What's a good way to keep conversations strong between your significant other?

[taco_puppo]

[Obtuse]

It helps if you generate new material to talk about every day. You can do that just caring about what happens in your daily life, even the little things. It becomes a source of things to talk about. With my wife (been together 13 years) it's very easy because she's an avid reader. So if nothing else she always has something to talk about with respect to what she's reading, and that becomes a source of new conversation material each day. Meanwhile, I tend to be all over the place as far as my interests (history, philosophy, economics, films, etc), so I pick up things I always want to talk about with her.

In the process, it helps to not make the conversation so dry. It gets boring if it's like, "I read this today [regurgigate material almost verbatim]." At least I find that dull. It helps more to share what you think and feel about it. This way you're communicating not only new material to your partner but giving further insight into how you think, what interests you, what inspires you, maybe how it reminds you of some past experience from childhood. That also gives her a lot to work with to share in return about herself, her thoughts, feelings, experiences.

[Obtuse]

For us guys sometimes, I think it can help to exaggerate what you feel a bit. We can sometimes work our way towards apathy about lots of things like, "I ate pizza today for lunch. The end." That's kind of stiff and boring. So you can exaggerate that a bit, and try to legit feel more strongly about it like, "I ate pizza today. It was fucking awesome!" Something like that -- something more animated and enthusiastic.

[ScottStevens]

Do it often! That is talking to each other! Take a few moment s everyday to check in with each other. Five topics to chat about.

1. Show appreciation for something you SO did
2. Review the news of the day in your life
3. Ask about any new goals
4. Any confusing things happen between you two
5. Air any dirty laundry

Amazing how you stay close when you take a few moments to check in with each other on a more intimate basis then "so how did your day go".

[btbc92]

Just talk to them like normal everyday people. Don't try to overthink it. That's the best way to communicate when you just appreciate being in their presence and talking. Never try to over complicate things. Ask questions, be productive with your topics, raise concerns, talk about how you're doing. Inquire. Inspire. Be somebody to learn from.

[Anonymous]

Actually listen to their words and have thoughts on it so that keeps the convo going. Also ask them about their day how they are simple questions.

[mhunt08]

Keep trying to have conversation with each other late ar nite