Before quarantine I met this girl at karaoke. I had the feeling she liked me. Then quarantine started and I couldn’t meet her again. During quarantine we talked a couple of times trough social media but not that much. After quarantine we met up to hang out. We had a pretty good time. She was giving me signals the whole time. I was thinking ‘’next time we meet I will kiss her’’. Then after a hour of her giving me signals I thought ‘’fuck it’’ and kissed her. She started kissing me back really passionately. After a while we got some food and went back to my place to watch a movie. During the movie we started kissing/ hugging again. Then she started riding me while kissing. She could tell something was wrong and stopped and asked me what was going on. I wanted to continue but she wanted to know. I told her I was just nervous since it was my first time. Then she told me it was okay and that we could slow down. I agreed and went back to watching the movies. We tried again a couple of times but she could tell I was too nervous so she started hugging me and kissed me on the cheeks and said stuff like ‘’It’s okay, don’t worry about it’’. She was really nice about and made sure I was comfortable. After a while she went home she texted me and told me she had a really good time with me. The next day we made plans to hang out again.
A few days later I texted her and asked her how she was doing. She said she was not really doing that good. I asked what was wrong and she told me she had to think and needed some space. I told her I would give her some space, that she can talk to me whenever she wants and that I would like to see her again.
Maybe she feels confused/ guilty because she is starting a relationship with me while in a month I need to go back home (I study abroad) or maybe we went too fast and she needs some time to think about it.
This is confusing the hell out of me. First she seems in love with me then she needs space and time to think. I don't know what to do...
Girl seems in love with me, then needs time to think, what is happening?
yeah yeah alright. The usual female shit tests. "I need space I need time I need to think I need nah nah nah nah" shut the fuck up you just need to get fucked. You turned her off and now she wants to distance herself and find someone who will give her what she asks. Everything else is bullshit. Try to get into the mind of a young woman more or less your age. All she wants is to get fucked by a man who is a challenge. If that's not you she'll find someone else among her army of white knights.
Maybe you're right, maybe not. If this is the case, she would get it after being patient for a few days but to be honest I don't think this is the case. Why would she comfort me like that if she just wants to fuck? Why would she act like she is my girlfriend in public (hugging me, holding me hands etc..) if she just wants to fuck? Why would she be fine with slowing down (while I want to continue) if she just wants to fuck? Why go through the time and effort to build a relationship if all she wants is to fuck?
I don't think you're right. She is not this kind of person, I know because she is friends with one of my friends who has known her for quite some time and he told me what kind of person she is and that I need to be carefull to not hurt her.
But thanks for responding, even though it made me feel like shit even more...
If you expect a girl to be honest with you then you still have too much to learn. She will never tell you straight forward that you're a turn off. And if you get the impression that she's your partner and she wants something meaningful with you it only shows how much her manipulation tactics work on you. She will use you as her therapist and emotional tampon, maybe get some free meals on dates from you and then go fuck the first bigger better deal that will pass by her. I don't even need to meet her. Everything I get from you description tells me what an attention whore she is. She is one of those girls that message you "good night", maybe you message her back "I love you" and right after that she gets fucked in her room by a guy you don't know about.
Who hurt you? seriously, you really are that pessimistic about women? For the record. She didn't get free shit at all. I let her pay for all her own stuff lol.
She is not manipulating me, I can tell. I have been mentally abused by my step mom for years, I know how manipulation looks like, this isn't it. I only got the impression she acted like a girlfriend because she did, even though I knew we were not together yet. I think she is just this kind of person (somebody who really wants physical contact).
She didn't use me as therapist at all. She just enjoyed being with me. She hasn't texted me good night. She texted me back after she got back home to tell me she arrived safely and that she enjoyed our time together. I told her I enjoyed the day too.
Don't you think it maybe is about something else than sex or getting fucked? If this was the case wouldn't she just have pushed forward when she could get fucked? She could have said some shit that would have pushed me, but she didn't she wanted to take her time with me
"She just enjoyed being with me." good job becoming her therapist. And have fun with your heartbreak later. I was once at your age and was asking the same questions. I fucked my first slut when I was 23. And I had no one to give me the correct answers unlike you. But if you don't want to listen then go burn your hand and hopefully then you won't ever touch a hot stove again. The fact alone that you use the exact same shaming tactics women love to use at every given chance like "who hurt you" is indicative of a guy who is played by girls until he served his purpose.
I will make my own mistakes. Maybe you're right, maybe you're wrong. There is only one way to find out. I have to take the chance even though it might hurt after, it's better than wondering "what if" the rest of my life.
Maybe it's not about the relationship because you said you were nervous an she said it's fine we can slow down an she comforts you in those times So she know what she doing maybe it can be something personal or just stuff she's thinking about in general I wouldn't think about it too much but still text her from time to time just get the feels back if you know what I mean
Thanks for responding. Yeah my friends told me to relax and be patient. They told me that's how relationships with women work lol.
I don't know what you mean by ''still text her from time to time just get the feels back if you know what I mean''. Do you mean that I need to text her after some time, to check up on her/ to make sure she doesn't forget about me? Or do you mean I need to text her to try to get her interest again?
Love is a complicated issue, one minute you love someone, the second minute you feel different. I think she’s just taking her time to know what really feels for you
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