I'm not the lovey dovey type?

[Griselda708]

So I'm not the lovey-dovey type and I've been married for five years and my husband is like so affectionate and he so caring he shows so much love and he likes hugs and kisses and all that other stuff. I'm not like that and it causes a lot of issues in our marriage/relationship and I was just wanting to know if this normal or am I like screwed up for not being a lovey-dovey wife.. and also we always argue because I like to just be layed back and chill relax lay down watch TV and he likes to be hugging and cuddling and kissing and stuff.. I feel suffocated like that and it's causing us a lot of problems and were even looking at a divorce so anybody has tips on this?

[IEat70sBush]

A pity you are not all touchy-feely considering you are kinda hot. I'm sure eventually he will feel like he's just window shopping with you, nice to look at but can't touch it since it's in a display case. I guess just get a divorce and find someone else that doesn't make you feel like you are suffocating, which tends to be more difficult for females that are actually more attractive than average. I guess sometimes being ugly or losing the gene lotto is a gift.

[Griselda708]

Thanks for ur honest opinion..

[imtheman0048]

getting a divorce over your inability to cope with what should be an expected /normal expression of love from yout husband seems a bit ridiculous honestly. maybe he over does it? I don't like being smothered all the time there's a time and place for it. but Id be offended if my wife dint seem to like it at all.

[Griselda708]

Hmmmm... I figured he would like his space, but sometimes I think he would like to be glued together...

[imtheman0048]

It feels good sometimes especially if its cold. If we get sweaty I want to back off lol and I usually can't sleep.

[Griselda708]

I mean yeah I don't mind hugging , especially when I'm stressed.. but to be constantly hugging, it's kind of annoying to me...

[imtheman0048]

Thats a tough one.. there's some things that need to be worked out ahead of time. for example I had a girlfriend who was nice but when we had sex you could smell it... so I never went down on her. we ended up breaking up over not being sexually incompatible.

[Griselda708]

You should of came clean with her and be like look "let's take a shower before we do this" or make an cute indirect joke or something lol

[imtheman0048]

no cause thats something I doubt she could fix. its her body's natural odor. they never taste great but I can pretty much always put up with it. her smell literally made my stomach turn. I agree with the honesty thing but you should also be sensitive especially when its something they can't fix. same with dick size.

[Griselda708]

Great point

[imtheman0048]

the indirect jokes are such a dick move too lol

[imtheman0048]

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[JosyJosy]

You can like relax and chill together, cuddled up while you watch TV, both happy

[Griselda708]

He likes all that kissing, hugging stuff... I know it's messed up but it I'm watching a movie, I'm watching a movie... I think I'm not normal

[JosyJosy]

You can't watch while snuggled up?

[Griselda708]

I try but he try's to take it to the bed room

[awesomejerry]

sex and kiss both are triggered when you in love with guy you doing with. if you don't like doing it with your husband, might be you don't love him anymore

[Griselda708]

Well honestly , I've always been like this.. from the very beginning I've never been a fan of kissing..

[awesomejerry]

anyone or is the case with your husband only?

[Griselda708]

With anyone... I think kisses are kind of disgusting to be honest

[awesomejerry]

what if you get chance to kiss some celebrity you are fan of

[Griselda708]

Not gonna happen... I just don't like kissing.. I don't know why

[awesomejerry]

okay , discuss the thing with you husband if he loves you he will understand you

[Griselda708]

I've tried , I've honestly tried... but his background is in kissing and touching.. he reminds daily of how the other girls he was with weren't like me

[awesomejerry]

guys are like they want that thing, the things they are denied. once you showed your resistance in kissing he all wants is kissing now. its typical guy nature. solution is to distract his mind whenever he tries to kiss on something else he hates. like ask him to kiss you all over whenever he tries to kiss your lips. this will distract him for sometime. repeating same thing will lead that he will avoid kissing you as he has to again kiss you all over. slowly and slowly he will stop kissing you on lips and will find other way to make love with you.

[Griselda708]

Thanks, I'll try it

[dolemite68]

i understand if he's constantly doing it might be annoying but u don't like kissing and cuddling even sometimes? thats very odd. tell him to tone it down a bit i guess

[Griselda708]

I like it sometimes, being once a day. Or even once a week. I know it's odd but that's what I like

[dolemite68]

once a day is chill reasonable tho, if ur the type that does like the sappy stuff and would rather just have sex i don't think any guy would care that much if u explained it like that

[Griselda708]

Nope... I'm not that type.. I'm currently married.. however that's just the issue

[praveensai]

hei go to him and say straight I don't like this kissing r cuddling. if you want tel have some sex and satisfy but don't kiss , don't hug etc because I don't like them

[Griselda708]

I've tried this

[praveensai]

actually you like yourself more. I mean u see yourself as a queen and Ur like that. so you don't want to be kissed, hugged and stuff like that. it's really hard to be changed. believe me you can't find guys how don't love it

[praveensai]

just make him suffocate in a room and say I too feel the same when you try kissing me. make him feel the same then he may realise.

[Griselda708]

Lol I'll try both.. I'll try to change and I'll try the room thing

[Anonymous]

You two don't seem compatible. But if you want to try to make your marriage work you can put some effort into satisfying his needs. It's not like you can't be better at it. You do have some control in this.

[Griselda708]

Be better at what exactly?

[Opinion Owner]

Do you not know what it is your husband wants from you that you are not giving him enough of?

[Griselda708]

Love and affection are his words

[Opinion Owner]

So what was your question to me?