When a girl says it's complicated she means what?

[Anonymous]

Apparently while she went on a few dates with me her ex is in jail, she told him she was on a date with me not sure if he was shocked or what.. and apparently they have just only hit the 1 year mark of dating.. but as it seems like she is unsure, she won't give me the details of why he is in jail, and I'm not pushing, but she asked me if it bothers me. She also asked how long have I been noticing her.. I can't tell what she's really up to.

[Anonymous]

OK number one her X is in jail, why the hell if it was her X would she be in contact with him, this would mean he would be phoning her and she would have had to have given permission for him to call her, if it was her X why would she give permission for this. 2) why would she then tell her x who she has given permission to contact her that she is dating someone else, when someone is locked up and they are calling you from a not so very nice place that is not the information you tell them this can lead to suicide or worse harming someone else. And 3 the indicator for you should have been when she asked how long you have been noticing her!!! Her man is locked up and she is looking for someone to show her attention until he gets out and he won't know anything about it... or she is telling him she is dating someone else so that when he gets out the only woman he will go back to is her, which I doubt I would say the first one.

[Opinion Owner]

Ohh i dont know the full details but I can guarantee that there is financial issue involved she needs someone to financially keep her while her boyfriend is banged up for probably drugs, fraud or robbery this all came from my boyfriend is in jail. I told him im dating someone else and how long have you been noticing me for. She wants to know how much she could possibly get out of you, before you know it she will have you hooked and start laying on thick about how her x left her in a mess and she has no money then probably be handing it into him in jail.

[Asker]

Yeah that part I'm a little confused about.. she told him she was out on a date and I guess he was a little shocked.. from what she told me he said "damn... I told you that you could meet people but not so much date" so I don't know..

[Opinion Owner]

Well you are just going to be used until he gets out and if you develop feeling for her you are the only one going to get hurt and your wallet will be a little lighter

[Opinion Owner]

Unless you are there and hear her tell him im dating someone else then I would say she hasn't. If it was your x then why would he say i said you can meet but not date. He is meant to be an x he can't tell her who she can and can't date. Sorry but to me it seems like you are being played.

[Asker]

Ugh so here is what happened today... I get a text saying I want you to come over so I can sit on your face.. then another telling me she is horny.. so I come over and she is just in panties and a tank top.. So she thinks I've never done anything like this before but I told her my last girl never sucked me so she did today while I sucked on her clit.. so she was moaning as I was sucking and just out of the blue before she came she just got up and put her panties on and she was like I popped your cherry and she acted like nothing happened at all... I was left like WTF? So she was on the phone for a bit then later went to go take a shower and got nude and walked to the shower then came back out and was nude again.. at that point I told her I had to go and I just gave her a hug and left.. SO not long later she calls me asking me what was I doing today and she wanted to go out, I did dinner but told her in a nice way you are at my limit

[Asker]

And that I was a little curious what happened today, and she said well I hope you were not expecting anything else extra, and I said no I wasn't at all and she was like ok then.. so as I got to the house I said well can i give a kiss on the cheek and she was like nope.. I only do hugs so I was like OK.. fine then, then she was all about how she does not like kisses and what not.. then as she was getting out she was like you better be glad I sucked your dick..

Where the fuck do I keep finding these girls? it's like always something never right.. This girl is as nice as can be on a date but after that or she gets what she wants she's done..

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like you need to stay clear she is doing what is called attraction method she is using everything to hook you in but leaves you high and dry, she probably doesn't care for you as I've said and your just there to fill her needs and im sorry but saying I dont do kisses here in the UK is what a prostitute or escort would say or someone in a relationship. Maybe im way off but if she is treating you like she just wants what she wants then I would wonder

[Asker]

Yeah it sounds like that. . My friend is looking up to see what her so called ex is in jail for. I think one more date and I'm done this time a double date so my friends girlfriend can pick info from her.. curious of what's going to be said. I can never meet any decent women without some crazy going on somehow!

[Opinion Owner]

That is a good idea and also get the drinks flowing then get your mates gf to quiz her she more likely to open up to a woman. I would not even have another date and i genuinely would not want to know or be caught up in the mess with her. But if you need to know then you need to know. Wish my x was like that he just used to tell me how things were it was never ask or try to find out... and he was always wrong lol.

[Opinion Owner]

People have bad times in there life's or something else going on you just seem to be meeting them at this bad time lol

[Asker]

Lol hopefully she will open up... trying to do it next month

[Opinion Owner]

Why nxt month?

[Asker]

Because Christmas and I wonder if she is so attached to her so called ex in jail why is she not playing this game on him?

[Opinion Owner]

Lol she probably is lol

[JaneEyre]

In any relationship it's best to be more open. Since she's being so forward, you have a right to know what the exact circumstances are with her and this guy. She clearly wants to know what your intentions for the relationship are. It's best to tell her. Then you can ask her what she really wants from you. Saves a lot of time and heartache for the girl and guy (s). And of course... LISTEN. Women are talking creatures. Let her talk to you.

[Asker]

Yeah she's very open so I will have to get more details.

[Poppykate]

Maybe she is trying to leave him for you? I would really watch your back through, you don't know what he is in jail for. That last thing you want is a really angry ex-convict coming for you because you used his property while in jail.

[Asker]

They have been dating for a little under a year but I'm hearing things she uses guys for money

[Poppykate]

I think that this is a situation that you need to remove yourself from, and quickly.

[CasaNorba]

bro i say ditch her. chicks who have bf/ex in jail are never up to no good and the fact that he is in jail is always a reason why to be more worried, especially if she is hesitating to tell you why he is in jail.

so yea coming to the conclusion i guess that "complicated" situation she is referring to might be something to really worry about

[Asker]

Funny and I say this because of something she posted on Facebook. . Her so called bf looks like a little thug.. but she posts something on Facebook saying guys need to stop acting like thugs and so on.. what a hypocrite. . She seems to enjoy when you talk back to her.. so I did.. she was so worried about what I was doing on my phone and standing around. . I called her out because she does the same.. it's like she always has to find shit to nit pick over for really no reason.. This morning she wanted breakfast. . I said I'm not paying today and she was quick to say did anyone ask you to pay... my level for dealing with shit this morning was really low and she was pushing my buttons..

[crazyincalifornia]

As soon as I hear her ex is in jail I lost all focus.
sorry.

[Anonymous]

It generally means that it's complex.

[Asker]

Well that's really obvious

[Opinion Owner]

Then why are you asking?