Am I just a "convenient boyfriend"?

[Sjcash]

Me and my girlfriend have been dating for almost 2 years now and we would talk all the time! But now lately the last month or 2 or 3 during the week she hardly ever talks to me and I would text her after She gets out of school and... Nothing... I'm lucky to even hear from her. She says she did not hear her phone or she was watching a movie or homework... ECT so I talked about it and this is what she said... "I feel horrible when you tell me I seem to put you last because I think subconsciously I realize it but it isn't intentional at all and sometimes I need to be reminded and I know that isn't fair to you because I know I don't like to feel like I'm on the back burner either" OK but I'm like OK maybe we all need our space but she was like no I don't want space. I just hate being the "convenient BOYFRIEND" there when she needs me but that's it... Our weekends are great! We spend everyday with each other and I buy her stuff for her car and I pay for dinner and stuff but after that it goes back to like nothing. Just kinda unappreciative cause of comments like "i wish I had better subs" Right after buying her a new set of subs and huge Amp not one freaking day later! They sound a hell of a lot better than the last set OF Nice subs I bought her too! I Try but I'm just not good enough. I love her so much with everything I have. we have a "fairy-tail relationship" no really fighting never broke up, and she loves me but I don't know what's going on. Help? I just don't know anymore I'm about to give up.

[samhradh_leannan]

It sounds like she is using you to an extent, whether consciously or unconsciously. She may not want to, and she may not be doing it on purpose, but it sounds like even she is aware that something is wrong. Either she has become too comfortable in the relationship and it's made her feel like she doesn't need to make any effort, or things have died down between you. You should not be the only one buying gifts, paying for dinner, calling, etc. If you want to give her another chance, talk to her and try to open her eyes to how unfair she's being. Remind her that relationships take work from both sides. She needs to put in as much effort as you are. Otherwise, don't waste any more time with her.

[Sjcash]

She buys dinner and movies off and on but she said she was just joking on the hole wanting new subs thing. It still hurt and pissed me off but I love her and don't want to just give up completely but it hurts but maybe I should get over it and just go on like it doest bother me.

[samhradh_leannan]

Maybe you are just having trouble communicating. But based on your story, she truly isn't treated you in a fair way or making as much effort as you are. I would hate to see the situation continue. Talk to her and make your feelings known. Don't put up her flakiness- either she cares about you to treat you well, or she doesn't. Talk it over and see if you can come up with a solution.

[Sjcash]

Ok thank you so much I really want to still be with her so I will do what it takes to keep us going strong! :)

[samhradh_leannan]

Just don't do more than is fair to you.

[myty420]

she knows you are willing to throw down money so she brought it up as a hint to get her better sub's. that's shady. A girl that expects you to do that all the time does not really care about you..or herself. If some guy wants to buy me dinner I will gladly accept and won't complain about it.. its f***ed up if I do...he could be buying that other girl all this nice sh*t...but than again maybe I should be more demading. not being so is not getting me anywhere.