Is there a way to tell if he wants to be in a female led relationship?

[kittenkiss]

I have recently become aware of FLR (Female Led Relationships) where the women take the lead in the relationship and the men prefer it that way.

Many sites say that a woman should always wait for him to make moves, be the "ideal" woman but it is not the case in FLRs.

I am dealing with a guy that seems to fit this genre. Honestly, I fit more of this genre. Is there a way to tell if he is being "just lazy" like dating sites say or if his personality is that the woman take the lead?

[chettah-two]

Hahaha..omg.

In our inate state men wants to be the leader and take care of his woman and women want to be leaded and taken care of..

This has taken MILLIONS of years to evolve and I highly doubt a few years (since the 50s) will change it...

In most relationship where the women wears the paints is the man feels like he wants to escape and the woman feels come on "man-up!"

That said, they are always anomalies in any situation.

But judging from your words "im dealing with a guy.." "just lazy.." maybe you fall into they norm.

Why I'm saying this my Girlfriend wouldn't say "im dealing.." especially if we been seeing each other for a while.. Alsoi wouldn't think of anyone that works a lot along the lines of lazy.. unless I actually think it.

Hope you et my point..

[tron2015]

Men who want female led relationships have often had controlling and emotionally unavailable mothers. Which has stunted their emotional growth. These "men" are looking for a mother figure to tell them what to do because that is the place that they feel the most comfortable being in. These guys are not difficult to spot.

[Craziie]

Seriously, I think today, the mahjority of relationships are that way .

It seems fine to me. If anything, I'm the dominate one, and he likees it :P

[SusanColleen]

My husband loves it too! We should compare notes, and really make our men squirm and show total appreciation!

[Anonymous]

maybe if he is weak and wimpy he would probably want to be in an FLR

i would never want to be in one of those myself, I like a man to be a man

[nothingtosee]

I must confess, the idea intrigues me, but only if she's in control of our sex life. I find the idea of a woman deciding when, where, and how we are to have sex hot. Even hotter if she constantly gives me direction on how to do everything better. I also like the idea that she decides when and where I am to have an orgasm. It would mean she would have several orgasms (hopefully back to back) using me for her sexual pleasure.

Also, when I fantasize about it, I imagine she brags about our sex life to all of her girlfriends. When she discovers that some of them also call the shots in the bedroom, they decide to exchange boyfriends for the night. Which then leads to the women ordering us men to give each of them threesomes.

What can I say, I like kinky sex.

[armyant]

If my girlfriend stated we were in a "Female Led Relationship" with a snazzy acronym like "FLR" I wouldn't think I was in a relationship at all but some kind of weird feminist social experiment. I'm pretty sure she'd find it obnoxious if I called it a "Male Led Relationship" too, because frankly that just sounds like a completely artificial construct.

[KLynnC77]

Well, have you had a moment of Ego Shattering? I am embarking on a Female Led Relationship. This is after my moment of Ego Destruction. I lived a lie to my own self many years. I thought of myself as an overly masculine alpha (nothing wrong with being masculine - but when you have over inflation of that you are living a lie). In tears, lots of tears I forgave myself. I am a Submissive. I need a woman to keep me in line. I need to know what obedience is and to obey women. I want to show my love through submission. That right there is humility and it will keep your Ego in check or forever destroyed. I wan to keep my Ego destroyed. So, I am forever a Submissive.

[Dela1111]

Some guys that are not alpha males and need to be lead around should be in female lead relationships. Someone in the relationship needs to be in charge, its not something that needs to be declared since he might get butt hurt, but you might need to "wear the pants."

[Jocko]

Sign me up,I can't stand having to decide where we should go to eat or what should we do today. Id love to find a girl whod just tell me where we are going and Ill get my shoes on. I just won't stand for going to see awful chick flicks than ill voice my opinion.

[Camilus]

Show him a feminist website. If he doesn't puke then he is a F L R guy ...and if that's the case then tell him to turn in his man-card along with his balls.

[Sissylee]

Is he aggressive in bed or somewhat passive? A guy that is open to FLR is almost always going to show clues in bed. Not saying he wants to crossdress but try rubbing your panties on his member or even hold them over him like you're sizing them up on, him. His erection will tell the tale

[bluecollarguy1985]

I think a smart woman can "adjust" her man. My GF did, what started with small games and estrogen pills into my coffee unknown to me, soon progressed to a full axknowledgment of my role and acceptance of complete control. However she notes that it was only poasible because of my inherent desire for it that she noticed from early on. She also notes my successful progress encouraged her tp be more than she had ever originally wanted.

[almadafie]

I would go for a female led relationship, but you would never expect that from if you met me in person, these kinds of things are something you just need to straight up ask someone

[handyman129]

Yes a large majority of men like and want FLR