Guys, if you were dating a girl and she told you she has tokophobia would you end your relationship?

[Anonymous]

If you don't know what tokophobia is, it's when a person has a fear of pregnancy and childbirth, like if you had a fear of spiders and it caused you to have anxiety attacks. I've always been terrified of pregnancy and childbirth, to the point where I have had anxiety attacks, don't get me wrong, I love kids and think it's amazing that women can give birth and I know I can never have that kind of bond. When I turned 16 and got my first boyfriend I got on the pill to prevent pregnancy at all costs and once I feared I might be pregnant and had an anxiety attack. If you were dating a girl and you two were serious and you wanted to get married, but she told you she has tokophobia would that change your mind about being with her, or would you consider other options like adoption or surrogacy?

[Anonymous]

You'll probably need to be with a guy who doesn't want kids or who already has them. I have panic attacks (in general) and have been unsure about pregnancy because of the hormonal effects. It has been a stumbling block for me, I admit. It was part of the reason I lost one serious relationship. But I don't think it will keep you (or me) from meeting and staying someone - we just have to keep looking for the right fit. It can be a bummer, especially as guys can have most mental & physical health problems and still have their kids. But we can't change how babys are born, so focusing on the positives is a better choice. Best wishes.

[TurtleRace101]

I wouldn't blame my girlfriend for having tokophobia. Giving child birth is a beautiful thing and all (visually gross), but the idea of a live being inside of me would just freak me out. Obviously I'm not a girl, but still, I just would just feel freaked out the entire 9 months. So I would understand how she felt and tell her that her fear is ok with me. Adoption is always an option.

[guy532]

Honestly, I wouldn't marry her. I want kids and lots of them (3-5). That's a huge life decision and I need to be with someone who feels the same. I wouldn't mind adopting, but I'd still want kids from my own flesh and blood.

[Asker]

I completely understand, would you be open to the idea of surrogacy even if it wasn't your spouse pregnant but still your dna?

[guy532]

This is going to sound harsh since pregnancy freaks me out too. I would only consider that if there was legitimately some medical reason of why my wife couldn't be pregnant. I see pregnancy as a huge bonding moment between the mother, child, and father. Not experiencing that for any reason other than a medical reason would bridge a gap between my wife and I. This is all hypothetical speaking. Who knows how I would react if the love of my life was in front of me and told me that she doesn't want to be pregnant.

[Anpu23]

I would consider other options. Why not, I would also talk about sterilization if necessary.

[Anonymous]

np since i don't want kids basically