Now I will say that this is my first relationship. I usually have a more relaxed approach and I am not here to be told that any guy would want to be in my place. I won't listen to that crap. I am me, and I have my own values and morals.
So basically I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks now. We've been on a few dates and only kissed twice. I wouldn't say it's a serious relationship, but it is exclusive. We met through mutual friends, and said mutual friend got us talking after finding out she really liked me. During this time one of the first questions she asked me is "if the opportunity presented itself, would you have sex", which I hesitated with in general because of my relaxed approach, and later said one of her dreams was to have sex and losing her virginity. But I shrugged it off. Fast forward a month, she asks me out, and I say yes, and we've been dating for a little over a month.
But over the past few days, she's been bringing up sex more often, she even described a plan on how "our first time" would be, and now I am beginning to feel like I am being used for her to get sex out of me. Hell, she brings up wanting me to finger her, or have sex with her more than she does with date ideas. I am not ready for sex, nor do I want it yet (and no, im not waiting for marriage). I want to have fun with her, I want to enjoy moments with her and make memories. Even though she says she really likes me, it makes me wonder if the only reason she gives a damn about me, is because she wants to have sex. And if we did have sex, would she be bored of me and want to leave me? I wan't to bring this up but dont know how. I don't want to hurt her or have her thinking I don't like her, but I want her to know that sex isn't really something I want this early.
So does anyone have advice on how I can go about this? Is there anything I can say without hurting her or making her feel "unwanted"?
by the way, we are both freshly graduated from high school (Im 18, she's 19)
So basically I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks now. We've been on a few dates and only kissed twice. I wouldn't say it's a serious relationship, but it is exclusive. We met through mutual friends, and said mutual friend got us talking after finding out she really liked me. During this time one of the first questions she asked me is "if the opportunity presented itself, would you have sex", which I hesitated with in general because of my relaxed approach, and later said one of her dreams was to have sex and losing her virginity. But I shrugged it off. Fast forward a month, she asks me out, and I say yes, and we've been dating for a little over a month.
But over the past few days, she's been bringing up sex more often, she even described a plan on how "our first time" would be, and now I am beginning to feel like I am being used for her to get sex out of me. Hell, she brings up wanting me to finger her, or have sex with her more than she does with date ideas. I am not ready for sex, nor do I want it yet (and no, im not waiting for marriage). I want to have fun with her, I want to enjoy moments with her and make memories. Even though she says she really likes me, it makes me wonder if the only reason she gives a damn about me, is because she wants to have sex. And if we did have sex, would she be bored of me and want to leave me? I wan't to bring this up but dont know how. I don't want to hurt her or have her thinking I don't like her, but I want her to know that sex isn't really something I want this early.
So does anyone have advice on how I can go about this? Is there anything I can say without hurting her or making her feel "unwanted"?
by the way, we are both freshly graduated from high school (Im 18, she's 19)
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