Wife wants to watch me have sex with other women?

[Anonymous]

My wife and I have been happily married almost a year now and I love her to pieces and she regularly tells me how much she loves me. She has told me she wants to watch me have sex with other women.

I have never considered cheating on her as I am perfectly happy with our lives. Our sex life is amazing.

I've told her I would never be comfortable with her having sex with another man, but she assured me she doesn't want to be with another man and she will never expect me to allow her to have sex with other men. It's just always been a big fantasy of hers to watch me with another woman.

She's assured me she won't let it hurt our marriage and she thinks it could even be good for our marriage as I will get to have sex with other women and she gets to experience one of her fantasies.

I'm sceptical to say the least and wanted outside opinions on this.

Can this be good for our marriage? Will she eventually get jealous if I go through with this? Am I out of order for saying I would never be comfortable with her being with another man considering the fact that she wants me to have sex with other women?

[chopper1977]

Some things were just meant to be a fantasy, you know what I mean? I look back when me and my husband of 16 years were dating and we almost had an opportunity for this (I had a woman approach me that was into me, and lord I love women lol). I just never acted on it. Boy, I regret that lol, but it's a fantasy that I have now. I'm happily married, he's content more so than myself, so why screw with it? It works for tons of other couples, but if you have doubts, and you obviously do, then I don't think it's a good idea to act on... even if it's her fantasy or whatever.

[Asker]

Do you think it would be good to try it once on like a trial kind of thing and if she gets jealous, we can stop and not try it again? This is one of her strongest fantasies and she's desperate for me to agree to it...

[chopper1977]

If you guys are married, I don't think it's a good idea period. Maybe act on it if you do not have any children... It's like this, I can fantasize in my head about my husband doing another woman, and it's arousing to me... especially if it's a woman I am super attracted to, but to act on it, there is always the chance that it won't go well. Is your fantasy worth the risk of possibly screwing up your relationship? You may fantasize about doing a busty redhead, but acting on the fantasy probably isn't a good idea right? Not only potential emotions from you, her, the other female, but there is also pregnancy, STD's, etc. Besides, how many times have we had such high hopes for something, thought wow, this person is soooo hot, and then it just ruins for disappointment and you got more out of playing it over in your head getting off to the thoughts of it than you did in the reality?

[AliasGrace]

I have the same fantasy. Its almost like I want to watch him please another woman because it makes me feel like a benevolent goddess to share what I have lol.

It is an interesting prospect. And neither of you will really know how you'll feel about it until it happens. Just keep talking about it, the good and bad and eventually you will know if its truly right for you guys.

[Anonymous]

She's okay with it now, but once she sees that another woman can give you better pleasure, she will hold it against you. Maybe even turn the situation around and blame you for actually going through with it. She needs to be mentally prepared and ready. The decision shouldn't be made because its in the moment type of thing.

[Asker]

Tbh it's not an in the moment kind of thing, she's always been into it. We've been watching porn regularly since we started dating almost 5 years ago and she always tells me she would like to watch me do that with another girl.

[Opinion Owner]

Watching porn together and her fantasizing about you penetrating other women is nothing compared to you actually having sex with someone else. Couples think they can handle something like that but instead of making the relationship better it makes it worse. It's not something to talk about one, two, three times. It's a talk that needs to continue to be brought up before you actually put it in action. It's not for everyone, only you know your wife and you know if she'll resent you for it later.

[Logorithim]

I don't see any benefit to this. If she wants to engage in this fantasy, she can do so in the confines of her own head. Let's say you accomodate her and have sex with other women in front of her. Even if it doesn't result in any jealousy on her part, I doubt you'd enjoy that, and, furthermore, good luck telling her "no, you can't have sex with other men" after you have had sex with other women.

[Asker]

She has already told me that she has absolutely no interest in having sex with other men...

[Anon85]

Bad idea. Really bad. Sex is like fire - it's good when it's in the fireplace but you let it get out and it's a mess to contain. Even if she doesn't think so now, it's going to lead to jealousy, not to mention what could happen with you or the other chick involved

[Cody01]

Sounds sketch as fuck. If you ever do it, let her lead the way and approve of everything. So she truly wants you to do it because she's the one setting it up and you're the one that's iffy about it.
Great opportunity though if you're emotional connection to each other isn't harmed and this is purely for physical pleasure.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I personally don't think it's a good idea.
I feel like, it's one of those things that she fantasizes about, but she probably wouldn't really enjoy.
How do you feel though? Are you okay with being with someone else?
Personally, I would be extremely disappointed, might even consider ending the relationship if my boyfriend wanted to watch me fuck other men. But that's because I want him and only him

[Soulforheart]

I don't know... it was a fantasy of mine and we tried it with her best girlfriend and ever since loves watching us. Like the best friend is lubricating me bc she likes the cum and loves it when the girl cums and the stick in my wife like they are warm and mixed. It's also cool bc they should like and so I don't know. I used to fantasize but my wife was so awesome and porn sucked. We talked and what we like and this came up.
Now you can just see her eyes light up when another girl starts flirting with me.

[Intraluminal]

It's the female version of cuckholding, called cuckqueening. The motivations are different though, but I can't explain them because I don't understand them.

In any case, she won't be jealous, or at least not in a way that will harm your marriage. is it a good idea? It's so rare that there's no way to know. If I were you I'd go on FetLife and see if I could discuss this with other couples who have gone that route.

[GreatnessBack]

So, here's the thing:
Doing that while both are you are not prepared for the possible fallout could hurt your marriage,
but not doing it could definitely hurt your marriage.

My wife and I don't have group sex fantasies, but we have done every fantasy at least once to see if we liked it.

[Asker]

So you reckon we should try it once at least and agree if we don't like it, we just won't try it again and we won't let it come between us?

[GreatnessBack]

Yup.
Again, I stress that both of you are secure and prepared.
Having sex changes everything.
You could catch feelings (even if you don't want to)
She could see how jealous she really is in THIS situation.

I'd suggest that you look over at your wife while you are banging the other girl, as a "you're still number one" thing. lol

[taleswapper]

No, you're not out of order to say what you think. It's important to keep the lines of communication open. If you're not okay with it, just tell your wife that, Maybe you can have her pretend to BE another woman to satisfy her fantasy; it's worth a try. Ask her what it is about the scene that excites her, and try to incorporate it into roleplay just between the two of you.

[Steve37]

Obviously I don't know your wife so I can't say for certain, but I think she has an erotic image in her mind about what it would be like to watch you have sex with another woman. I also think that if she actually saw you getting off while having sex with another woman, she would feel a little betrayed even though it's her idea.

I think more bad than good can come from you following through with this.

[chopper1977]

Yes, this gentleman has verbalized exactly what I was thinking. The erotic image, the fantasy is sexy, arousing, but that doesn't mean that it is good for the marriage. We all have our fantasies, even if we are single though, some of those fantasies still are not necessarily a good idea.

[Zendrya]

I think if it is consensual, any boundaries are stated, and both really want to do it it will be fine

[Justacatlady]

Don't
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[Lovemycountryboy7778]

That is not good for your marriage yes she will get jealous ,.
Don't do anything.. Don't even watch her..
And she only needs sex with u not anyone else

[jacquesvol]

A www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cuckquean

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I think this can end up terribly wrong. It can't "not effect the marriage" honestly. Tables can turn. Anything can happen. I wouldn't recommend this at all.

[Negrodamu5]

Don't do it. Cuckolding is degenerate, consentual or otherwise

[jokercard]

She sleeping with another man doesn't differ from she sleeping with another woman

[Asker]

Yeah I know that, but I'm not okay if she would have sex with someone. But she really wants me to have sex with other women...

[girl2034]

Wife is messed up and does not love you enough to want you all to herself only.

[Asker]

That's not true. She regularly tells me how much she loves me and does a lot of cute little things which shows her affection for me

[girl2034]

But would you like it if she was having sex in front of you with other men? Probably not.. Because if you loved her you'd get jealous right

[Asker]

Of course I would be jealous, I already told her I wouldn't be okay with her having sex with another guy and she's told me loads of times she's not interested in other men. She just wants to watch me with another girl because it's one of her strongest fantasies, it's something that turns her on...

[girl2034]

Its just not right. Sorry don't know what else to say. She might not care right now because she's horny and lusting about it but in the future she might think back to it and realize how messed up it was and feel the resentment and jealousy which will probably cause a lot of fights and eventually a break up.. Also she may only be testing you.. either way these kind of experiences never go well

[Synttacks]

Go make her a proud cuckqueen

[JennieF]

Many women have this fantasy.

[killer4212]

Lucky man

[Anonymous]

your wife is stupid and probably cheating on you

[Asker]

She isn't

[Opinion Owner]

which one cause im pretty sure im right about both

she is trying to playing off by adding you in lol

[Opinion Owner]

we are in the end times
the mark of the beast is out in public and you think she is pure when the bible says the human race would become worse as time passed lol

[HereIbe]

Yeah, right...

[Asker]

Care to explain?

[ChiTwnBrd]

You say “yeah right…” so dismissively. Just because his reality is not something similar to your own, does not make it far fetched or untrue. I’ve been married for 15 years. About 6 years ago my wife and I began going to strip clubs, my wife began getting champagne rooms with dancers and hooking up w them, and eventually we did our first 3way. We have been with 30 + women together and now have been with the same girl for over a year. My wife has always been turned on by thought of me “cheating” (long before we started this lifestyle). So some people are just wired different. Jealousy comes from a place of insecurity (fear of losing the partner). So my wife having no reason to feel id ever leave her, only gets turned on by the taboo acts. Why assume he’s here to waste time lying to random strangers online and not just looking for insight into his situation?