Boyfriend repeatedly tried to force me to eat something and got mad when I said no?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend of 6 years and I just went grocery shopping. This time I paid for everything including some expensive cheeses and foods he wanted.

When we got home he tried some of the cheese and offered me some. I tried a piece but wasn't a big fan.

He then put together the cheese on a cracker with some fig spread and said "here, try this." I said no I'm fine, I'll just have the rest of my dinner. He then said "try this" probably over 10 more times putting it up to my lips and did not want to take no for an answer.

He then got very mad, shouting and accusing me of being xenophobic and that I need to be more open to trying different foods at my age. We literally ate Korean the other night but he said I didn't try everything so it's not good enough.

I'll admit I am picky but I literally tried his stupid cheese. As he is Asian, the cheese is closer to my culture anyway since I am European and the cheese was for him! I got upset and I said he should respect my decision and not try to keep shoving something in my face forcefully.

I am finding him increasingly overwhelming. Is this not controlling? He is seeing a counsellor tomorrow because he has been breaking under pressure at work but I don't know how to deal with this.

[Anonymous]

He stated..."you need to be more open to trying different foods at your age" but you DID try it. And you didn't like it.

If my boyfriend tried to pressure me into eating something I didn't want to eat, I'd take it off him and put it in the bin.

If his behaviour is out of character for him, then maybe it's because of his underlying issues. But whether it is or isn't caused by his underling issues, it's still no excuse to bully you

Try to reason with him. Tell him you tried it, you didn't like it. And you aren't gonna be force-fed. Be assertive with him and take control back by not giving into his manipulative controlling behaviour.

It's ridiculous how he responded. He obviously does hasve ssues. But don't give in to him because of that. Or you'll teach him to use his issues to his own advantage.

I'd tell him to never force me to do anything again or I couldn't stay in the relationship. Let him know you won't tolerate controlling manipulative behaviour. Setting boundaries will let him know how far he can go.

[mrfoox]

He was acting way out of line. It's good he's going to see someone. If he does something like this again down the line, seriously consider breaking up. We all have our bad days and moments, but when we start giving our loved ones passes left and right without consequences, they can develop some shit behavior. In the end you deserve an respectful partner

[MackToday]

That he called you "xenophobic" is a big red flag that you are dating a communist. Would you date a Nazi? It's about the same thing. Small wonder he has anger issues.

[Laozi]

Wait and see if councelling can help him. But even after that he behaves the same amd you can't bear him then you've to move on.

[PrincessDuckie]

Maybe he was upset you didn't like the cheese and wanted to share his love for it with you. Sometimes rejection can hurt. It sounds like he is stressed, probably over unrelated matters. It would be a good idea to try and talk to him about it! And next time, maybe just try the cheese to make him shut up lol

[InfobotsMom]

Yeah, I hate when people do that. You have the absolute right to dictate what enters your mouth. Tell him, firmly, no and don't accept his bullshit. If no doesn't work then try "I do not fucking want it". If he sulks, let him sulk.

[CookieWithChocolate]

As a french person I kinda laughted when you said he told you you are xenophobic sorry.
anyway, is it the first time he acts like this with you? Does he show controlling tendancies?

[proteus912]

I am a picky eater and my boyfriend doesn't do what yours did. Your boyfriend had no right to get angry because you didn't want to try a bit of cheese. He didn't need to overreact the way he did

[Levin]

It seems fucking nutty to be honest. Tell him to fuck off.

[indian_repunzel]

Next time try stuffing him with all the food he hates

[LonelyNights99]

Work on it and things if not then break up

[4mazing]

He sounds like Kim Jong-un