Opinion on dating/marrying men in the armed forces or police service?

[Shynanaa98]

[SteveSmith1985]

As with anything... love whoever you love. Look at whether it makes sense to date/marry some particular individual person. The fact that he works where he works might factor into that overall assessment, but it shouldn't be a main deciding factor. I don't think anyone should decide beforehand that they wouldn't date/marry someone who was a cop or in the armed services. Not until you're talking about a SPECIFIC guy. And then it just comes down to how YOU feel about it yourself.

This isn't something that you should make a blanket "rule" about. If you find a great guy who seems right, who happens to be a cop, then... if you're alright with that particular guy being a cop, then no problem. But I think you're doing yourself a disservice if you choose NOT to date someone ONLY BECAUSE they're a cop or in the armed services. I think it's really an individual thing. (and I'm not a fan of cops). 🙂

[hinaaaaaa]

I think it all depends what you're fine with. Dating a police officer is hard. If you're not an anxious person who will worry about their boyfriend while he's working. But police officers also work long hours usually 12 hour days. Depending on his unit, they may switch off 6am-6pm shifts to 6pm-6am. They also work every other weekend from my experience.

I've also dated someone in the army and was a cop. With everything above he was also at training 1 weekend every month. Then every few months, he would have to go away for training. Deployment was also a hard time. Something you'd have to consider if you're ready for. It was hard going months apart and not being able to talk as much.

But if this I'd also something you're ok with, I'd say go for it. These men are real sweet and amazing deep down. They may have a hard exterior but they have lots of love and definitely deserve a women who can love them after everything they go through.

[RandomGuy1030]

U would be q good girlfriend

[Jessica405]

I would never date any guy in the forces, police, and the fire service. Too unpredictable life. Too many risks.

[Sunssong]

I remember a 80 year old guy saying when he worked for the fire department he only worked like a few times a month lol. But he was earning 4k a year which is like 35K+ in todays money.
I don't know if it's still like that.

[MaazHussain]

Opinions on dating or marrying men in the armed forces or police service can vary depending on personal values, experiences, and beliefs. Some people may see it as an attractive quality and admire the bravery and sacrifice that comes with these professions. Others may have concerns about the risks and challenges that come with the job, such as long periods of time apart or exposure to danger. Ultimately, it is up to each individual to weigh the pros and cons and decide what is best for them. It is important to communicate openly and honestly with a partner in these professions about any concerns or expectations.

[Guy13]

Go for it. For the most part they are decent men

[SnowedIn]

@SteveSmith1985 nailed it with his statement on this "isn't something that you should make a blanket "rule" about".

Also, YOU need to make a decision like that. Don't listen to rumor and stories -- there are too many out there about police and military folks. And, yes, where there's smoke there's fire, there's also a lot of BS. The rumors aren't helpful, nor often true.

Here's the thing: there are downsides to EVERY career and anyone who tells you differently is clueless or lying. And different people in different careers are different.

So, meet the people you want to meet date the people you want to date. Yes, examine how their career impacts them and might impact you but don't make decisions beforehand based solely on the job field.

My wife was a Sailor's daughter and granddaughter and swore she'd never marry a Sailor. Then she met me. :)

[ShiftingMonke]

Purely anecdotal; I'd advise against it, simply because there's more women with the 'cop' kink than there are officers; I can name several married officers in the local town who are well known adulterers. They're not in shape, attractive, intelligent, or any other conventionally attractive trait: the only reason they're getting any attention is just because they carry handcuffs on their person. It's resulted in scandal after scandal with firings and demotions all the time.

That's not indicative of all police though. Just my 2 cents.

[Fireguy17]

always go for a firefighter.
way better than a police officer.
with someone in the military you may have to move quite often.
Police today is a bit riskier, same as a firefighter.
It can depend on which shif they work as to how many days a week they work, but generally it is around 11ish days a month, 24 hour shifts, some 48s or more so they won't be home every night.
with someone in the military they could be deployed for an extended amount of time, and many officers work 3rd shift when they are new.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Dating a military man can be the best experience of your life. These men are physically and emotionally strong, and they have a work ethic like no other. They've dedicated years of their lives to fight for our country, and they deserve an awesome woman like you by their side.

[abc3643]

"The girls, they love to see you shoot!"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IZpKojZ8pvwhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmdUsiQ2qro

[Finchie40]

Most girls love guys in uniform so if he is a good man and values relationships go for it , but just because he wears a uniform doesn’t make him a good man , so it depends on his personality and how he treats you

[Pyrofox]

I'd probably feel like walking on glass if I were dating a female officer or military contractor. Its never clear how they handle really stressful situations and I'd know they'd probably beat themselves up if they ever like exploded on me.

[exitseven]

I know literally hundreds of cops. A large percentage are divorced, many more that once. I don;t think the job is too conducive to married life.

[Shamalien]

I think that if women didn’t date bullies we wouldn’t have bullies

[WhiteBoyChill]

Why get with guys who won’t be around as much, and who have a good chance of dying from their work

[Guardian45]

I don't recommend first responders. They can be VERY Fed Up!

[Anonymous]

They are racist though

[KrakenAttackin]

No more than the Wokeys.