What if my soulmate is already dead?

[sir-dan]

I'm a demisexual male (if you don't know what that is please look it up) and well... I haven't had the happiest upbringing. Not trying to sound weak or pathetic or anything but my highschool years were the worst years of my life. I had 6 of my family members and friends die all in just my freshman year alone and Every other year after that at least 2 of my family or friends have died suicide, freak accidents, health problems, etc) those years were a very sad and depressing time for me but years later I'm doing so much better. I'm in college now have a good job and have been doing much better mentality and physically. Lately I've kinda been interested in dating. But With all the awful things that happen to me in my past its made me wonder... what if my soulmate is dead? What if the girl I was suppose to marry have kids with and grew old with is dead and gone like almost all of my loved ones? ... this has really been bothering me lately and I just don't know what to do

[Anonymous]

Honestly, you have been through a lot of really difficult stuff. You have to get out of your own head, though. A lot more people than you know have survived really hard stuff too. You just can't dwell on it for too long as difficult as that seems. You are self-labeling yourself and wallowing in your sorrow. If you are a demisexual, as you claim, you will not find intimacy with anyone if you approach the world like it and everyone in it should have pity on you. Make friends, join a social group or something to make you feel good. Then, maybe you will meet someone living that you feel close enough to that a relationship might work. Just be careful you don't attract abusive people... they are attracted to vulnerability. There is nothing wrong with grieving or being vulnerable, but you have to take care of yourself! Good luck.

[sir-dan]

I'm not wallowing in my grief or past experiences and yes I am indeed demisexual as I have stated I am doing much better now and have learned to cope with my past and move past it.

[Impalitteri]

i personally dont believe in soul mates. relationships are what you make them. don't let that thought bother you. i believe there is more than 1 compatible match in the world consisting of around 7 billion people.

[Anonymous]

You wouldn't know dude.. keep searching :)