My girlfriend wants me to beat this guy up for her?

[Matt_s]

my girlfriend has just found out that this guy has been saying some pretty nasty stuff about her and when I talked to her about it she is all set to find this guy set up a meeting and literally kick his ass. she is mad at me that I don't want to rush in get up in his face and beat him up, I have never fought someone before and I don't understand why this is angering her so much, when people have said random stuff like that about me and I have been raised to just shrugged it off and not let it be a big deal and she said that I must not have much self respect for myself and I must not have any respect for her because I'm not willing to get up and beat the sh*t out of this guy for her, I was not raised that way and I don't know how to respond or act to this, should I go get up in this guys face and fight him? I'm lost on this one

[experiancedinpain]

It may not be a bad thing to talk to him in a friendly manner just to see what he says and see if he admits to it. Or did he really say it or did another jealous person just start a rumor?

However, it is my experience with women that the irrational quick tempered ones are usually not the type of girl you want to stay with very long. Apparently she is more interested in the vindictive pain of others rather than what your wishes may be.. Remember the old saying "stick and stones may break your bones but words will never hurt me..? Is she really that insecure? Consider some of the stuff is true? and that is why she is so upset (that you may find out). Perhaps for your sake you should reconsider what she may be like to you in the future?

Personally I would sit her down, explain (again) what your morals and values are and ask her to respect these things that make you the person she wanted to date.. If she can't do it, let her know that she isn't the one for you.. However, watch out for the next boyfriend coming after you for what you may have said (or didn't say) --

Yours truly, Experienced in pain

[DocClassic]

well man that totally blows cause...well, your completely right. I mean its up to you obviously, but I think you should stand your position and if she can't accept that then she may not be taht great of a person. fighting blows...nothing good happens from it and what happens if he ends up kicking your ass instead? don't let a chick control you like taht bro

[Briers]

Don't fight him if you don't want to, because that, my friend, is starting sh*t. Especially since it's not really your business in the first place. Also, do you even know he's been talking sh*t or is this just what your girlfriend has heard from people? Word of mouth usually isn't too reliable. I would say, only fight him if he says something disrespectful right to you/your girlfriend if you're there, to stand up for yourself.

[Anonymous]

don't fight him over that.i mean so he said some mean things about her, it's not like he assaulted her or tried to kill her. tell her that you're not going to fight if you don't want to.plus, if you two do fight who knows what could happen. this dude could try to press charges or you could be hurt badly.its just not worth it so tell her to either let this go or battle it out with him herself.

[hiiamabat]

Go with your feelings on this and don't fight him.

However, don't completely disregard her feelings. Just explain to her what you explained to us. And definitely DONT FIGHT HIM. In fact, I wouldn't even confront him. Supposedly he was talking crap but like you said, she should shrug it off. It might not even be true.

[Xenophobia]

Do it while your still under 18. Some people cannot be reasoned with verbally, therefore, you need to make an example out of him. Stand up for the girl, that's all she wants. Obviously, the guy is a dirtbag, to be talking about her like that. In life, let nobody walk on you, because things will only get worse, if he sees your not going to do anything about it. Fighting is a last resort, but sometimes its the only way to get the point across. It's your girlfriend, too. If you cared about her that much, you wouldn't be passive. Be assertive, grow a set, and show him that his actions have consequences.

[Littletad]

I think she's asking for a bit too much here. While fighting in elementary was pretty low-key, fighting in high school is not as lenient. You could be expelled, become juvenile, or have something on your record. It's simply not worth the risk. I have no idea how the punishment system works these days, but it's really not worth attempting to find out.

I think you and her need to take the high road and just ignore the idiot. Let false news land on deaf ears.

[Chronic]

Seriously? I would not put any guy up for that I mean that its cute if she was just playing around but she got herself into it and should not lean on you to fight her battle for her.