Do you think sometimes the best revenge is saying nothing at all?

[Anonymous]

There was this guy who I realized felt jealous when I didn't pay attention to him. Not because he liked me or necessarily respected my feelings, but because he thought I should like him forever.

He hurt me quite a bit and I'm fairly certain he knew without feeling any remorse.

I'm way over him now, living my life, barely thinking of him. I see his bitchy girlfriend who used to laugh at me with her sallow skin and really wonder if karma got to them without me ever intervening.

[BaileyisDarcy]

Pretty much.

Though thats not the route i took when I got bullied in year 7. Started saying hi to her every. Single. Time. I saw her.

I mean wow, how much can the word Hi piss a bitch off XD

It got to the point where her friends (people who had bullied me in primary school and others from different primary schools) started coming up to me saying, 'you better watch your back Bailey'
And I just shrugged and said nah, its filthy from all the dirty looks you're giving me, mind washing jt for me?

Eventually the chick came up to me and asked if I want to fight. As if thats the reason I was saying hi to her.
And I said sure. Hit me.
Nah, she didn't want to break a nail the poor thing haha

But usually i ignore people. That just wasn't working with this chick so i took a different approach. Still civil, and in a way she couldnt complain to teachers or parents without looking whiny, but enough to piss her the fuck off.

[EvilAngel114]

As lame as it sound... you are correct. Doing nothing is the best revenge. By reacting to them in anyway, shows them they it bothers you and they will play off of it thinking they have the upper hand. Just do you and love your life. And let them live theirs. Don't worry... they will get what they have coming. You'll be the last one laughing.

[Asker]

Something I realized is that when someone says something that isn't true, you shrug and it has no effect on you. But when someone says something that has even an inkling of truth to it... bam. You hit a raw nerve and they are going to be miserable.

If I had reacted at the time, there's a good chance it wouldn't really have had much of an effect, but now years later when their lives are depreciating literally, even not saying something has an effect. They're not important enough anymore for me or any one else to react to them, and that's a reality.

[Darkfairie17]

I think that can work sometimes. Especially if the person is looking to get a reaction out of you. It's not worth it to say anything, it will only make things worse or feed their ego.

[tattooedhandfet]

My opinion, you sounds salty af.
You said it here, he hurt you.
Try to talk it out with him, get closure that way and move on.
And don't worry, karma always balances itself.

[Asker]

Nah the guy's a dumbass little weasel.

Trust me, he's not even worth looking at, forget talking to. And not just because of his girlfriend and the nuisance she was, but just him as a person.

Hated that little guy since the first time I met him.

[tattooedhandfet]

Then let it go. Nothing good ever comes of hatred and vengeance.

[10dsw]

1. You're not over him at all lol. A girl who feels the need to get revenge on a guy is a girl who is invested in a guy.

2. I doubt he cares or realizes that you're attempting to get "revenge" on him.

3. I think you need to work on your maturity levels a bit.

[Asker]

I assure you he is the one who feels like I no longer care.

I don't think sometimes a guy you feel resentment towards is because you are in love with him.

This guy, he made me feel stupid I will never forget that. I hope he's happy now because he's the one who looks the fool.

[10dsw]

No haha it's not "love" per se, but it is emotional investment. To be honest... he probably doesn't care what he looks like in your eyes.

Girls wrong me all the time. I just block them and forget about them in a matter of minutes. And the simple reason is because I have no emotional investment in any of these girls. The moment a girl attempts to get any sort of revenge on me, I know that I left some sort of mark in her which means that she was invested to some extent. Be it: "hey this guy might be long term relationship material" or just "hey this guy is cute".

And trust me... if you try to get revenge on him... he'll know that deep inside you still hold something for him.

[Lopezz1999]

You nailed it brother!

[Asker]

He does care. I can tell by his behaviour.

At the same time, I know this chapter is over and thank God for that. There's no point in really thinking or even talking about this beyond a simple, 'Ha ha that jerk got what he deserved.'

[Lopezz1999]

Remember, you think just about nothing to a person that you're over.

[10dsw]

@Lopezz1999 Thanks man!

[Lopezz1999]

There's no way you're over this person since you want to make them jealous... so I can't really agree

[Asker]

I don't want to make them jealous, where did you get that from?

I recently saw a photo of him and his now ugly girlfriend. I couldn't believe it.

I never got a chance to ever strike back at either of them and now looking at the two of them together I secretly laugh... ha ha ha.

Also on an unrelated note, I let something go, which I mean.. I don't know whether I did the right thing but I think I did.

[Lopezz1999]

So why do you feel contempt for someone you're completely indifferent to? Such as people who are actually over their ex?

[Asker]

Because he wasn't good to me. Used to act like he was better than me or like I was silly or something. Man I hated him.

[Lopezz1999]

Even though that may be true, you are still glad that your ex is in a depreciating new lifestyle. A man that you're over wouldn't make any sort of difference whatsoever as far as your emotions go, because you wouldn't feel anything about anything going on in his life. You do, however. A person that you're over would be somewhat equivalent to a stranger—deserving no thoughts of contempt nor grace.

[Asker]

He is not my ex. Eww.

He is just an ugly guy who deserves what he got.

[Lopezz1999]

Oh.. then why post if he was never even a relationship with you? (The guy that you're supposed to be indifferent to)

[Pearl85]

I don't think you are quite over him since your posting here asking about it him and at you appear quite jealous.

I'm not sure how the actual question is relevant to your story but the answer is yes sometimes it is best to say nothing at all.

[Asker]

Nah I'm not jealous, lol I'm happy.

The reason I posted is actually not entirely because of him. I can think of another situation as well in which instead of revenge, I just chose not to react.

I think I made the right decision

[Anonymous]

Most of the time.. yes. Taking revenge just lets the person who hurt you watch you suffer. Why give them that privilege.

I've taken revenge on people in the past but while it felt good at the time , after the fact i just felt deflated and depressed. It's best to control your anger and emotions rather than let another person have so much control over your emotions

[redxiii74]

I think that's the laziest type of revenge because you don't have the actual balls to come up with a intricate plan that will really under mine or remove something from your targets life

[ikissedtheskyonce]

They say the best revenge is not feeling anything for them at all and not acknowledging their presence

[ASEXY]

Yeah sometimes, but I usually prefer to put them in their place.

[Asker]

When a person puts another in their place, are they almost always looking for revenge?

Because a few times in my life there have been people who have gone out of their way to insult me. I didn't get why; I can only imagine I hurt their ego in some way and now they're looking to put me in my place or something bizarre like that.

[jman46241]

Yes because you leave them to stay in their own wallow

[Anonymous]

It really doesn't matter. He's a punk and wtf was she laughing at you for? She doesn't know you! Ugly ass bitch!

[Asker]

Exactly. I think she thought of herself as better than me or something. Silly girl.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm wondering however, if he doesn't like you and has hurt you so much, why did he feel that you should like him forever?

[Asker]

I think he is one of those jealous types, who just expected me to like him forever.

His actions says it all. For example I saw him a while later from afar and he was staring at me without breaking eye contact. I was happily talking to a guy.

Out of absolutely nowhere, he came up right beside us, I knew he was trying to listen in our conversation.

Pretty much every time I forget about him he feels like I am over him and that bothers him

[Opinion Owner]

Don't you think that is such odd behavior? I mean, it's like he doesn't want you but he can't let you go in some sort of weird way. Am I right?

[Asker]

Exactly.

Hence I concluded that he thinks I am supposed to love him forever or something silly like that.

There is a possibility that he might actually like me and feels confused over those feelings. Even if that is true, if I think about the amount of times he's tried to hurt me without really caring about how I felt, whether or not he had feelings, he's a jerk that doesn't deserve anything but hatred or indifference from my end.

[Opinion Owner]

Exactly!

[Adigelunar]

yeah also ignoring the person n acting as if u dont know them

[TheOldMan59]

I think it's always better to get on with your own life. Anything else is a waste of energy.

[yotes-of-472]

No. Revenge is of the devil and we are to be kind to those that spitefully use us.

[Anonymous]

The best revenge, is not caring what happened, and to just live your life... if you don't, then well, karmas a bitch

[Mindset]

Just ignore! Think of your plans and your life!

[scooogy]

Maybe, depends on the situation.

[Anonymous]

Of course it is