What are the pros and cons when you're dating a military man?

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Halligan · Accepted Answer

Pro’s: steady income
Class A uniforms are classy
Military balls
The ability and knowledge to protect you
They know CPR
They can carry your stuff easy
If married: good insurance
Access to the PX and commissary
Cheating is a punishable offense
Free POA’s and other legal/tax help
They know how to make the bed, clean, and launder.

Cons: moving a lot
Difficult to find a job each time you move
Deployment with long stents of no contact
If they’re a NCO, always putting his unit before his family
Possibility of returning with PTSD
NCOs are used to yelling at troop, so they may yell at you rather than have a conversation
depending on their job, can have increased risk of miscarriages or special needs kids
Highest rate of murder-suicide
Highest rate of divorce second only to families with special needs kids
Dangerous job, make sure you’re prepared to take care of someone if you want to get married. Amputations, dysfigurements, Traumatic Brain Injury, ED for various reasons...
If you break up or get a divorce, be prepared to be villainized, regardless of the reasons. People will still tell you it’s your fault even if you left due to abuse.

I’ve dated 2 former NAVY and my first marriage was active duty ARMY.

hannahlyne7 · Accepted Answer

Pros:
theyre manly men and thats super attractive. you'll never have to worry about feeling safe around them.
Cons:
the whole idea is romanticized. Its no picnic they hve to be gone for long periods of time and its an emotionally and physically draining career not just for them but for the relationship and they need a girl who they can relate to even when theyre "messed up" and most girls aren't that girl.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why are you asking?
I am married to a soldier, been together almost 9 years.
You get to travel.
Life is unexpected.
You learn to make friends from scratch.
You learn to problem solve, relationship, kids, money, everything is on you... so pick up reading. He just focuses on his job.
He might complain a lot if he has to help you, as his job is demanding enough on him

VonDamme · Accepted Answer

I don't know what the cons are because my military ex was all pros

He was protective, intelligent, strong, affectionate, caring, determined, etc.

Really I think he's the perfect man. I don't think every military man is like him though.

OpinionnotHate · Accepted Answer

Almost all of the cons people are listing is based on a person piss poor choices NOT relevant to them being in the military. So everyone saying military guys are likely to cheat are full of shit because being in the service has no pull on ones more compass or dictation on making a guy more likely to cheat if he's in the service.

Logorithim · Accepted Answer

Which country's military are we talking about?

A lot of girlfriends have a hard time dealing with the deployments and field exercises that take place, including what feels to them like uncertainty. On the plus side, his paycheck is secure.

Miristheiss · Answer

They are gone all the time, months at a time, you belong to the government and your mate can get plucked away, months at a time, at the whim of the government and you'd have to move all the time at the whim of the government. You'd be in a big time LDR and the temptation to cheat with someone who was physically present will be a thing each of you will have to confront.

CoffeeWC · Answer

He has access to money which is good for you.
But he isn't very in touch with civilian life. You would be forced to move every three or so years todifferent places across the country to if you plan on long term. He would likely cheat with foreign women.

montey · Answer

there are no pros from what I know, other than future financial benefits.
Military men are abusive and controlling, and are known for forcing their girlfriend or wife into having kids, as well as beating her.

broken_souls · Answer

I would say a pro is how proud of your partner for standing up for you and your country. The con... There's the chance they could be killed in action or taken prisoner, and you'll be lonely a lot

Anonymous · Answer

So many pros being involved with a man in uniform. Just don't drive him nuts. You wouldn't want a well trained fighting machine to beat you down because you mostly likely pushed him.

PinkMichae · Answer

There is more con's than pro's tbh. It's a lonely life being a military wife.

BraveRecreation · Answer

What I noticed was their dick can be as hard as their rifles not sure why but you can ask him when you see him again.

Anonymous · Answer

Pros: Financial benefits Cons: Ptsd Cheating Being away a long time Having to wait to hear if theyre dead/alive

Anonymous · Answer

Pros:
You get some of his money
You can have an affair
there's always someone to talk to with offer sex afterwards
Did i mention there is a lot of benefits money wise
Cons:
He might cheat
Ptsd
He might die

Anonymous · Answer

the negatives outweigh the positives. Death is the biggest negative out there.

Dxk007 · Answer

Cons:-He won't have enough time for you. Pros:- Why would I promote another man lmfao

emma_13569 · Answer

Con - you might have to be transferred to different bases and might not see him a lot

Anonymous · Answer

Pros :He would fuck you harder. Cons: He would fuck your life harder. 😂😂😂That's a joke, don't mind. 💛

aialex · Answer

Pros : He can kick your enemy's ass. Cons : LDR

NerdInDenial · Answer

It’s very difficult but adventurous

BOUNTYGUY9 · Answer

l prefer a police girl

bigcoolguy · Answer

As someone who never dated a man... xD

Anonymous · Answer

Just like any other guy.

Anonymous · Answer

He's gonna come back unstable

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