Boyfriend doesn't post pictures of us on social media?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 years now. So recently my boyfriend has gone to uni and I haven't. He's never really been big on posting on social media but since he's been to uni he's been posting a lot more (but still not loads) I grabbed his phone and was going to post a snapchat of us which he never used to be botheRed by but threw a whole massive fit when I tried and took his phone away which he's never done before. A couple of weeks later I tried doing it again but he did the same thing and when I asked why he said he finds it weird when couples always post stuff (which we never do anyway). He used to have us as his phone background but whenever he goes to uni he comes back and it's been taken off. When I ask why he's like sorry Then puts it back of us then he goes back to uni and takes it off again. I don't really understand why he does this as I've been up to his uni and most of his friends know he has a girlfriend. I know this might all sounds really stupid but should I be worried?

[bbch25]

I mean, social media is weird, my SO and I haven't taken a photo together yet, but I am a bit shy and need the right photo (as many people do ha) and he's the type to take one and move on and hardly has any of himself. So I'm not entirely worried of that, but if I outright said "I want one of us to make my profile photo" I'd kind of expect a yes unless he had a good reason. Not like we post a lot (or at all) about our relationship.
But I could look passed that (perhaps not after 2 years though!), but to be constantly changing his background to me is very shady. And should definitely be questioned. He definitely seems to be hiding something, I don't get why he'd constantly change his background but yeah. I agree, sit him down, have a serious talk, tell him how it makes you feel and get a REAL answer. If he avoids the question, I say leave. If you aren't willing to just end the relationship, then leave to a friends house or family for a night or two (assuming you live together). Tell him to come message when he's ready to give a real answer. Because after 2 years, if he isn't willing to be honest and serious with you. Then you deserve better.

[SweetMissShar]

Yes you should be worried. You two are together for two years and yet he has a problem with posting a pic of you two, and then try to justify it by saying he finds it weird when couples post stuff? But it's just a pic, it's not like you are posting the whole day that you two share together. And he's taking down pics and grabbing his phone? He's hiding something. I will bet all the money in my bank account that he is hiding something. Don't let it get to you too tough. Sit down with him and be brutally honest with him on how his sudden behavior is making you feel. In the meantime, start focusing on yourself and your happiness.

[Asker]

what I don't get is is that I'm his Facebook and whatsapp picture and I know most of his friends and they pretty much know he has a girlfriend that's why I don't understand whys he is doing it. Boys are so weird

[Seneya]

I was in relationship with such a person for a year and half. He never posted anything about us. It was all hush hush. When asked he said he didn't like people badgering him with questions. I believed him. He broke up few months back.
Do his friends or family know about you? If not then I think you have a problem there.

[Mimsy1990]

I wouldn't worry, he's still with you. If he doesn't take you out in public then I'd be worried. Some people don't like updating their Facebook or medias. I know I don't and only update Instagram

[Splithead]

I don't know, maybe. I don't likebposting pics of me and my girlfriend. I talk about her a ton but I don't post pics of her anywhere. When I do it's largely to reassure her that I'm not ashamed of her and I do this randomly without her asking. At the same time, with the way girls do poaching it may actually work in your favor IF he's not himself looking to stray. Being able to see you might make any girls who were a little interested become a bit more aggressive in poaching if they think he's a good guy and believe that they compare favorably to you.

[Keruso]

Social media is a plague on this generation... celebrity mentality. Social media is just a big circle jerk, people stroking each other's egos to make themselves feel important.

[Asker]

I actually completely agree but I feel like whether we like it or not social media does define us in this generation and I don't want it to be important to me but it is unfortunately

[Anonymous]

If he just didn't want to put up a picture on social media, I could understand. For him to freak out about your posting a picture sounds suspicious. I think the real issue was that you grabbed his phone, and he is afraid you will find something on his phone that caused him to freak out. I would certainly see this as a red flag. I would place money on the fact that anyone that freaks out like that about someone grabbing their phone is cheating. Especially if they never use to care about it in the past.

[Geometry]

It certainly sounds suspicious. Mostly just the part whereally he changes his phone background. It's possible he does that for the same reason he doesn't want to put it on social media. You are probably fine though. Don't feel too bad if he doesn't want to post couples pictures yet.

[rjroy3]

Because of his reaction, it appears he wants to look as if he's single. As a guy, It makes sense to simply show the fact you even have a girlfriend. And you can do to without posting about her or text relationship every other post. 1 photo is not a big deal.

So if he's freaking out about it, I'd talk to him about how you feel. If he makes it sound like it's nothing and that how you feel about it doesn't matter, then you have a problem.

[Phoenix98]

So? not all guys are obsessed with social media, I hardly ever post anything on Facebook and the only stuff I post on Instagram are pieces of my work to promote it other then that I don't post crap.

Not everyone feels the need to broadcast their life to the world. and to be frank the world doesn't need to know.

[Mesonfielde]

He doesn't want people who add him to know he has a girlfriend. It means he has doubts about the relationship, is already cheating, or just doesn't like social media (although in this case he DOES update, so that's not really true).

[serious]

Ok, the basic question is why should he post the pictures of you both? I mean not everyone would want the entire world to know that you both are in a relationship. What is the significance of that, whether he posts or not the truth doesn't change.

[AzureGirl]

I don't think so, it's possible that he just doesn't like posting his business everywhere. My boyfriend gets like that too, even if it's just pictures of him.

[TrulyPink28]

Ermm... It's not consistent behaviour on his part. He used to have his picture on his phone background and let girlfriend take his phone without hesitation. Now he's more reluctant... That's not hiding his business from the public; that's hiding his business from his girlfriend...

[amazon-boy]

I haven't updated my Instagram or facebook in a year. Some people don't feel the need to broadcast their relationship or flaunt their girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

One post isn't a big deal. Does his Facebook status at least say "in a relationship"? Because if it doesn't I would say that's a red flag. Yeah and the whole phone background seems also like some things up

[skeptic007]

im not a social media guy either I have a bunch of pics but never post them up
I don't care about showing off anymore that's kid shit, hey look im with my girlfriend at the beach lets be honest NO ONE CARES

[Anonymous]

Time to 'un-girlfriend'... He doesn't want to hurt you but what's going on in school is more exciting. You're not part of the picture anymore. life goes on.

[OverseasCanadian]

I don't like to post a lot of pictures on social media either. My girlfriend doesn't even use facebook 😂 I would say it's not a problem.

[takumii]

Ummm... I can understand how it can come off as 'he is cheating' .. But 99% of times he's not. He just doesn't like doing that shit.

[Anonymous]

You're looking too much into it, it really means nothing.

Relationships are really for the people involved, they aren't anyone else's business.

Social media and relationships need to be kept separate, IMHO.

[Socialrealist]

He's cheating on you.

[lime_rampljuset]

Nothing wrong with that!

[sp33d]

This is all really stupid.

[somethingoingon]

smart man.

he is educated and wise.