My boyfriend thinks we are spending too much time together? how much time should you spend with your partner?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend thinks we’re spending too much time together. He and I crave time together a lot, but he has this idea that being around each other too much is going to damage our relationship.

Is this a thing? How much time do you and would you like to spend with your partner?

[CallMeDave]

I think the answer to how much time you should spend together is different for different people.

You two might want to take the quiz at www.5lovelanguages.com and see what results you get, especially for Quality Time. That's the highest score for both my girlfriend and for me. We both got 10 (out of a maximum 12). That means it's important to both of us to spend a lot of time together - and we do. We both have full time jobs, so we're apart during the days while working, but other than that we're together most of the time - and very happy with that. We've gone on vacations for a full week and were together practically the entire time and never got tired of that and in fact enjoyed it. I actually look forward to times like that because I think being together more often makes us closer.

A couple where both have low scores for Quality Time however might not want so much time together and would be happier seeing each other less frequently and doing a lot of things alone or with someone else. As long as they are both happy with that, that's perfectly fine too.

If one person has a high score on Quality Time (or Physical Touch) and the other has a low score, that could be an issue though because the person with the high score is likely to feel unloved if their partner doesn't spend a lot of time with them and touch them frequently.

So, my opinion is that the right amount of time to spend together depends on your individual needs, including your Quality Time score.

[Simply-enigmatic]

It largely depends on the person. Unfortunately spending too much time together too early is damaging to a relationship. (I experienced this).

I cannot say how much time you two should spend together, but I can say that it should feel natural.

For your second question maybe like 1-2 maybe 3 times per week (early stages)

[Arbus]

Yes, that is a thing.

He needs time for himself as well.

Quality over quantity.

[clampfan101]

I’d take a break if I passed out from exhaustion from the amount of time I spent with her. lol ;)