Do you guys feel confused with what women want in a relationship?

[Anonymous]

Hi Guys

I feel so confused by women and want they actually want from a guy. Do you guys feel the same?

like i'm currently dating a girl and she makes me so confused and i keep getting mixed signals and when i speak to her about them she goes into this weird mood like i'm supposed to read her mind.

[Aidelwaish]

I understand what you are feeling. Because im in the position of a girl. I think give mixed signals to a guy now. Lots of things in her mind. So many factors that a girl thinks. For example, in my case.
Im not sure if i really have feelings for him, im npt sure he really wants me. Im afraid he wants me to be his girl just because he merely dont wanna be single, like he is in a rush. Im suspicious, this is my feeling. I think the relationship cannot last long, we somehow predict all from now. This is what girls do. I also think about his job, i feel that if i am with him, i dont feel secure and protected financially. It is not bcoz i wanna take advantage of him, take his money. It is so much more than that. I think about future possibility. I think, if we someday make it official and get married, of course i know i will pay bills too. We split expenses. But the feeling of security and protected. I feel protected if his income is much more than me. I feel protected if a guy dont settle for less and just being in his comfort zone in her career. So... this is just a little decription of how a girl think.

[Aidelwaish]

So i still dont know what move i should give to this guy. While i also feel wrong if making him too long. Its also confusing in girls side.

[Aidelwaish]

We want to be firm in our decision too. We want the relationship will be mutual too.

[Asker]

yea, this is great to know how girls feel. Honestly what would you like a guy to do to you to reassure a future together. I feel a little lost

[Aidelwaish]

The problem of all is.. knowing what caused her giving mixed signals to you. And you will nevwr really know. May i know what you mean by "dating"? Just going out/ dating OR in a relationship already?

Every case is so much different to one another. I dunno ur case. As a girl, i cannot tell him that my problem is about financial issue. I myself have to find a way how to communicate and convey to him well and dont hurt his ego a a guy. The guy's pride. I need to be careful. So i think first of all, i need guys to give straight move, the " i want you" move. I know this is selfish. But girls really need all attention to make her really fall for you. Even though we use our logic, but eventually our emotion plays the main role. So after the girl feels this man really into him and serious, then she can accept you. From that moment, try to dig if she has some doubts in her mind and ask her what her doubts. Hehe sorry this is all i can say

[Asker]

dating as in going out for a few dates already, but i know her for about 4 months before. You know i have been thinking that maybe i should tell her exactly that. To be honest i really do want her and i have been wanting to tell her that i really want her... but i was worried that it might scare her off. So i have been taking things slowly and maybe she is getting frustrated that i'm not showing her my feelings for her. Good point. Thanks i appreciate the advice.

As for the financial issue, i'm the type of guy that would love for a girl to discuss it openly with me, but i don't know the type of guy your guy is... so its difficult to say. Try to maybe break up the financial issues into sizable chunks so that it might be more palatable for him.

[Anonymous]

I can only speak for myself but I often hear of guys using girls until someone comes along who they actually want and jump ship. This isn't every guy and girls probably do this but I wouldn't be with someone if I didn't think they could be the one because its a waste of time so, knowing where a guy stands and what his hopes are for the relationship is very important for a girl. if we are confusing to you it is because we don't feel secure and are holding back so we won't get too hurt. it the reason why we won't ask someone out or put ourselves out their, we can't handle it blowing up in our face.

[DatingAdviceGirl]

Aha I'm a girl and I definitely know that women can be quite confusing at times, it's mainly because that she hasn't made up her mind 100% that you are truly in love or if she's truly in love, she is unsure if the relationship will last, so she is giving it time to find out. Or there is a reputation that she feels she needs to put up, to her friends/family/and you, which would be causing her mixed emotions/actions. If you truly love her, take the lead and make her smile~

[Asker]

yea, i understand. I guess its pretty difficult to know if you are in love. I will try to make her smile. I hope she likes me, as i want to be with her. I wish i could hug her :'(

[DatingAdviceGirl]

Aha, just hug her and tell her that you love her, if she smiles, you're in (even if she pushes you away she's still smiling), if she doesn't smile and pushes you away, well... give her more time to fall in love~ You'll get her ;)

[Asker]

thanks. She has smiled secretly and one of her friends is close to me and she said that she talks about me the whole time. So i guess i should just go up to her next time and hug her a bit more intimately even if she resists a little? thanks, all i want is to be with her... you know to watch her smile

[DatingAdviceGirl]

Go for it, good luck~ :)

[Asker]

thank you :)

[Ripper_E]

Yes because women (and I'm just generalizing here because no all women are the same) make no damn sense.

You ask them where they want to go, they say no to everything but say it's up to you. Makes no damn sense

Say they aren't hungry but then they eat half your food.

They complain that you don't tell them they are pretty enough, but then you compliment her and she rejects it.

You feel she is upset and ask her what is bothering her. She tells you nothing, but then blows up later.

We're confused because they don't know what they want and honestly, that's a personal problem they need to fix before they start a relationship and question a man's commitment.

[Asker]

that is my life bro. I totally understand where you are coming from.

[feminismisnarcissism]

that's most women... the only solution is to quit putting stock in what they say, or how they say they feel-it's all dynamic and will change within days. Be laid back and quit caring and don't let her manipulate your emotions. Most women do this shit, not really on purpose-they really can't help it. Lots of it coincides with their cycle too... some are like clockwork. This is also why guys actually friendzone themselves by believing her when she friendzones them. no friendzone is permanent and the more you ignore her nonsense, the better your chances are of getting her attention frankly lol

[FingerDancer]

Do you guys feel confused with what women want in a relationship?

No, if there is any confusion at all in any kind of relationship, communication is lacking. That is not to suggest there has been no communication, it is to suggest the communication was insufficient to provide a clear understanding.
Let's face it, both genders can get really thick headed at times!

Just my opinion

[BellePepper]

Bro if you can't understand her than just end the relationship.

Women are all different and unique individuals. None of us are going to tell you exactly what she wants because none of us know.

[Asker]

yea, that's true. I will give it a little time and see if anything develops. maybe time is needed

[Anonymous]

Women are very hard understand. But make sure you stay open and honest with her about everything and ask questions when you feel the need to. Don't feel bad about her acting weird she's probably the type that doesn't like to talk about things. Make her feel safe and comfortable enough to open up and you'll find out exactly what she wants and needs from you. Good luck!

[feminismisnarcissism]

they are not hard to understand at all-they make no sense, that's all a man has to understand. this is true about 95% of women... few women really know what they want and thus come across as headgame players when in reality-they just don't really know lol

[phil2]

Tell her exactly what you want in a relationship, if she can reassure you that then you are good. That's how I am. You cheat on me you can go to hell

[Fightingspirit]

All girls are different , but I can relate to some degree with what you have written. I have been with some girls where you have to fill in the gaps when she's talking to you.

[Borginborg]

All the time.. don't try to understand because as soon as you figure it all out the will change on you.

[Anonymous]

Yes, because they are emotional beings and are constantly changing their minds. It's hopeless...

[Anonymous]

Yeah I'm seeing a girl who just got out of a 5 year relationship and we've already had sex and we get along fine but I'm not sure where she wants to take it.

[Anonymous]

No. I know what women want in a relationship.

[Shiiz]

They just want money.

[Lovegirls22]

I'm just confused with flirting.

[Alex88F]

all the time