future wife and that's all that would be my business. But I think it's safe to say most religious don't think that way. They say that marriage is a thing between them, God and the whole community. With a view of marriage like that you can see how they think that other people's marriages will affect them.

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Well I agree with you completely, that was the point of this entire take.

[JudgmentDay]

Well I say, just let 'em do whatever the fuck they want to. But I bet those weddings costs, and possible multiple simultaneous divorces costs and as well as tax payments will be substantially much more than the traditional marriages.

Would be interesting to sit this one out and see how that works out and plays out.

[0112358]

In theory i have no issue with polgyamy between consenting adults.

In practice almost all polygamy involves arranged marriages where child brides are married off to religious elders and told that they'll burn in hell if they don't comply.

I'm not sure that laws against polygamy are the best way to handle that scenario, but it's worth noting that's the reality.

Aside from that, it's worth noting that rich and powerful men in our society often marry multiple women. They just divorce them between. Is that actually better in some way?

If polygamy was legal, would a mistress become a common law wife? First wives wouldn't like that.

The whole thing will turn into a big legal fight over money, and 'first wives' will likely make sure latter wives are shafted, financially.

[Tromba]

There's an old war movie, I think it had Humphrey Bogart in it. A US patrol in North Africa has a Muslim guide and one of the soldiers starts talking to him. it goes something like this:

So is it true you guys can have more than one wife?

The prophet says four is the ideal number. One is simply not enough. Two are always fighting. With three two take sides against the other but with four the man has peace.

That makes sense. How many wives do you have?

One.

Why is that?

Are you also married?

Yes.

Tell me, if they had this law in your land would you have more wives?

Noooo! My wife wouldn't like that.

It is the same for me. My wife would not like it.

[ElissaDido]

It's not true, it's the other way round. It never says one is not enough.

[LaVilaine]

Here's my thing with polygamy: I don't care if you do it, but if I'm on a dating website and I list "strictly monogamous" as my whatever, please respect that. Like, why would you think I would be interested?

Thank Jibbers Crabst for the boy. Dating is terrible.

[slimstiffy]

Well , in some old warrior and tribal cultures the greatest/strongest/most powerful men were allowed a few more wifes than others.
Kinda a bit like how the alpha has all females in the animal kingdom, but a bit toned down to make it realistic.
But these guys were so great that usually women wanted them and they could handle multiple women.
But even then , most men didn't have that many wifes. Today also, some cultures and religions follow that. I know that muslim men are allowed upto 4 wifes ( if i remember rightly) . i know lots of muslim people and i can tell you i have never met a man with more than one wife.
Also the ones that do take them seem to have issues. There is usual spousal abuse involved, or the women are fighting among each other etc, always something nasty.
I just dont think todays men have the spine and balls to successfully handle polygamy.

[Oram52]

Do you mean Polyamorous relationships?
Polygamy is just a guy with multiple partners, traditionally religious.

Also some also differentiate between Open relationships and Polyamorous relationships. Open relationships can be any relationship where partners can step outside the bounds of monogamy. Polyamorous relationships emphacize love, emphacize romantic relationships, not necessarily sexual.

I could care less myself as long as they're honest.

[brianna_b]

Love the Obama pics.

And let me just say that I could be bi for Jeanne Tripplehorn. She is so not a 6.

[Waffles731]

However, most polygamy also involves either underage wives or abuse of the children that it results in

[SweetHomicidalQueen]

Didn't you see where I said "as long as everyone is consenting to that lifestyle then there is nothing wrong with it."

[Scrambledagain]

Does take some time and coordination to get it right. But i don't believe in monogamy so it's hard for me to commit to one person knowing I want to get with another person all the time.