He hasn't told me about his daughter yet?

[Anonymous]

Well I've been talking to this guy for about a week and he's really sweet. We went on a date last night and things went great! He seems like a great guy and we click so well. He told me he feels like he can be himself with me, and that he's comfortable with me. The only thing.. Well I found him on Facebook and as his cover picture, there was a newborn. I thought it could be a sister, but nope, the comments say congrats and beautiful daughter. This isn't a deal breaker for me, as I can see that the baby stays with mom and he probably keeps his distance from his ex. He just hasn't said anything to me. And I'm not sure what that means?

Is he scared?

[Anonymous]

As a single dad I understand. I don't date much but I have also waited a bit until I know someone a little better before I get into the whole dad thing for a couple of reasons.
It's surprising how many woman will drop you just because you have a kid. Some may fear a guy is looking for a mom for his kid. Some feel the kid is extra baggage. (These things I don't understand- in my case I'm not looking for a mom. Im looking for a companion who will get the bonus of an amazing little girl who you can be friends with.)
For some being a dad already means he has a past and you won't be the first to start a family with him.
Another reason is that I want to be sure a women really likes me before I introduce the best part of my life so I know she really likes me and not just the fact I'm a good dad.
I also have a rule that if I'm seeing someone you will only be introduced to my child as a friend of mine for one year. If the relationship lasts longer- then you will be introduced as my SO. The dating world is so messed, I want to be really sure of someone and the relationship before I allow my daughter to become attached to someone.
So how do you make him comfortable enough to open up that part of his life to you?
You must show him you like kids and that you wouldn't mind dating someone with a kid. Talk about kids. Ask if he wants one 😉. Show him you aren't going to run because he has a kid. He probably wants to tell you but is scared.
I wish you guys all the best. I cross my fingers for him: I know how difficult dating with a kid is and I hope for him you guys work out.
Myself, haven't so much as had a single date in 5 years.
Good luck!

[Asker]

Wow.. I'm so sorry to hear that. It's terrible how cruel people can be. I hope that you can eventually find the right woman, and that she can accept you both.

I understand why he wouldn't want to tell me, I'm sure he thinks he'll lose a chance with me if he told me he had a kid. To be honest, I don't really care because she's part of him and you have to accept a part of a person fully if you want to be with them. He hasn't added me on any social media, because he has pictures of her I'm sure. I feel bad but I will definitely take your advice.

[justbe]

Just means he's not ready to introduce the topic into your relationship. It's been a week... Facebook stalking... that would be the deal breaker for me.

[Asker]

Not really, I met him online so I wanted to make sure he wasn't a catfish lol

[justbe]

Hmm but it's only been a week... still a deal breaker... at least for me it would've... if I found out that is

[Asker]

Noooo lol I wasn't stalking, just making sure he was a real person and it caught my eye. I'm a curious person

[justbe]

Fyi he doesn't keep his distance from his child's mom. Almost 100% he doesn't. You ladies love playing detective & sometimes that's exactly what hurts the relationship.. I would understand if it were 6+ months, but a week?-no way!!

[Anonymous]

He probably thinks it is too soon to drop the baby bomb to you.